I've been in school for going on 2 weeks and have had 4 dates in those two weeks which is the most I ever had in that time frame. 3 out of the 4 dates did not end in sex but the date with the fourth girl did (after 2 dates). The crazy thing is this girl exceeded my criteria: being beautiful, loves to workout, very feminine, very smart, doesn't party, and won Ms. Teen America for our state (not even a part of my criteria but a pleasant surprise on the date). Needless to say on the first date I was walking on egg shells in order not to mess anything up. I was so nervous after the date that I made a PLEASE HELP post in the General section. I was actually overreacting and with the advice of my friend (who's a natural) ended up getting a second date and subsequently great sex.
Approach
Spotted her in the gym doing deadlifts with black and pink leggings on and when I saw her I immediately felt extremely nervous and excited. I checked her out discretely as opposed to the other guys in the gym who gawked or made awkward glances and looked down when she looked their direction. My plan was to talk to her on her way out because she was super into her workout and I was certain she'd be done before me. I just continued my workout but kept her in my peripheral vision so I would know when she was leaving. About 1/2 an hour later she began to leave the gym and as she exited I literally ran after her. Called out HEY a few times before she realized I was calling for her, turned around, and smiled, and replied saying she wasn't expecting anybody to be calling her. I told her she was cute, introduced myself, she gave me her name, and I took her hand. She was very warm. We talked for about 5 mins me just bantering with her about being a girl in a gym full of dudes and deadlifting more than some guys could, finding out where she's from, why I've never seen her in the gym, what year she is etc. I offered to walk her to the exit door since she was done with her workout and as we get to the door suggest we get coffee sometime. She gave me her number and left. I went to finish my workout.
Text Convo Aug 28th
Me: Hey nice meeting you today- Bolt
Her: Nice meeting you too. Let me know if you want to do anything this week!
It was welcome week so classes didn't start yet
Me: Yeah that sounds good we should get together for coffee at *college town coffee place*... What's your schedule like this week?
Her: I'm free for a bit after five tomorrow and all day Sunday.
Me: Ok let's get together Sunday around 2ish.
Her: Sounds great see you then
Aug 31st couples hour before date
Her: I'm really sorry but my roommate is having boyfriend drama so I'm taking her out all day to keep her company. Can we do tomorrow instead?
5 mins later
Her: I'm free after three tomorrow. I'm so sorry this is last minute, but my friend is in bad shape.
12 mins later
Me: Haha ooh looks like you've got your hands full today, not free until around 6 tomorrow let's meet up then.
Her: Definitely. Sorry about that see you tomorrow
Sep 1st (it stormed pretty bad earlier in the day)
Me: Hey its a shit show outside =/... Wanna eat at *my dorm building* instead?
Her: Haha its so gross out there. I actually just ate dinner though =/
Me: Ok *coffee place* then 6:20 ish I'll grab a quick bite
Date
The date was good. It was about an 1.5 to 2 hours, and she spent ALOT of time talking about her hobbies, dreams, what its like to when at a pageant, etc. Her hair was curly due to the rain and some strands were in her face and I used that opportunity to gently brush it aside. I also told her to let me see her hand, she had an interesting bracelet on. Another way I used touch was at one point she asked me what I do and I vaguely mentioned how I box. She told me she wanted to learn how to beat someone up and I used that opportunity to comment on her "baby hands" and have her let me hold them. We did quick back and forth banter on how she just stick to the prissy stuff and how she's a lover not a fighter. Also talked about how its great to be single in college (just to subtly let her know that I don't want to be boyfriend material). Towards the end of the date I suggested we go back and watch a movie but she commented on how she had to get up early for Crossfit. I DID NOT PERSIST simply because I do not have absolute abundance yet and haven't met a girl this awesome since my high school girlfriend nearly three years ago. So I said "Ok let's get out of here". We left, hugged, and went our separate ways.
I went to my friends' apartment where we (I'm sad to say) facebook stalked her photos and this did nothing but make me less outcome dependent and more worrisome about how I blew it by not getting her on the first date.
Sep 2
Me: Hey ____ enjoyed hanging out with you... You're very pleasant to talk to
Her: I had a great time, hope classes are going well
Sep 3rd
Me: Never thought I would say this but I'm actually pretty stoked for classes, hope your week's going great. Let's grab lunch or dinner sometime late this week/wknd... What's your schedule like for either?
