LR-- LR-- Beautiful dark skinned girl, persistence

[Hue]

Long time no see men.

Background
In an older post I described a black girl who was giving me extreme resistance, but I knew she was still attracted (I've been calling her Catfish). She's about 5'4'', beautiful face and eyes, fairly thin, with a poppin ass. I met her at a bar, got coffee with her that week and lightly hooked up then, yet received radio silence for two weeks afterwards. I ended up having to get the ball back in my court via text, and after weeks of scheduling, her flaking, rescheduling, I finally got a date with her at my house.

Report
Catfish arrives fashionably late at my house around 8:00, and I've just begun cooking dinner. We hadn't seen each other in a while so it actually took a few minutes before the vibe felt right. I tried to follow the rule of kissing her within 10 minutes of her being there, working my way in with this question I've used before about "if she likes to bite when she kisses", and to "stand still I need to check/inspect her teeth before she tries anything". Unfortunately Catfish didn't bite, so I resume teaching her how to add spice to the fish I was making, and order her around to help me prepare the meal and set it up. I've said before, I'm a pretty good cook and girls are usually impressed with the final product.

We eat dinner and I try to deep dive, but she's literally said before that she's not a deep person, she likes small talk and "light topics" and then after dinner start watching her weekly episode of this TV show. Eventually, after resistance even in deep diving get her to tell me something deeper about herself, and make some connection beyond idle chit chat. Through this I see a change in how she was viewing me, and she vocalized she didn't have any idea I was so "deep and thoughtful" (I've actually been told this by many friends, but she was clearly attracted to it).

After this, she starts talking about porn to my surprise, and about how she hadn't watched it in forever, so I turn this into more sexual conversation framing her has a sexual individual. This ends with her acknowledging I'm obviously a sexual individual, but that's normal for my age (I'm 20 she's 23). To me these sound like clear sexual frames, all of which I capatalized on. But, whenever I tried to kiss her, she would still reject it, even when I used things like setting her glass down to manhandle kiss, and using her flirty "shut up" to "only if you do" transition to kiss. Everytime, she'd insist we just chill out for now and watch TV.

When the show ends, and she's talking about how she's gonna leave soon, I finally improvise some circumstance shit to plant a kiss, pulling back first.
Because I pulled back first, she was drawn right back in and pretty soon we're making out with a lot of heavy breathing. There's a push-pull of this, until I finally tell her to get on top of me. A big, firm, yet squishy-enough-to-grip little piece of heaven are the best words I can give to provide her ass with justice.

From here it starts to gear up a lot more, some objects get tossed out the way, I pull down her shirt to suck on her tits (this turned her the fuck on).
"Your roommates is upstairs", (aka drag me to your room and stuff me) was all I needed to hear to pull her fine ass away from the couch and into mi cuarto. I get her shirt off, and immediately try to get her leggings off aaand boom: LMR.
She goes, "I don't think we should do anymore". I ignored her, turned off the lights and pulled her into me. Then, she moves us to the bed. To me this says: I'm gonna play hard to get, but I still want this. I proceed, turning her on by our bodies rubbing on eachother, kissing her neck, rubbing her crotch with my leg, etc. I get her on top of me and the real fun starts.
Two handfuls of her ass now in my grasp as I slide my hands underneath her leggings and she rubs her (clothed) pussy on my dick. At this point I was sure I was getting laid, and start to thrust a bit harder to get her mind on sex. I manage to get her on her side and reach my hand around her ass to her now dripping wet pussy.

Her ass is so big I can hardly get my fingers in, but she was getting very turned on. Because of how turned on she is now, I try and move my hand to the traditional fingering position, and get denied again.
Her: "I think we should stop".
Me: "Yea? (Slowly) I think, what you think, doesn't agree, with what you want".
We start making out again, and I use a couple different techniques to get her turned on again. Soon enough, she starts stroking my dick and pulling my pants off. Now that my pants aren't in the way, I throw her on top of me as before, but now she's really thrusting against me. Again, I was so sure I was going to fuck this girl's brains out, and she'd of wished she never resisted a damn thing. I get the reach around thing going again, getting a little deeper in her pussy this time and trying to stay a bit longer. Things are working as before, lots of heavy breathing, she's more wet, the smell of pussy caressing my nostrils, I'm sure she wants me to finger her now. I pull down her leggings all the way this time, and get halted intensely.

Her: "I really think we should stop now"
Me: "We might not be able to do this again, with how long it took to track each other down". *start making out again*
Her: *pulls back* "I'm going to leave now"

Fuck.

