LR- LR - She says "one more time and I leave".. And she does. How to counteract?

[lux7]

Alright, I will spare you the whole story before the main point .

Bla bla bla

She wasn't sure whether to come upstairs in my hotel room but a liiiitle bit of pushing does it.

Unluckily there are two chairs in this room and no couch.
She sits on the chair, I sit on the bed.

Conversation languish a bit and this is not time to deep dive.
I put some music and tell her to sit close to me.

She refuses.

I tel her again.

She refuses... And on for 4-5 times.

She says "one more time you tell me to sit there and I leave".

"Come sit here.. "

She actually does get up.. Calmly get her shoes and leaves.

Fuck, I was laughing and in a way I loved, I respect that .

Now what I gathered is that she's a bit "childish stubborn", in the sense that she pushes back anytime someone tells her to do something, I should have understood that and changed tack.


WHAT LAST MINUTE MOVE CAN YOU PULL?
But I wonder, provided that she is not leaving because she plainly doesn't want to be with you, and this was not such a case as she stood in the street texting, what are some ways to stop a girl who is leaving your room and get back in the game?

 

[skin_man]

what are some ways to stop a girl who is leaving your room and get back in the game?

It's much better to prevent them from leaving than to stop them a t all. Most times her leaving is a gesture that you're not in control ( or seem not to be in control).of your environment, yourself at that moment. She may still talk with you after but you would have to let her go on good terms first then reschedule another meet several days (2-3days) later

Now to prevent it from even taking place, there's a wonderful post on GC about it however the day I read it, I realised I had already used the tactic without meaning to. Here it is: just don't pressure her! You have not begun escalating from what your report shows, so you could:

Enter the hotel room, keeping the door ajar for her so she can enter when she's feeling up to it. Meanwhile you make vague comments about the room and the hotel and the furniture out loud so she hears while she's still in the corridor or lobby.

Come back out to see her and lightly banter very shortly, like you are about to go back in.

Keep talking about things within the room. (Reason? Pingues her curiosity to come see them for herself, especially if you kept it vague)

When she enters, remember to feel relaxed and just ask her to take off her shoes. Then begin talking with her while she settles into the room. Deep diving is not yet needed. About two minutes in, begin deep diving.

At this point you may plop in the bed or motion for her to stand up, and while holding her hands, sit on the bed. She would be standing, so you simply ask her then (commanding tone).to sit.

Guess what? She'd sit on the bed next to you cuz she wanted to all along.

The rest? well you just deep dive and escalate naturally.

Sidenote: I will try to get the post about the point I read from the main site.

 

[Smith]

A technique to get her to sit on your bed would be to tell her to come look at something on your phone, i.e. a picture, a video..etc. OR get her to show you something and it's natural for her to move closer in order to show it to you.
Use this if you're still not good at commanding a girl yet, or your frame is not dominant enough yet. It also gives her an excuse to sit near you without making her look "easy".

 

[lux7]

Thanks guys!
Let me know if you remember the title of that post skin_man.

Guess a good old movie could have also been alright?

BTW, I just realized the title is wrong, it should have been FR ad not LR of course.