Hey guys, first post here!
First of all, I'd like to leave a huge thank you to Chase and all the contributors. The information contained on this website transformed my life like few things I came across before. I went from making several stupid mistakes and fucking up with several high-quality girls to being confident, attractive and strong.
To give some background: I was in an 11 year long relationship, 6 of those married. She was my first serious girlfriend, and even though I had a fair share of girls signaling interest to me (and straight chasing me) I was a really insecure teenager and spent most of my time on the computer. When I look back now I even remember a very hot girl who I used to dream about hanging out frequently at my window chit-chatting and I didn't realize she was interested in me!
So yeah, last year I decided that I had enough of being monogamous. My ex-wife was amazing and I trust her a 100%. We had a great relationship and grew a lot together. But there's a whole world out there... I proposed to her a polyamorous relationship and she was against it, so decided to split up. Those were some tense months, because at the same time I started meeting several new girls, and falling really hard for them. Mind you, I fell hard 3 times in the same year, 1 with a long time friend (the feeling was reciprocal but she lives in another country, so yeah, wtf was I thinking?), then I met two girls at the company that I work at. To make a story short, one went really sour and we don't even talk to each other anymore (this girl is completely nuts but since she was incredibly hot and manipulative I ignored all the signs. She has 5 red flags out of 9 from this article). The other one I didn't want to seduce because we I knew we would be in a serious relationship in no time... she was exactly my type and I consciously let her slip. I don't regret but oh boy, if it was today I'm pretty sure I'd be able to get intimate with her and still stay as friends. She's a beautiful redhead, exactly my dream girl.
Anyways, after I found myself by myself I started working hard on self-improvement. Focusing on the fundamentals, like it's so recommended here. I was already at a pretty good place, I know how to have a good conversation but my relationships were ending up platonic, all of the time. I was acting a bit like a white knight... which is understandable, considering that I work in tech and the feminist propaganda is strong here. I looked for a psychoanalyst to become a more masculine man and that did wonders. She also recommended a very pivotal book in my life, I highly recommend this if you want to be a more fair man: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00EXOFDXI/re ... TF8&btkr=1
So the past few months I went on a few dates with girls from dating apps that were really below what I'm capable of and what I'm able to. I was kind of losing hope of finding someone interesting where I live, but I kept pushing through, working on myself, taking bigger risks, doing some cold approaches etc...
>>> LR STARTS HERE <<<
And then I had the opportunity to go to Europe. Right at the airport I noticed a really cute blonde girl waiting on the same gate as me. I sat right next to her and after some awkwardness I started a conversation with her. Wow... this girl was so much higher quality than the girls around here. She was dutch and we vibed immediately. Her body language was very receptive and she asked a lot of questions. When we got into the airplane I walked her to her seat and tried to switch seats with the guy next to her... but the sucker refused! Back in the day I would just give up... but not the new me. I went back to him a few minutes later and tried to sweeten the deal but he just wouldn't... whatever!
So before I arrived in Europe, I started talking to this really cute and interesting girl on OkCupid. We hit it off immediately, but it was getting kind of unclear if we were going to meet up, because I was busy with some obligation but we set up a date for 2 days later. The next day I go to an after party and to my surprise, I fucking run into her! What are the odds? Apparently a friend of hers invited her to the same party last minute and I ended up arriving there at the same time as her. This was perfect because we talked for about 10 minutes and it was really amazing, there was a lot of chemistry, she was fucking hot and basically my dream girl in terms of body type, we built up a lot of excitement for the date the next day.
So the next day we meet up at a museum and watched a talk that she picked. After that we have dinner and it's getting late, we are very tired and I walk her to her stop. Since I knew my time there would be short I didn't mind acting like a boyfriend to make her feel more comfortable, and I think that was the best decision. Before her bus came we made out and she got on her way. I questioned this a little because I never kiss dates in public, but since I was in another country, another culture and a whole different situation, I didn't mind.
The next day I message her and invite her to come over. She was very depressed about something that happened. I cheered her up and she invited me to go to her place instead. She said explicitly that it wasn't for sex, but I said that i would still go. At that point I was really afraid of ending up in the friendzone... but later on she called me and said that it was awesome that I cared about her and we decided to meet up closer to my place for a bite before she had her class. And this is when things got really interesting... I tried to pull her to my apartment but our time was really short so I didn't want to be socially weird and agreed to just go for the bite.
