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Hey guys,
Currently working on getting out of a slap in the face from life. The weather here has been super cold and its snowed so many days, its been hard to go out and approach. Just take note I usually approach at my university (since I spend most of my time there between work and classes).
Anyways, this past week/two I've only approached a handful of girls. Plus classes have been super busy (so my little free time has been taken up). I got some success with a girl from work (see my field reports) and I've got one date on hold (we have to reschedule) for this week.
The big slap in the face though is that I was reported to an office on my campus involved with local police. Apparently I had been seen around too much on campus and they had gotten three (ridiculous) reports from three girls over the course of a few months that I had to have an hour long discussion (lecture) with a detective and some other people. Two of the reports were this: a girl I had just approached and talked to said she felt like I was following her after we parted ways (and after a bit of walking) I turned around and started walking the same way as her. The other was that a girl said she felt like I was hanging outside of her housing for too long (which I don't even do so I'm not even sure if this was an accurate report or not). I don't think they told me the third. None of the girls wanted to escalate the issue.
Without going into too much detail, the way this "neutral" office on campus handled this really rocked me. They were super vague, gave no evidence that I was actually the accused, no details regarding the incidents, and just had a "talk" (hour long interrogation) with me about why I'm on campus, what I do, who I approach, how I approach them, if I persist past certain points, if I pick up on social cues, etc. Of course, they were just covering their bases. But it really shook me because I'm doing nothing illegal and I have a valid reason to be on campus all day. The actual police being involved shook me.
Anyways, the talk ended up fine and I'm glad its over and I'm ready to move on. But it really kicked down my motivation to talk to girls so I've been slowly rebuilding myself back to my same old. Of course, I'm going to be more aware of how long/many times I'm seen in one area on campus (our campus is small - you can walk across the whole campus in about 20 minutes). This shouldn't happen again and it was really just a kick in the face. Many people I see around campus on a daily basis are more than happy to see me and I've met many people who approach me first because they just see me on campus often and want to know who I am (plus I get seen often talking with girls or surrounded by small groups). Our student population is also not large (around 12,000).
All in all, it was a slap in the face that was unexpected and it just kicked me down a notch. With the awful weather, its been a crap shoot approaching. Any tips? Currently, I think I'm going to just take the time and work on myself (I want to work on my fashion, building my hobbies and a social group around them, my speaking skills, other fundamentals). Anyone have anything like this happen to them (a shaking experience that they just had to work through)?
- NBW
Currently working on getting out of a slap in the face from life. The weather here has been super cold and its snowed so many days, its been hard to go out and approach. Just take note I usually approach at my university (since I spend most of my time there between work and classes).
Anyways, this past week/two I've only approached a handful of girls. Plus classes have been super busy (so my little free time has been taken up). I got some success with a girl from work (see my field reports) and I've got one date on hold (we have to reschedule) for this week.
The big slap in the face though is that I was reported to an office on my campus involved with local police. Apparently I had been seen around too much on campus and they had gotten three (ridiculous) reports from three girls over the course of a few months that I had to have an hour long discussion (lecture) with a detective and some other people. Two of the reports were this: a girl I had just approached and talked to said she felt like I was following her after we parted ways (and after a bit of walking) I turned around and started walking the same way as her. The other was that a girl said she felt like I was hanging outside of her housing for too long (which I don't even do so I'm not even sure if this was an accurate report or not). I don't think they told me the third. None of the girls wanted to escalate the issue.
Without going into too much detail, the way this "neutral" office on campus handled this really rocked me. They were super vague, gave no evidence that I was actually the accused, no details regarding the incidents, and just had a "talk" (hour long interrogation) with me about why I'm on campus, what I do, who I approach, how I approach them, if I persist past certain points, if I pick up on social cues, etc. Of course, they were just covering their bases. But it really shook me because I'm doing nothing illegal and I have a valid reason to be on campus all day. The actual police being involved shook me.
Anyways, the talk ended up fine and I'm glad its over and I'm ready to move on. But it really kicked down my motivation to talk to girls so I've been slowly rebuilding myself back to my same old. Of course, I'm going to be more aware of how long/many times I'm seen in one area on campus (our campus is small - you can walk across the whole campus in about 20 minutes). This shouldn't happen again and it was really just a kick in the face. Many people I see around campus on a daily basis are more than happy to see me and I've met many people who approach me first because they just see me on campus often and want to know who I am (plus I get seen often talking with girls or surrounded by small groups). Our student population is also not large (around 12,000).
All in all, it was a slap in the face that was unexpected and it just kicked me down a notch. With the awful weather, its been a crap shoot approaching. Any tips? Currently, I think I'm going to just take the time and work on myself (I want to work on my fashion, building my hobbies and a social group around them, my speaking skills, other fundamentals). Anyone have anything like this happen to them (a shaking experience that they just had to work through)?
- NBW
