This is the story of what happened last night at a latino bar.
Short version:
I went to a latino bar with my columbian friends who brought their female friends. One of them was showing a lot of interest and we danced really close for a bit, then she comes back and dances with another guy. After that a bunch of their friends come and she dances with one guy and they start to kiss on the dancefloor. I'd like to understand what happened.
Longer version:
Intro
My Colombian friend Ralph invited me to join him and a bunch of other colombians at a latino bar last night, the kind where it's very crowded, everybody speaks spanish and people are dancing salsa and stuff. Once I got there, I went to the signal-free basement where the "dancefloor" is, and I see Ralph dancing with a chick that I know, then I go to find the rest of them. There was John, Ralph's friend whom I also know, Maria whom I also know since last year, and 3 other girls I didn't know.
Start of the night
I started speaking to one of the girls (actually not the one I was most interested in, but she was standing the closest to me) and we danced some salsa (with what I remember from my very basic skills lol). Then I decided to go back up to get a signal because I was expecting a message. There I find Maria with one of the hotter chicks, Emma.
IOI
I talk to them a little bit (in my beginner level spanish), and then a song comes on and Emma grabs my hand, wanting to dance. Then she stops and says let's go downstairs. We all go down to the basement, she puts her beer on the table and we start dancing salsa. Well my dancing was awful, especially since I was dancing with a colombian, but then I switch into close position, which is where I feel more comfortable
. She got even closer to me and we danced for bit. I told her that I prefer batchata over salsa, she laughed and then said we will definitely dance on a batchata song. Then they start putting reggaeton music and we danced quite heavily there. Afterwards came the batchata song and again I was escalating, but not very heavily. We were dancing very closely and so on.
After that we sat down, talked for a bit, then she had to go to the bathroom. I stayed there chatting with her friends, until the people who had reserved the table we were sitting at came, so we had to get up, and everyone had to put their jackets in the coatroom. As we were getting up she comes back, we tell her what's going on, and then I tell her I'm going up anyway and ask her if she wants to come with me. She gets her beer, I take her hand and lead her through the crowds to the upper floor. There she decides to step outside to smoke or something with Maria. Since I wasn't wearing my jacket I didn't want to go out so I stayed in with the other girls. A few minutes later, she and Maria come in, with a guy, and she takes him by the arm to dance.
Getting out of hand
She goes and dances with the guy so I dance with Maria. I wasn't gonna get needy or anything. Then the reggaeton music comes back on, and I take her hand and dance with her for like 2 songs, and even though it was close like before, I felt that she was more distant, and less engaged. I was thinking about what to do after we stopped dancing together when another group of colombians that they knew arrive, then one of the guys takes her hand to dance, 2 minutes later they were kissing on the dancefloor while dancing. This is where I officially gave up trying to understand the situation. I stayed a bit longer (my friends had gone long before) then I left.
Analysis
As far as I can tell, she was either very horny and constantly looking for someone to end the night with, or she was just doing this for the validation. Either way, I don't think I could have done the escalation any faster. What do you think?
Short version:
I went to a latino bar with my columbian friends who brought their female friends. One of them was showing a lot of interest and we danced really close for a bit, then she comes back and dances with another guy. After that a bunch of their friends come and she dances with one guy and they start to kiss on the dancefloor. I'd like to understand what happened.
Longer version:
Intro
My Colombian friend Ralph invited me to join him and a bunch of other colombians at a latino bar last night, the kind where it's very crowded, everybody speaks spanish and people are dancing salsa and stuff. Once I got there, I went to the signal-free basement where the "dancefloor" is, and I see Ralph dancing with a chick that I know, then I go to find the rest of them. There was John, Ralph's friend whom I also know, Maria whom I also know since last year, and 3 other girls I didn't know.
Start of the night
I started speaking to one of the girls (actually not the one I was most interested in, but she was standing the closest to me) and we danced some salsa (with what I remember from my very basic skills lol). Then I decided to go back up to get a signal because I was expecting a message. There I find Maria with one of the hotter chicks, Emma.
IOI
I talk to them a little bit (in my beginner level spanish), and then a song comes on and Emma grabs my hand, wanting to dance. Then she stops and says let's go downstairs. We all go down to the basement, she puts her beer on the table and we start dancing salsa. Well my dancing was awful, especially since I was dancing with a colombian, but then I switch into close position, which is where I feel more comfortable
. She got even closer to me and we danced for bit. I told her that I prefer batchata over salsa, she laughed and then said we will definitely dance on a batchata song. Then they start putting reggaeton music and we danced quite heavily there. Afterwards came the batchata song and again I was escalating, but not very heavily. We were dancing very closely and so on. After that we sat down, talked for a bit, then she had to go to the bathroom. I stayed there chatting with her friends, until the people who had reserved the table we were sitting at came, so we had to get up, and everyone had to put their jackets in the coatroom. As we were getting up she comes back, we tell her what's going on, and then I tell her I'm going up anyway and ask her if she wants to come with me. She gets her beer, I take her hand and lead her through the crowds to the upper floor. There she decides to step outside to smoke or something with Maria. Since I wasn't wearing my jacket I didn't want to go out so I stayed in with the other girls. A few minutes later, she and Maria come in, with a guy, and she takes him by the arm to dance.
Getting out of hand
She goes and dances with the guy so I dance with Maria. I wasn't gonna get needy or anything. Then the reggaeton music comes back on, and I take her hand and dance with her for like 2 songs, and even though it was close like before, I felt that she was more distant, and less engaged. I was thinking about what to do after we stopped dancing together when another group of colombians that they knew arrive, then one of the guys takes her hand to dance, 2 minutes later they were kissing on the dancefloor while dancing. This is where I officially gave up trying to understand the situation. I stayed a bit longer (my friends had gone long before) then I left.
Analysis
As far as I can tell, she was either very horny and constantly looking for someone to end the night with, or she was just doing this for the validation. Either way, I don't think I could have done the escalation any faster. What do you think?
