Learning empathy very difficult

[readjusting]

If the title sounds negative to you, I don't intend it that way. But I found that empathy is the most difficult thing to learn.

There is already an article: Can You Develop More Empathy? Science Suggests "Yes"

• Why is it this way? If something is a way, there must be a reason for it.
• What other ways could it be? What are possible alternatives?
• How does this interact with the other things I know and believe?
• What is this person feeling right now? What emotions are she experiencing?
• What do those emotions feel like if I experience them myself?
• Why does this person act the way he or she does? What's the root cause?
• Is this person trusting of me? What would I feel like if I was her and I violated that trust?
• Is this person paranoid? What would I feel like if I was as paranoid as him, and what would I be afraid that I am going to do?

I can guess the answer, but will my answer correct? Last year to build more reference empathy, I lived with roommates from different backgrounds: a single mom, a medical student, a business owner, a black cook, and most recently a pregnant woman. But is "true empathy" (knowing their motivations) possible at all?

I assume that empathy is necessary to get the unicorns (9-10 range). The great thing about Girls Chase is that it is a comprehensive system, coupled with real-world feedback, I can learn the behaviors, strategies, and what fundamentals to improve. I think with systematic improvement I can become good with girls in a couple years. Ideally I can also improve my empathy, so in a couple years when I'm refined and my empathy was also good, I can become legendary.

But I also feel like empathy is innate. I was born with no empathy and found the necessity to systematically learn it.