Lack of entitlement at idea of hitting on therapists

[Virgin101]

By this, I don't necessarily mean an actual shrink, more so anyone who's covered a degree in psychiatry/psychology, neither to I mean do try it on your own therapist!

But anyway - I have to admit, that if I wasn't inspired otherwise, I'd be inclined to think that a psychologist is off
limits for me. At the back of my mind, I'd have thought something like "maybe sometime in the future, when I'm older, wealthier, more experienced, etc" so that I could justify such flirtation. Silly of me... but when it comes to girls, no one should be off limits.

Let me explain why hitting on such a lady would seem little intimidating: To me, I'd feel as if she'd know exactly what
tricks I'm trying to pull, as well as my thoughts, and my insecurities indicated by my body language movements. So I'd
fear that I'd feel completely naked, so to speak. And since such a person would be so well composed, I'd have no idea
whether they're laughing at me inside or not!

But then if I saw ordinary confident guy successfully pull such a lady, I'd think to myself "hmm, she's only human I guess. Was it self judgement that stopped me.... oh yeah!" It don't matter what she has learned about human behavior patterns, after a bit of drink, human instinct will take over and she'll make the same mistakes all other women do. Right? Perhaps I just credit people with too much intelligence sometimes?

It doesn't mean her degree was any harder to complete than someone who studied accounting for example! It's not like she thinks she's superior because she completed a degree that gives her insights into other peoples behaviors! And more
importantly, it's not like other guys are going to be more intimidated by her because she covered such a degree.

I guess my question is, has anyone else here felt such a lack of entitlement around such woman?

 

[Inbocca]

I totally get unnerved when approaching women who are psych majors. In addition to being women (naturally tuned in to social dealings), the fact that they've studied up on the mind makes me feel like they can read me like a badly-written poem.

Still, think about it like this: imagine you go out with a girl and learn she's a surgeon or a teacher or a scientist or something. It might be intimidating thinking she's smarter than you, but it really won't make that much of a difference unless you make it. Maybe the psychologist just wants to meet a cool guy and take a break from work and chill, have a drink, maybe get laid. She's got needs just like other girls.

 

[Richard]

I think you're looking at psych majors in the wrong light, buddy. I'm a psych major, myself, and I'm around psych majors who are women all the time and they're all pretty bubbly and open and nothing at all like you're describing.

Do you know how exhausting it would be to have that psychologist switch on all the time? Holy fuck would that be a mess. Like all other people, at the end of the day, we want to be able to kick back, relax, and be idiots with cool people and if you happen to be a cool person, to her, then she's no different than another woman.

What stands out to me are these things, though, are "Lack of Entitlement" and "After a bit of drink."

Those two things, to me, are red flags about how you think about women and about yourself.

Anyhow, women who are psych majors will often become your biggest supporters and are capable of inspiring you to pursue great heights. Absolutely nothing to be intimidated about and you're only doing yourself a disservice by neglecting to approach them and date them.

-Richard

 

[Hue]

Virgin,

Let me explain why hitting on such a lady would seem little intimidating: To me, I'd feel as if she'd know exactly what
tricks I'm trying to pull, as well as my thoughts, and my insecurities indicated by my body language movements. So I'd
fear that I'd feel completely naked, so to speak. And since such a person would be so well composed, I'd have no idea
whether they're laughing at me inside or not!

Yo lol being a psychologist/therapist (and a licensed counselor isn't necessarily a psychologist) doesn't mean you can know exactly what people are thinking or read peoples' insecurities.

People that have lots of social experience and high EQ will probably be better at having somewhat of an idea of, say, a person's motives, possibly, and even that is based on that person's own intuition/worldview/thought process.

If a girl was able to read me that well I'd actually be pretty damn attracted to her intelligence. Sensitive girls can teach you things.

Your fearful perspective of such a lady is probably just in your head bruddah, but that's just my thoughts..


Hueman

 

[Virgin101]

Thanks Richard

Those two things, to me, are red flags about how you think about women and about yourself.

Absolutely nothing to be intimidated about and you're only doing yourself a disservice by neglecting to approach them and date them.

-Richard

There's a difference between 'neglecting approaching' and 'experiencing a lack of entitlement'. The latter can't be solved over night.

women who are psych majors will often become your biggest supporters and are capable of inspiring you to pursue great heights

I've no probs with that, assuming I've already slept with them. Otherwise the statement would be a bit ironic!

 

[Virgin101]

If a girl was able to read me that well I'd actually be pretty damn attracted to her intelligence. Sensitive girls can teach you things.

Well of course - but would that make her more likely to sleep with you?! You're obliging nature would kick.