Her: I have pageant business in ____ all weekend but should be free Sunday night
Me: Ah I've got work that evening don't get off til 10:30 =/
Her: I might still be in town Friday afternoon? Depends but I'll let you know
Me: Hey no worries I've got class early Fri afternoon so we'll just try next week, let me know what your schedules like and we'll go from there. Have fun this wknd
Spent the entire weekend panicking and worrying if I messed up since she didn't respond. I eventually got together with a friend of mine who is a natural and really good with women and he just told me its no big deal. Just hit her up Mon. or Tues.
Sep 8th
Me: Hey ___, hope your weekend was fun. Let's get together sometime, what's your evenings like this week?
Her: I could be free tonight after 6:30 or Wednesday after 7
Me: Tonight should be great, why don't we grab some food tonight around 6:45ish at *my dorm*
Her: Sounds great
Later on
Her: On my way and don't actually know how to get into *dorm*
Me: Don't worry when you get here I gotchu
Her: Ooookay I'm on the corner idk where to go now haha
Her: I'm inside somewhere idk
Me: Ok I'm in the main lobby
Eventually found her and brought her to the dining hall
Second date
She's never been in the newer renovated dorms on campus before and I use this time to put my hand on her lower back and guide her to a table. This date was only about 45 mins and we just talked about her weekend, how her friend was doing, bantered about the "shitty" dorms she stayed in compared to mine. She kept commenting on how tired she was so I eventually invited her conveniently upstairs for a movie. She agreed. Brought her to my single where she commented how "cozy" and "nice" it was.
The Close
There's no place to sit but my bed and she took her shoes off without me even asking her to. Got on the bed and I got behind her in a spooning position. Like this position because she can rest her head on one arm and I can use the other arm to caress her body. Plus I can whisper into her ear, smell her hair, kiss her neck, and rub my against her ass (I did all the above while just acting normal and talking about the movie). Not even 10 mins into the movie we're making out, escalating to sex, and I'm taking all her clothes off with NO LMR which was CRAZY.
Wrap Up
We talked and joked afterwards for another 20 mins or so and then I walked her to the main door. After that I went to my friends apt. to celebrate the conquest and boast since banging a Miss Teen America of our state is major bragging rights. They gave me shit for not walking her home so I called her (she didn't answer). Left a message
Me: Hey just making sure you got home safe... Night
Her: Yeah sorry set my phone in the other room. Made it!
Next day
Me: Hey had fun last night, hope you're not too sore
Her: Haha I'm fine, had fun too. Free any other time this week?
Conclusion
I know moving as fast as possible is preferred but I received no LMR on the second date. Just thought that was interesting.
Approach
Spotted her in the gym doing deadlifts with black and pink leggings on and when I saw her I immediately felt extremely nervous and excited. I checked her out discretely as opposed to the other guys in the gym who gawked or made awkward glances and looked down when she looked their direction. My plan was to talk to her on her way out because she was super into her workout and I was certain she'd be done before me. I just continued my workout but kept her in my peripheral vision so I would know when she was leaving. About 1/2 an hour later she began to leave the gym and as she exited I literally ran after her. Called out HEY a few times before she realized I was calling for her, turned around, and smiled, and replied saying she wasn't expecting anybody to be calling her. I told her she was cute, introduced myself, she gave me her name, and I took her hand. She was very warm. We talked for about 5 mins me just bantering with her about being a girl in a gym full of dudes and deadlifting more than some guys could, finding out where she's from, why I've never seen her in the gym, what year she is etc. I offered to walk her to the exit door since she was done with her workout and as we get to the door suggest we get coffee sometime. She gave me her number and left. I went to finish my workout.
Text Convo Aug 28th
Me: Hey nice meeting you today- Bolt
Her: Nice meeting you too. Let me know if you want to do anything this week!
It was welcome week so classes didn't start yet
Me: Yeah that sounds good we should get together for coffee at *college town coffee place*... What's your schedule like this week?
Her: I'm free for a bit after five tomorrow and all day Sunday.
Me: Ok let's get together Sunday around 2ish.
Her: Sounds great see you then
Aug 31st couples hour before date
Her: I'm really sorry but my roommate is having boyfriend drama so I'm taking her out all day to keep her company. Can we do tomorrow instead?
5 mins later
Her: I'm free after three tomorrow. I'm so sorry this is last minute, but my friend is in bad shape.
12 mins later
Me: Haha ooh looks like you've got your hands full today, not free until around 6 tomorrow let's meet up then.