We go to this cool bar and go upstairs, and after a while find ourselves alone. I start breathing on her neck and kissing it, and the sexual tension between was over the roof! I kept doing this while she ate, we made out really hard and I even licked her nipple a bit... in a fucking bar in broad day light! that's how intense we were feeling towards each other.
The next day was my last day in this city and I invited her to come to my place straight. She comes, we talk a bit about life and once she feels comfortable we start making out... and I go back to her neck and really get her horny. I tell her that since we only have one night together I wanted to take it very slowly and enjoy every second and every part of her body. I make it all about her (that's personally my style when having sex with someone that deserves it). I go down on her and give her a looong oral and several orgasms. At this point I discovered that she is kinky... and OH BOY now we are talking! I've been trying to find a cool kinky girl for a while and she was soooo into it! I grab my belt and spank her and she begs for more. Things are getting really intense and I'm ready for sex... but then she pushes back and says that she won't be comfortable doing that so early and knowing that I'd be gone the next day. I respect it but I don't lose hope. I don't even ask for it... I just keep going on her and enjoying her. Even if we don't have sex eating her was really amazing.
Anyways, after we do this for quite some time I grab her from behind and start rubbing my dick against her beautiful ass. She goes crazy and agrees to have sex, but only after we shower together. We have an amazing shower together and go back to bed. I have to confess. I felt possessed by a god. I got complete control of my body, my mind and hers. I gave her several orgasms and was able to fuck for a long time. At some point she tells me to cum and I do it. Mind you, before her I was cumming in seconds with a girl I was dating that I don't like too much. But this time was different. I wasn't afraid of cumming fast. I was just there fully in the moment. Syncing my breath with hers, merging our two souls. It was the best sex I have ever had. When she came on top of me she wasn't a mortal anymore... she was Aphrodite for a split second! I was able to get her several orgasms until I came because she was getting tired. This has never happened in my life. Usually sex for me a struggle not to cum, but this time I had full control. I could have gone for an hour if I wanted. No kidding!
Then we ordered some food and relaxed.... and went for another round, this time much kinkier, she asked for her "daddy to spank her" and shit. So fucking hot. We even fucked looking at each other's eyes on a mirror. Again, I was in full control and we even took some "artistic" photos that I hold as a very valuable prize and gift because she trusted me so much. Then we slept and I left the next day... the come down was hard! We still maintain contact and this experience was very transformative for both of us. We both expanded our counciousness and explored our fantasies in a safe environment. She saw me as a god and I saw her as a goddess. This is what life is about. I will never forget this experience. We are still sending selfies and talking naughty all the time. In a way it was good to give my best to someone that I knew I wouldn't be able to have a relationship, because if I am this good again with someone I don't like very much I could hurt her, so from here on I'll be really careful of who I give my best
>>> TIP FOR LASTING LONGER <<<
So for me what worked is to develop mind control. I've seen shit like "think about your grandma" or whatever to prevent cumming but this is the worst advice for me. It just takes you away from the experience. What worked for me is the following:
First I learned to meditate. I've been doing zen meditation for quite a while now and the best thing about it is, after a while you develop a really strong mind control. You are able to control your thoughts, your breathing and your body.
Then I noticed that the reason I was cumming too fast was that I was channeling all my "life energy" (for lack of a better term) to my dick. The best way to describe this is: Before when I had sex I would feel my dick really electrified. All my energy was contained there. My mind would be full of thoughts like "OMG THIS FEELS SO GOOD", "OHH I'M NOT GOING TO HOLD THIS", etc... and inevitably I would cum.
But this time it was different. I used my whole body. I focused on the moment and how fucking hot she was... how much pleasure she was having. Using visualization and breathing, I was able to disperse this energy all over my body. Whenever I noticed my dick getting too intense, I'd disperse this energy all over my body through breathing.
The way you can practice this is, when you are masturbating and you notice you are getting at like 80% you slow down your breath and try to disperse this air/energy all over your body. You visualize the energy in your dick is being dispersed and your body will act accordingly. I learned this technique through an article which I can't find anymore! A simple article. Look up for tantra techniques to last longer and you will find it. This stuff is gold, if you have a little mind control and is not close minded to a little esotericism you will find that it's the secret. At least for me. I went from 30 seconds to almost an hour. Just by using breathing and visualization.
Anyways this is getting really long, so once again, thank you Chase & contributors! You guys helped made my life (and many girl's like this one) much much better and fulfilling!
TLDR: I went from screwing up with girls all the time, to dating low quality girls and cumming in seconds to laying a really high-quality hot girl overseas and lasting as long as I wanted... with the hottest chick I ever had sex with!
