Letting go

[themainattraction]

Hey everyone, I've been here a couple times to discuss issues with a girl from summer and also my ex from last year. And to give a LR that was my first lay after my ex, needless to say I was super happy.
Ive hooked up with 4 girls since my ex, and I thought I was good so I decided to try to be friends with her. Big mistake; I fell right back into my old emotions and she was seeing someone. Blah blah blah, its been 3 months since I reconnected with her. She's told me she wants to be alone because thatll make her happy. But there were times where we held hands, cuddled in the theater, but nothing more than that, and that kept me hoping.

But she still has feelings for another guy. They're not together anymore but still, she has feelings for him. He was the guy that was there to comfort her while she was depressed over me.

Now I'm in a place where I can keep trying and hurting with a small chance of getting her back or I can let go and work on myself and try to be happy. Im torn because I vowed to fight for her until it became too painful, and it's almost to that point, but I'm not sure if I'm giving up too easily.

A little backstory, she found me while I was a broken man a year and a half ago. She gave me everything and I returned little, I knew it was wrong because I just wasn't in the state to be with someone so I let her go. now I'm ready, but I caused her too much pain.

So I'm just in a lost place. I want to be happy but I want to keep fighting, and I can't do both. I'd have to let go completely, spill my guts, and move on in order to recover from the pain ive caused her and myself and to get over the guilt. I just feel like shit about it and can't forgive myself. It's starting to affect my studies and my activities. I'm starting to feel lifeless.

So yeah, I don't know what I'm really asking here... just any advice on what to do in this situation. I don't know how much longer I can go on without cutting her off, yet I'm convincing myself that if I don't give up I'll win the greatest happiness I can think of

thanks

 

[trashKENNUT]

themainattraction,

A little backstory, she found me while I was a broken man a year and a half ago. She gave me everything and I returned little, I knew it was wrong because I just wasn't in the state to be with someone so I let her go. now I'm ready, but I caused her too much pain.

So I'm just in a lost place. I want to be happy but I want to keep fighting, and I can't do both. I'd have to let go completely, spill my guts, and move on in order to recover from the pain ive caused her and myself and to get over the guilt. I just feel like shit about it and can't forgive myself. It's starting to affect my studies and my activities. I'm starting to feel lifeless.

So yeah, I don't know what I'm really asking here... just any advice on what to do in this situation. I don't know how much longer I can go on without cutting her off, yet I'm convincing myself that if I don't give up I'll win the greatest happiness I can think of

My ex was there for me when i was progressing my dance career. She was there for me when things were bad and was supportive.

I get what you mean.

Leaving her will be my best advice. i can tell you this.

Zac

 

[themainattraction]

Thanks. I was almost at the point when I was gonna let go
But I decided to change my focus. I'll go out with other girls, I'll definitely need to start cold approaching, but I won't forget about my ex just yet.
She's a wonderful person and is depressed right now about that other guy. As much as it hurts, I'm gonna be there for her because I remember when I was most recently depressed, I just wanted someone, anyone, to be there for me.
And yeah, I broke her heart before. But she forgave me. I still haven't forgiven myself so I guess this will be my way to redeem myself. I wont look at it from a perspective of trying to win her back, I'll look at it as just trying to be there for her. I won't get anything out of it except maybe a lot of pain, but I cant let myself ditch her in a time of need. When the time comes that she's okay again and I can no longer handle the pain of not being with her, then I can let go.
Maybe not what this site preaches on how to get back an ex or how to win over a girl...but with this one, I cant help it. And who knows, maybe she'll remember this down the line.

Here's to happiness