After this I told her something about despite the fact I know she wants to, I respect her and therefore her decision (hated saying this, but didn't know what to say after such a change of pace). We still make out a bit more after this (now clothed), and I compliment her on her fantastic ass. She blushes, says she's fully aware of her gift, and gets it a lot. We move back downstairs, she collects her things, kiss a bit more, and part ways. I say cya, she says have a good night, bye. ....god I want to fuck her.

Conclusion
If I learned anything from this it was how to improve with resistance. If you read my older post on my texts with this girl, I know many other guys that wouldn't have read between the lines and given up on Catfish. I actually had to send two different "ball in your court" type texts to finally get her over. I wonder where in the bedroom I fucked up though... should I have just continued to slowly turn her on until she was dripping through her leggings, then finally stuck something in there? I mean she took my pants off, stroked my dick, and pulled us into bed... she had to of wanted to get fucked somewhere in there, right? Still can't get my mind off that ass.

In saying all that, I doubt that I'll get another chance with this one. A second failed escalation on a high caliber girl like her is probably the last. I still plan on texting her tomorrow that I had "fun getting to know her a little better (; " because why the fuck not

Keep pushing, dudes

Hueman

 

[JRob]

I feel your pain man. I had a dark, big tit, big ass dream girl once. I really should have made that an all day event, but I wanted to take her out for her b-day. Now she just texts every now and then and I can't get her back over. Moreover I didn't get to show what I really capable of.
So I just kept moving. In your case, I think there's hope. She might have a good reason for the resistance.

 

[Shadow]

Hey Hueman,

In my humble opinion, you had near perfect execution. You can always do better (and on the positive side this experience will teach you a few things), however I think very very few men on this planet could of been able to get past that LMR. I also think things are not lost, you dominated and lead her quite a lot so she must be hot for you. I recommend you try to re-engage either directly with sex again or take a step back and start on an emotional level again and move forward. Because why the fuck not, Persistence is king.

Good work and keep us posted

 

[Hue]

J Rob, I think you're right in that there was a good reason in her resistance and I'll explain below. After reading an article or two on GC, I've arrived to the conclusion that it was a matter of timing.

Shadow, one can always do better, absolutely. I'll likely go with the route of building up on an emotional level if and when we arrange a meet up, before getting too sexual.

Hector's Article explains very well a couple places I messed up in this.

1). I demonstrated a lack of congruence on our first date

Nearly every interaction we had before the ending of the first date was sexual, and then I sent her a romantic text. This shifted my almost completely sexual frame in her mind to one where I might be in pursuit of a real relationship. This is also a likely explanation as to why it was so difficult to get the second date with her. In the beginning I had a strong sexy vibe, and despite her telling me this time I was very sexual, it wasn't as strong/enticing. If I'd been congruent, she would have probably been eager to hop in the sack with me our next arrangement. I've been working at this to remain consistent in my execution, and definitely improved.

Unfortunately, my improvements in a focused sexual frame might have been my downfall, due to the fact:

2). I didn't execute at her pace

And/or I didn't adapt to the new pace

On our first date, she had a legitimate excuse to leave essentially mid-hookup, she was about to be late for work. Then, I throw her a romantic frame via text. Fast forward to our second date, me making dinner, sharing a bottle of wine, candle, all romantic shit.
When she arrived, I mentioned the vibe wasn't where I wanted it. My mentality (and thus vibe) was sex sex sex while hers was dinner with this attractive guy, we'll see where this goes (essentially just a second chance). I struck the iron when it was hot, she was about to leave and knew I wanted to hook up... moved her upstairs, etc.

Once in my room I tried to take her pants off too early. If I had slowed down, and been less aggressive with the process, I could have curved her towards fucking... and then again during doggy (;

As Hector wrote in his article,

My rushing made her feel rushed, and a woman who is rushed feels awkward and inadequate, as if she isn’t worth a bit of patience.
- Hector Castillo

After losing my completely sexual frame, I had to take her on a different pace. While I was successful in dominating her, I was unsuccessful in taking her vibe with mine. To paint a picture, that first attempt I tried to get her pants off was like me grabbing her arm and running, as opposed to a leisurely walk together holding hands.


As I mentioned before, I will continue to persist with this girl, but looking back... the way the intensity basically plateaued while hooking up, it's pretty unlikely I get a round 3. Who knows, maybe she'll surprise me!