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Girl, same age as me (early 30s), know her 3 years, we have been in a relationship since this summer.
She was into me all the time, but I had girlfriends. We kept in touch—drinks, drugs, etc.—but no sex.
At the start of last year, my relationship ended after a year. Meanwhile, Eva moved to another country (when I was still in a relationship with another girl).
Around summer, I was invited to a wedding. Eva agreed to come.
On the first night (at a party a few days before the wedding), she told me she wanted to kiss me.
I took her aside (solid 20 minutes, really bad circumstances), kissed her, and told her I love her and that I want her to come back to Wien.
She told me she loves me first. We went to the hotel and had sex. Since then, we enjoyed the whole wedding week as it should be.
Then we flew back to our separate states.
Considering the below, I messed up (and I messed up even more):
https://www.girlschase.com/article/how-make-girl-want-serious-relationship
The next week, we scheduled her visit to my place, and we had a great two weeks (sex, great time, no problems, and also had some important discussions).
She had a plan to leave Greece anyway, so she went back, called her landlord, and at the end of November, I flew to visit her for her last week in Greece.
A week before, she told me she didn’t have a visa, hadn’t sold her car (it’s broken and shit but still...), and would probably need to go back to Greece again.
I was pretty cool with it, but to be honest, I’m usually overly lovey-dovey, so when I was just normal (not distant, just more balanced), she texted me that she loves me and that she understands she upsets me. That was when I realized how bitch-like I had been acting.
I went to Greece with a clear head, chill mood. We had an amazing week. BUT, on the last day, while chilling on the beach, we were at a restaurant with other people, talking about recommendations on what to visit. While she was saying this was our last day here in Greece and that she was moving out, she casually mentioned (and this is what got me) that she was coming back at the start of the year.
When we left the restaurant, I was quiet for about five minutes.
// She saw me as a player, but we also had a lot of conversations where I could have lost some frame (since I didn’t fully consider her my future girlfriend).
We landed in Frankfurt, and I was contemplating a breakup (either she didn’t consider me her best choice, or her life just isn’t ready for a relationship with me).
In front of the hotel (she was staying over, and I had a flight that night), she recognized something was up, said she loves me first, and with fear. I replied, “Love you. No breakup.”
30 minutes later, she texted me how she loves me.
Since then, she is still in her home country(so no Greece, car still not sold). She obviously had reasonable issues (visa, employer in Greece—so as an EU citizen, she can only be in Greece., broken car and financial trouble...Of course, she can travel around because of schengen, but getting a flat,work etc., is a problem).
Since then, communication has been weird. Full of games. I became more aloof, less lovey-dovey.
A few weeks ago, after a boring call and some miscommunication while flirting over text (don’t even ask… I can be too straightforward sometimes—she’s very understanding and sexual, so no problem, but it was cringe, I was just trying to make something happen), I texted her that she seemed afraid I didn’t miss her.
I didn’t want to chase, but I felt I was being too aloof. LDRs are hard.
I never pushed about the timeline of her coming/moving. However, now, when she’s not EVEN out of her country yet… I’m not sure what to do.
Thank you boys.
I will possibly edit and add more info. But finally found the courage to write it down(I skipped lot of thing but I need to start somewhere) Not easy year for me. Lot of troubles outside of realtionships..then I do stupid mistakes. I was aware how complicated situation it is, but that nonchalance about her coming for some time to Greece got to me.
She was into me all the time, but I had girlfriends. We kept in touch—drinks, drugs, etc.—but no sex.
At the start of last year, my relationship ended after a year. Meanwhile, Eva moved to another country (when I was still in a relationship with another girl).
Around summer, I was invited to a wedding. Eva agreed to come.
On the first night (at a party a few days before the wedding), she told me she wanted to kiss me.
I took her aside (solid 20 minutes, really bad circumstances), kissed her, and told her I love her and that I want her to come back to Wien.
She told me she loves me first. We went to the hotel and had sex. Since then, we enjoyed the whole wedding week as it should be.
Then we flew back to our separate states.
Considering the below, I messed up (and I messed up even more):
https://www.girlschase.com/article/how-make-girl-want-serious-relationship
The next week, we scheduled her visit to my place, and we had a great two weeks (sex, great time, no problems, and also had some important discussions).
She had a plan to leave Greece anyway, so she went back, called her landlord, and at the end of November, I flew to visit her for her last week in Greece.
A week before, she told me she didn’t have a visa, hadn’t sold her car (it’s broken and shit but still...), and would probably need to go back to Greece again.
I was pretty cool with it, but to be honest, I’m usually overly lovey-dovey, so when I was just normal (not distant, just more balanced), she texted me that she loves me and that she understands she upsets me. That was when I realized how bitch-like I had been acting.
I went to Greece with a clear head, chill mood. We had an amazing week. BUT, on the last day, while chilling on the beach, we were at a restaurant with other people, talking about recommendations on what to visit. While she was saying this was our last day here in Greece and that she was moving out, she casually mentioned (and this is what got me) that she was coming back at the start of the year.
When we left the restaurant, I was quiet for about five minutes.
// She saw me as a player, but we also had a lot of conversations where I could have lost some frame (since I didn’t fully consider her my future girlfriend).
We landed in Frankfurt, and I was contemplating a breakup (either she didn’t consider me her best choice, or her life just isn’t ready for a relationship with me).
In front of the hotel (she was staying over, and I had a flight that night), she recognized something was up, said she loves me first, and with fear. I replied, “Love you. No breakup.”
30 minutes later, she texted me how she loves me.
Since then, she is still in her home country(so no Greece, car still not sold). She obviously had reasonable issues (visa, employer in Greece—so as an EU citizen, she can only be in Greece., broken car and financial trouble...Of course, she can travel around because of schengen, but getting a flat,work etc., is a problem).
Since then, communication has been weird. Full of games. I became more aloof, less lovey-dovey.
A few weeks ago, after a boring call and some miscommunication while flirting over text (don’t even ask… I can be too straightforward sometimes—she’s very understanding and sexual, so no problem, but it was cringe, I was just trying to make something happen), I texted her that she seemed afraid I didn’t miss her.
I didn’t want to chase, but I felt I was being too aloof. LDRs are hard.
I never pushed about the timeline of her coming/moving. However, now, when she’s not EVEN out of her country yet… I’m not sure what to do.
Thank you boys.
I will possibly edit and add more info. But finally found the courage to write it down(I skipped lot of thing but I need to start somewhere) Not easy year for me. Lot of troubles outside of realtionships..then I do stupid mistakes. I was aware how complicated situation it is, but that nonchalance about her coming for some time to Greece got to me.
