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Length of time between 1st and 2nd date, too long?

mystery2014

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Went out with a girl last Saturday, had a good night out, went back to hers, where she tried some LMR but I powered through, had my finger in her, was about to take it to the next stage when I received a phonecall. It was from my mum and there was an emergency at home with my sister and well I had to leave there and then. Worst timing ever!

Anyway we message next day and she says "last night was fun hopefully we can go out again :) " so we arrange to do something in 3 weeks time when I finish work for my holidays so we can blaze up together. I tell her we should go out again before that though, her response "im free weekdays after 6pm and weekends so I will leave it to you to plan ;)"

I send another saying "only day im free this week is saturday after i finish work at 7 but im also working on sunday at 10am, so we could go out for a bit then watch a movie at yours?" She simply replies "lets try next weekend then".

Firstly I made a mistake, I should have just said "Saturday, 8pm" then sorted out the work plans myself without mentioning it. I have now messaged her saying "Cool, Thursday good? Off for next 3 days after that"

Still waiting for a response...she seemed to be taking a lot longer to reply then she did previously. If we meet up again on THursday it will be 12 days between dates...is that not too long? Shall I try to still make a plan for tomorrow (Saturday) even thought she already dismissed my idea and said next weekend?

Ps. this girl travels around a lot and will be leaving in a few months so has already said she doesnt want anything serious due do that. She said since she had been in the country (about 15 months) she had only slept with 1 guy...but she ended that because he got too into her. This suits me perfectly as I want the same thing, but Im a lil bit worried that if I wait too long I wont get the lay. Feel like she is showing less interest due to taking longer to reply and not saying yes to meeting on Sat but maybe I am overthinking as usual? lol
 
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Nova

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sometimes you can't help but arrange something in 3 weeks time (work, long distances) ect - but yeh, 3 weeks is way to long if you can help it. you kill everything off if you wait 3 weeks, your not managing to build upon last time type of thing.
 

mystery2014

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Nova said:
sometimes you can't help but arrange something in 3 weeks time (work, long distances) ect - but yeh, 3 weeks is way to long if you can help it. you kill everything off if you wait 3 weeks, your not managing to build upon last time type of thing.
Well she replied with "Sure, sounds good!" about meeting up on Thursday so will be 12 days total...

Not sure if I should just not text again until Thursday or try and get some flirting going over text.
 
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