Looking for the ultimate A-Z guide on becoming the best possible lover

[tomsawyer]

Does anybody have some recommendations? There must be a huge market for this, so I would be surprised if there isn't something out there.

I saw David Shade's book recommended and am almost through with that, but honestly it hasn't been very helpful. Most of the book is composed of emails he has received from past readers. He has some other products but it seems like his site hasn't been updated in a decade.

I'm sure there are a bunch of random articles and videos out there but I'd prefer something more structured. Ideally something with video (I'm a visual learner) covering everything from getting the girl in the mood to the actual sex.

The last few relationships I've been in were with inexperienced girls. I found a way to make them cum during sex (once) and that was enough for them to adore me and we were both satisfied.

Now I'm finding that this isn't enough to retain the hottest girls that I want to see again. I get a feeling that the earlier sex happens, the better your skills need to be to keep girls around. If you present yourself as a player/lover type and then aren't the best (or close to it) they've ever had then they're not going to stick around.

 

[Beam]

Read "Sex God Method" by Daniel Rose

 

[tomsawyer]

Read it. Seemed to be mostly about dirty talk from what I remember. I'll take another look.

 

[___M]

I’m still working my way, but these I found useful.
Sex God Method
KinkUniversity
And this site - https://sexpositions.club/positions/108.html
The way of superior man - go to Last Longer section, useful breathing technic.
Stamena app - for kegal, reverse kegal practice.

That’s all from me, want to hear from others too because I don’t think this topic have A-Z guide from one site or one book. You have to constantly find new things to learn from many sources. Hope these help.

 

[ulrich]

Read it. Seemed to be mostly about dirty talk from what I remember. I'll take another look.

Dirty talk and fantasies are surprisingly more important than sex positions.

 

[Beck Bass]

Sex God Method

I did read part of it and everything seemed sound for the most part, backs up a lot of my own experience with the girls that came the hardest with me. The toughest thing about sex it's that it's really mostly psychological, and to fuck a girl "brains" out you REALLY have to get in her head, like have an emotional/mental effect on her. With some girls this is mostly physical, because they are hedonistic themselves, but most girls need to be really confortable with you to be able to have great sex with you, and this mostly doesn't have to do much with the sex itself, though my experience is limited, compared to most guys here, I think.

 

[MrJ]

In addition to Sex God Method which I have not read but was told I basically recite when giving advice to well informed friends, and I scanned over it and seem to agree. I would add HydroMax pumps for girth increases and Phallosan Forte plus for length extension.

 

[MrJ]

Read it. Seemed to be mostly about dirty talk from what I remember. I'll take another look.

If thats what u got you missed it, its about setting a dynamic and getting inside her head. Creating another world. Like I said I havent read it but when giving out insights to a group a dude could not stop repeating the parallels I was drawing. I have the PDF but too much too read as it is. Was a PUA vacation in SD, first and only, but good times and booty was clapped.

 

[R3M0T3]

Me I'm 5kg away from been in good shape. I'm 75kg but wanna be 70kg ripped. Shave all bodyhair. Short haircut very short. and number 4 beard.

Then fuck these girls or guys fucking fast and hard. Get on PreP if ya doing it with transexual off duty escorts. eat their pussy or suck their dicks like its chocolate. Just fucking love fucking them. suck their asses. chocolate starfishes are good for ya.

 

[Regal Tiger]

Some awesome recommendations, including Sex God Method which sent my personal results to the stratosphere!

Rather than recommending other sources, I'd say a few different mindsets that have helped me personally:

1) focus on your own pleasure, and start small with new women if you don't know their boundaries

This was something that was a big sticking point for me for a while and honestly helped quite a bit. Sometimes I'd be so into doing different things to make her have a great time that I wouldn't even be able to get hard myself lol.

Try to think about things that you enjoy/think you'd enjoy. Give them a try (if it's something beyond the vanilla, always start small. So for spanking you'd just do some light taps. With choking you'd just baaarely apply some pressure (ALWAYS TO THE SIDES OF HER NECK, NEVER THE FRONT BECAUSE THAT'S HOW YOU ACCIDENTALLY KILL PEOPLE).

I've yet to meet a woman that didn't like being dominated in some way, shape or form. For some women it goes to extremes in that they love being slapped around and even degraded a little bit. For others being dominated meant being ordered around or physically moved to how you want them.

Experiment with what you like and then baby step women into it. If a woman seems to ignore something you do or ask of her, I'd personally just move on and then ask about it later. It's possible she didn't hear/understand at the time or it could be that she's just not into it and doesn't like it. This plays a big role in dirty talk and etc.

As far as the physical stuff goes, she'll tell you that she doesn't like it once you kind of cross her tolerance threshold. Which is another reason why you start small. But again, if you're paying attention you can kind of notice her mood drop if she is highly against something.


When you go through the Sex God Method you'll notice how much variety plays a role in great sex. Which is true, but in my humble opinion you'll want to focus on light domination (for most women, there are some freaks out there who will make damn sure you know how freaky they are to start off heavy) on the first go-round. Then just kinda explore from there. Switching it up as you please.

Plus, focusing on what you like will make the sex better for you and I can't think of too many women that don't enjoy getting their man off. And there are some women who will have an orgasm themselves as you get close to cumming.

2) get in the habit of paying attention to how she reacts to things

If she's not reacting at all it's entirely likely that she's inexperienced and hasn't gotten used to letting herself go. But barring those girls (who just need time and experience) most women will react when you do something they like.

For this you can start off by learning about erogenous zones. That way you can get a baseline of how the girl reacts, if at all. Once you see how she reacts when you do something that she really likes you can start experimenting from there. So if she reacts then you can make a mental note (okay she's the type that likes blank).

That's how I stumbled onto how into being slapped one of my ex's was. At first it was just a playful thing but I noticed right away that there was a STRONG reaction. Like, we weren't even about to get sexual and I just playfully told her "am I gonna have to slap you" and after she said maybe I just lightly (and I can't emphasize lightly enough since we'd never done it, always start small) tapped her.

Her entire demeanor changed and it was immediately on.


When I type it out like that it seems kind of obvious, but for a lot of guys it's really not. Us guys have an amazing ability to second guess even the most obvious of shit lol.

And then of course not all women will have such a strong reaction to things.



So yeah, that'd be my two main recommendations.