Her: Definitely. Sorry about that see you tomorrow
Sep 1st (it stormed pretty bad earlier in the day)
Me: Hey its a shit show outside =/... Wanna eat at *my dorm building* instead?
Her: Haha its so gross out there. I actually just ate dinner though =/
Me: Ok *coffee place* then 6:20 ish I'll grab a quick bite
Date
The date was good. It was about an 1.5 to 2 hours, and she spent ALOT of time talking about her hobbies, dreams, what its like to when at a pageant, etc. Her hair was curly due to the rain and some strands were in her face and I used that opportunity to gently brush it aside. I also told her to let me see her hand, she had an interesting bracelet on. Another way I used touch was at one point she asked me what I do and I vaguely mentioned how I box. She told me she wanted to learn how to beat someone up and I used that opportunity to comment on her "baby hands" and have her let me hold them. We did quick back and forth banter on how she just stick to the prissy stuff and how she's a lover not a fighter. Also talked about how its great to be single in college (just to subtly let her know that I don't want to be boyfriend material). Towards the end of the date I suggested we go back and watch a movie but she commented on how she had to get up early for Crossfit. I DID NOT PERSIST simply because I do not have absolute abundance yet and haven't met a girl this awesome since my high school girlfriend nearly three years ago. So I said "Ok let's get out of here". We left, hugged, and went our separate ways.
I went to my friends' apartment where we (I'm sad to say) facebook stalked her photos and this did nothing but make me less outcome dependent and more worrisome about how I blew it by not getting her on the first date.
Sep 2
Me: Hey ____ enjoyed hanging out with you... You're very pleasant to talk to
Her: I had a great time, hope classes are going well
Sep 3rd
Me: Never thought I would say this but I'm actually pretty stoked for classes, hope your week's going great. Let's grab lunch or dinner sometime late this week/wknd... What's your schedule like for either?
Her: I have pageant business in ____ all weekend but should be free Sunday night
Me: Ah I've got work that evening don't get off til 10:30 =/
Her: I might still be in town Friday afternoon? Depends but I'll let you know
Me: Hey no worries I've got class early Fri afternoon so we'll just try next week, let me know what your schedules like and we'll go from there. Have fun this wknd
Spent the entire weekend panicking and worrying if I messed up since she didn't respond. I eventually got together with a friend of mine who is a natural and really good with women and he just told me its no big deal. Just hit her up Mon. or Tues.
Sep 8th
Me: Hey ___, hope your weekend was fun. Let's get together sometime, what's your evenings like this week?
Her: I could be free tonight after 6:30 or Wednesday after 7
Me: Tonight should be great, why don't we grab some food tonight around 6:45ish at *my dorm*
Her: Sounds great
Later on
Her: On my way and don't actually know how to get into *dorm*
Me: Don't worry when you get here I gotchu
Her: Ooookay I'm on the corner idk where to go now haha
Her: I'm inside somewhere idk
Me: Ok I'm in the main lobby
Eventually found her and brought her to the dining hall
Second date
She's never been in the newer renovated dorms on campus before and I use this time to put my hand on her lower back and guide her to a table. This date was only about 45 mins and we just talked about her weekend, how her friend was doing, bantered about the "shitty" dorms she stayed in compared to mine. She kept commenting on how tired she was so I eventually invited her conveniently upstairs for a movie. She agreed. Brought her to my single where she commented how "cozy" and "nice" it was.
The Close
There's no place to sit but my bed and she took her shoes off without me even asking her to. Got on the bed and I got behind her in a spooning position. Like this position because she can rest her head on one arm and I can use the other arm to caress her body. Plus I can whisper into her ear, smell her hair, kiss her neck, and rub my against her ass (I did all the above while just acting normal and talking about the movie). Not even 10 mins into the movie we're making out, escalating to sex, and I'm taking all her clothes off with NO LMR which was CRAZY.
Wrap Up
We talked and joked afterwards for another 20 mins or so and then I walked her to the main door. After that I went to my friends apt. to celebrate the conquest and boast since banging a Miss Teen America of our state is major bragging rights. They gave me shit for not walking her home so I called her (she didn't answer). Left a message
Me: Hey just making sure you got home safe... Night
Her: Yeah sorry set my phone in the other room. Made it!
Next day
Me: Hey had fun last night, hope you're not too sore
Her: Haha I'm fine, had fun too. Free any other time this week?
Conclusion
I know moving as fast as possible is preferred but I received no LMR on the second date. Just thought that was interesting.
