Long distance ex girlfriend comes back. what to do?

[Dutchjimmy]

Hi Folks,

this is my story.
I live in holland and a year ago i met a nice girl from Mexico(back then she studied in Ireland).
we ended up having a long distance relationship and started to visit each other every 4-6 weeks. because from dublin to holland is not that far and expensive.
everything went really well, we had good times when we were together, we loved each other and talked about our future, kids,marriage and she said, she would come to holland to live here.
of course i was really happy, but then off course the time came when she needed to go to Mexico again. before she did we lived together in holland for a month, this went really good and we connected more and more.
then she left to go back to mexicoin july, very sad, but i was planning on going there in end of august, so we had something to look out for. we facetimed a lot and whatsapped everyday.
Then i visited her in Cancun, met her mother, and had a really nice 2 weeks. we still discussed marriage and kids and she would study some things to come to holland.
unfortunatly i had to go back home.. was a nice goodbye, but we knew we would see each other again.....

the next few weeks we whatsapped a lot, and called/facetimed a few times a week, so things went very well. things like "i love you" "i love you to" etc

but then after a few weeks, she got a little distant and was not sure about our relationship. i knew this came because of the distance, i couldnt give her the love she needed.
things got more and more difficutl, i tried to explain her things will be fine, she came up with same lame excuses why she didnt like me anymore and this kept going on a few weeks untill she finaly deciced to end it.
She broke up with me, but she still wanted to be friends...
i said i respect her decision, but also i said, we should try it.. she was confused and didnt know what to do.
the days/weeks after that i gave her some space, a little no contact, but every few days she texted me and didn't want to be rude, so i responded..

we broke up a month ago now, i gave her space and changed my lifestyle(doing the opposite of the things she didnt like about me)
posted on facebook that i went out a lot and have fun. basicly, making her a little jealous.. i'm also moving to another city, a city we talked living once she got to live here. i decided to go anyway without her.

the weekend ( a drunk moment) i thanked her for changing my life.. and apperently that helped because after the weekend she texted me thats she feels weird we are not together anymore and that she was thinking of me and she was sad.
and then she said she was thinking of seeing me in januari (its now november) she really wanted to see me again and even she has no money she would try to get a ticket and come here.
but she said very clear. I WILL COME AS A FRIEND, not as your girlfriend. of course i agreed with that. i played it very cool..
So to be clear, she will travel 6500 miles to see me as a 'friend'..

so now my question to you guys is:

DO you think i still have a shot with this girl??? and how do i play it... first be her friend and later try to see if we can work things out again.
play hard to get?? i still love her, and i know she loves me to..

i'm allready reading relationship rewind from ryan rivers, so thats helps a lot.

but hopefully you can give me some good advice and ideas,

What to do and what NOT to do?


thanks for you answers/advices..

(ps sorry for my english, its not my native language.)

regards,

JD

 

[Whizzy]

What happened when you guys were face to face in the past, meaning kissing sex etc? If she is willing to fly out just to see you then she is more than likely still into you so don't let this opportunity slide if nothing was done previously. Heck right when you get back to your place man handle kiss her and seal the deal mate

 

[Dutchjimmy]

Hi Whizzy,

Thanks for you reply. To answer your question:

When we were together things were good.
Of course we had our ups and downs, but mainly ups.
Sex was good, could be better. But we could work on that.
I never had the feeling she would brake up when we were together
We talked about marriage and have kids. She only
Started hesitating when she went back to mexico and
The distance was to far this time i guess..
But never the less, i'm glad i get a second chance to try.
Hopefully we can work things out.. First i was 100% sure wanted to get
Back with her, no a little less(75%)
She said she couldn't promise anything right now.
I hope i can win her back this time. I'll try to chance for her.
But i'll guess we'll see in januari how things work out.


Thanks again.