First of all, I'd like to leave a huge thank you to Chase and all the contributors. The information contained on this website transformed my life like few things I came across before. I went from making several stupid mistakes and fucking up with several high-quality girls to being confident, attractive and strong.
To give some background: I was in an 11 year long relationship, 6 of those married. She was my first serious girlfriend, and even though I had a fair share of girls signaling interest to me (and straight chasing me) I was a really insecure teenager and spent most of my time on the computer. When I look back now I even remember a very hot girl who I used to dream about hanging out frequently at my window chit-chatting and I didn't realize she was interested in me!
So yeah, last year I decided that I had enough of being monogamous. My ex-wife was amazing and I trust her a 100%. We had a great relationship and grew a lot together. But there's a whole world out there... I proposed to her a polyamorous relationship and she was against it, so decided to split up. Those were some tense months, because at the same time I started meeting several new girls, and falling really hard for them. Mind you, I fell hard 3 times in the same year, 1 with a long time friend (the feeling was reciprocal but she lives in another country, so yeah, wtf was I thinking?), then I met two girls at the company that I work at. To make a story short, one went really sour and we don't even talk to each other anymore (this girl is completely nuts but since she was incredibly hot and manipulative I ignored all the signs. She has 5 red flags out of 9 from this article). The other one I didn't want to seduce because we I knew we would be in a serious relationship in no time... she was exactly my type and I consciously let her slip. I don't regret but oh boy, if it was today I'm pretty sure I'd be able to get intimate with her and still stay as friends. She's a beautiful redhead, exactly my dream girl.
Anyways, after I found myself by myself I started working hard on self-improvement. Focusing on the fundamentals, like it's so recommended here. I was already at a pretty good place, I know how to have a good conversation but my relationships were ending up platonic, all of the time. I was acting a bit like a white knight... which is understandable, considering that I work in tech and the feminist propaganda is strong here. I looked for a psychoanalyst to become a more masculine man and that did wonders. She also recommended a very pivotal book in my life, I highly recommend this if you want to be a more fair man: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00EXOFDXI/re ... TF8&btkr=1
So the past few months I went on a few dates with girls from dating apps that were really below what I'm capable of and what I'm able to. I was kind of losing hope of finding someone interesting where I live, but I kept pushing through, working on myself, taking bigger risks, doing some cold approaches etc...
>>> LR STARTS HERE <<<
And then I had the opportunity to go to Europe. Right at the airport I noticed a really cute blonde girl waiting on the same gate as me. I sat right next to her and after some awkwardness I started a conversation with her. Wow... this girl was so much higher quality than the girls around here. She was dutch and we vibed immediately. Her body language was very receptive and she asked a lot of questions. When we got into the airplane I walked her to her seat and tried to switch seats with the guy next to her... but the sucker refused! Back in the day I would just give up... but not the new me. I went back to him a few minutes later and tried to sweeten the deal but he just wouldn't... whatever!
So before I arrived in Europe, I started talking to this really cute and interesting girl on OkCupid. We hit it off immediately, but it was getting kind of unclear if we were going to meet up, because I was busy with some obligation but we set up a date for 2 days later. The next day I go to an after party and to my surprise, I fucking run into her! What are the odds? Apparently a friend of hers invited her to the same party last minute and I ended up arriving there at the same time as her. This was perfect because we talked for about 10 minutes and it was really amazing, there was a lot of chemistry, she was fucking hot and basically my dream girl in terms of body type, we built up a lot of excitement for the date the next day.
So the next day we meet up at a museum and watched a talk that she picked. After that we have dinner and it's getting late, we are very tired and I walk her to her stop. Since I knew my time there would be short I didn't mind acting like a boyfriend to make her feel more comfortable, and I think that was the best decision. Before her bus came we made out and she got on her way. I questioned this a little because I never kiss dates in public, but since I was in another country, another culture and a whole different situation, I didn't mind.
The next day I message her and invite her to come over. She was very depressed about something that happened. I cheered her up and she invited me to go to her place instead. She said explicitly that it wasn't for sex, but I said that i would still go. At that point I was really afraid of ending up in the friendzone... but later on she called me and said that it was awesome that I cared about her and we decided to meet up closer to my place for a bite before she had her class. And this is when things got really interesting... I tried to pull her to my apartment but our time was really short so I didn't want to be socially weird and agreed to just go for the bite.
