Losing a nice guy image

[Verisimilitude]

Despite trying to be a guy who has an edge, I constantly have girls telling me that I'm a "nice guy". How do I lose this image? On a kind of related note, I have who I want to be planned out in my head, I just have trouble ACTING like that guy. Any advice? Thanks!

 

[Altimeter]

You know what. Fuck the geek's that turn into jerks thinking they'll get women.

THe whole concept of 'nice guy' is wrong. Be a nice person. but they should change 'nice guy' into 'pushover guy' or 'weak guy'

whatever.





I get mad when I read these things about nice people. Anyways I think if you have your true self imagined in your head, you need to take action.

My advice, depends on 'acting' like that guy. I mean you can try hanging out with the people you wish to be like, so you can 'act' like them when you want to.
If you watched James Bond movies, I'll be honest even Sean Connery had problems getting the women he wanted.

People don't just give great lines like in the movies, not to mention life is pretty different compared to movies.

One example I'd go with would be, "what would Bond do in that situation". Not everyone can pull off a certain act since we're all individuals. We can only interpret it. If our character and image lets us deliver the line perfectly. Doing so would require certain personal traits. Not everyone can deliver a line like, say "You smell like a lavender, I simply want to devour you". If you sound or act funny, it won't make sense.

If you're really insistent on acting the certain part, I'd suggest getting an acting counselor.

 

[Verisimilitude]

This isn't a fuck the nice guy thread. Because even though people think "Oh he's such a nice guy" deep down, I'm not. I'm manipulative, angry, and mean. I'm NOT a nice person, I just act like it, because that's what I thought I "should be". So when people think I'm nice, and I act in a mean way, they get hurt. Or when I try to have a one night stand, its "I can't believe he'd do this, he's so nice". So I end up losing people. Or worse, I turn the anger inward, which results in me lashing out at people.

The reason why I'm "acting like a bad boy" isn't because I want to be bad, its because I'd rather be bad and true to myself and be nice to the people who deserve it rather than act nice to everyone and hurt the people who I'm close to or end up emotionally messing myself up. Better to let the real me out all the time than only when I'm in a crisis.

If you're a nice guy go with it. But I'm not and it is killing my relationships with other people. Make sense?

 

[Altimeter]

I'm assuming a lot of passive aggression in you because you can't let the steam out. I think you care too much about what the people around you would think if you acted this way and you're questioning yourself rather than acting like the person you really are, am I wrong?

If this isn't it, what do you think is keeping you from being a bad boy in public?

YOU have to act like who you are. If you were all nice and cuddly to the girl a second ago and then be like alright baby let's go. She's gonna get confused because you haven't given her the impression that you're decisive or you let the interaction sink since you left it there for too long.

You can't go from Mr.Bean mode/James Bond/Mr.Bean she has to know if you are a badboy or a decisive strong guy from the moment she sees you.

 

[Verisimilitude]

I think you care too much about what the people around you would think if you acted this way and you're questioning yourself rather than acting like the person you really are, am I wrong

I do care too much what other people think. I think this is a good step towards not caring. I'm gonna be who I am, forget what people tell me I should be like. But this whole "realization" or whatever isn't really about other people. Its about what works best for me. And passive aggressive doesn't.

YOU have to act like who you are.

I think we're on the same page here.

 

[Reaper]

Its not bad to be a nice guy, with things like being polite or give woman the sidewalk, just try not to be too exited around women and to be more calm and relaxed (think that everything is under control and that you have done this many times before). Women will be intrigued and you will still be ¨a nice guy¨.
Besides i have learned that sometimes women say that to you like a way of dismiss that they like you so don't let that discourage you. And like a final advice jeje, try not to worry so much about the woman you're with, if you chill and don't think so much about her opinion and do or say what you think/feel, you'll look more badass and she'll be more attracted to you.

Hope this can help you

-Alex