What's new

Long game/slow game on workers eg subway store, dvd store etc

Rain

Tool-Bearing Hominid
Tool-Bearing Hominid
Joined
Jun 13, 2016
Messages
534
A few years ago I asked a woman out who worked at a subway store, and she said no but maybe next time.

Today, I purchased a dvd and asked the worker out, and
she said she was busy with work right now
I said ok we can just keep it to dvds!
she said 'feel free to come back to finish your story' or something[after her response to my story, I said there was more to it and asked her out].

Can slow game/long game work like this? From a technical perspective, you could argue you'd have not much emotional momentum.
On the other hand, if you did talk to them a second time or something, maybe it would be like a social thing vs just some random, and maybe persistence could pay off.

I am aware they might just be being nice when they say 'maybe next time' eg it's not necessarily meant to be taken literally. The second exmaple might be more legitimate.

How might you go about this. Would you wait how long? Next day? A few days? A week? How long would risk them forgetting you?

Say you go there a few days later, would you chat a bit and ask them out again eg two interactions in a row asking them out? Or would you go there once every few days and not ask them out until like the fifth interaction so maybe they know you better and it's less random?
 
Last edited:

Zoro

Cro-Magnon Man
Cro-Magnon Man
Joined
Dec 25, 2012
Messages
1,124
Disclaimer: I have no experience with this, but this is how I would go about it.

If you're a regular and you see her often, you flirt with her when you're there and basically give her a taste of what you're like. If you're trying too hard I could see that being a bad thing, but that doesn't mean you can't be persistent. Just have to be persistent in an attractive way, meaning not begging her, not insisting too much, but instead being playful.

I think the thing that fucks guys up a lot, with out them knowing, is over thinking things. If it all feels premeditated, it's a bit uncomfortable, but if you're just feeling loose and free, and invite her to something, that is just a better vibe.

On the other hand, if she feels like she understands why you're into her, and she feels like there is a good reason to go out with you, and you can make those things clear, that would probably be a way to game the situation.
 

Rain

Tool-Bearing Hominid
Tool-Bearing Hominid
Joined
Jun 13, 2016
Messages
534
If you're a regular and you see her often, you flirt with her when you're there and basically give her a taste of what you're like.
I'm not a regular at the dvd store. I've been thinking of previous examples of this.

Well, I did ask out a woman who was the maccas drive through late shift eg 10pm or 1am. This was a few years ago, I must have gone through there like five times over a few weeks if I remember correctly before asking her out, I did get her number and we did hangout , but nothing happened. That's an example of me being a regular somewhere.

There is a difference though. I didn't ask maccas drivethrough worker out on the first meet. Where as the dvd example above, I asked out on the first meet so its "more random" and less familiar than the maccas one. I don't have any examples of being turned down but maybe next time or busy with work but come back and tell your story.

Either way, I will go back to the dvd store, they did have another dvd I wanted to buy anyway, so I can see if anything happens or not.
 
you miss 100% of the shots you don't take
Top