We go to this cool bar and go upstairs, and after a while find ourselves alone. I start breathing on her neck and kissing it, and the sexual tension between was over the roof! I kept doing this while she ate, we made out really hard and I even licked her nipple a bit... in a fucking bar in broad day light! that's how intense we were feeling towards each other.
The next day was my last day in this city and I invited her to come to my place straight. She comes, we talk a bit about life and once she feels comfortable we start making out... and I go back to her neck and really get her horny. I tell her that since we only have one night together I wanted to take it very slowly and enjoy every second and every part of her body. I make it all about her (that's personally my style when having sex with someone that deserves it). I go down on her and give her a looong oral and several orgasms. At this point I discovered that she is kinky... and OH BOY now we are talking! I've been trying to find a cool kinky girl for a while and she was soooo into it! I grab my belt and spank her and she begs for more. Things are getting really intense and I'm ready for sex... but then she pushes back and says that she won't be comfortable doing that so early and knowing that I'd be gone the next day. I respect it but I don't lose hope. I don't even ask for it... I just keep going on her and enjoying her. Even if we don't have sex eating her was really amazing.
Anyways, after we do this for quite some time I grab her from behind and start rubbing my dick against her beautiful ass. She goes crazy and agrees to have sex, but only after we shower together. We have an amazing shower together and go back to bed. I have to confess. I felt possessed by a god. I got complete control of my body, my mind and hers. I gave her several orgasms and was able to fuck for a long time. At some point she tells me to cum and I do it. Mind you, before her I was cumming in seconds with a girl I was dating that I don't like too much. But this time was different. I wasn't afraid of cumming fast. I was just there fully in the moment. Syncing my breath with hers, merging our two souls. It was the best sex I have ever had. When she came on top of me she wasn't a mortal anymore... she was Aphrodite for a split second! I was able to get her several orgasms until I came because she was getting tired. This has never happened in my life. Usually sex for me a struggle not to cum, but this time I had full control. I could have gone for an hour if I wanted. No kidding!
Then we ordered some food and relaxed.... and went for another round, this time much kinkier, she asked for her "daddy to spank her" and shit. So fucking hot. We even fucked looking at each other's eyes on a mirror. Again, I was in full control and we even took some "artistic" photos that I hold as a very valuable prize and gift because she trusted me so much. Then we slept and I left the next day... the come down was hard! We still maintain contact and this experience was very transformative for both of us. We both expanded our counciousness and explored our fantasies in a safe environment. She saw me as a god and I saw her as a goddess. This is what life is about. I will never forget this experience. We are still sending selfies and talking naughty all the time. In a way it was good to give my best to someone that I knew I wouldn't be able to have a relationship, because if I am this good again with someone I don't like very much I could hurt her, so from here on I'll be really careful of who I give my best
>>> TIP FOR LASTING LONGER <<<
So for me what worked is to develop mind control. I've seen shit like "think about your grandma" or whatever to prevent cumming but this is the worst advice for me. It just takes you away from the experience. What worked for me is the following:
First I learned to meditate. I've been doing zen meditation for quite a while now and the best thing about it is, after a while you develop a really strong mind control. You are able to control your thoughts, your breathing and your body.
Then I noticed that the reason I was cumming too fast was that I was channeling all my "life energy" (for lack of a better term) to my dick. The best way to describe this is: Before when I had sex I would feel my dick really electrified. All my energy was contained there. My mind would be full of thoughts like "OMG THIS FEELS SO GOOD", "OHH I'M NOT GOING TO HOLD THIS", etc... and inevitably I would cum.
But this time it was different. I used my whole body. I focused on the moment and how fucking hot she was... how much pleasure she was having. Using visualization and breathing, I was able to disperse this energy all over my body. Whenever I noticed my dick getting too intense, I'd disperse this energy all over my body through breathing.
The way you can practice this is, when you are masturbating and you notice you are getting at like 80% you slow down your breath and try to disperse this air/energy all over your body. You visualize the energy in your dick is being dispersed and your body will act accordingly. I learned this technique through an article which I can't find anymore! A simple article. Look up for tantra techniques to last longer and you will find it. This stuff is gold, if you have a little mind control and is not close minded to a little esotericism you will find that it's the secret. At least for me. I went from 30 seconds to almost an hour. Just by using breathing and visualization.
Anyways this is getting really long, so once again, thank you Chase & contributors! You guys helped made my life (and many girl's like this one) much much better and fulfilling!
TLDR: I went from screwing up with girls all the time, to dating low quality girls and cumming in seconds to laying a really high-quality hot girl overseas and lasting as long as I wanted... with the hottest chick I ever had sex with!
