This is from a week ago, I was staying in a majority muslim country and was having difficulties in meeting women in person.
Even with Tinder it seemed harder to go straight to the point.
More than once some guy either turned around to stare at me and a girl I was interacting with or literally butt in asking if "it was all good", and each time the girl left. It was annoying.
I mean, of course not all interactions were interrupted, yet even in non interrupted interactions most girls, even non veiled ones, were like fishes: they'd smile after the approach, look flattered and then slink away making you look like an harrasser if you tried to stick to the interaction (a friend would later tell me "never to go for sex with a muslim woman as that's realistically the only trouble you can get into around here". Maybe it's not true, but it's one of those things which is hard not to be affected by so I completely dropped any veiled girl)
Anyway, my admittedly childish and juvenile idea of "at least a girl in every country I visit" was really coming under pressure around here
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Good thing this pretty 23 YO philippino girl came by on Tinder (a bit of an exception, girls who are ok with moving very fast online tend to be not so good looking).
Below the convo:
It was a beautiful thing, the sex was very good and we'd later chat and connect hugely. She's got a good career, perfect English and she's a life lover with an happy personality.
She asks me how come I went there so easily and wasn't scared, which is a good thing: women who always do this don't ask such questions.
I ask her the same and she said she had found my info on internet (not sure if I should curtail my info on Tinder or if I should leave it as a "safety proof" for those who wanna research a bit).
She couldn't swim and was scared of water and... I can so relate to that, it was the same for me, I just learned to swim in the second half of 2015 (amazing experience conquering a fear of yours BTW).
Unluckily the swimming pool in her hotel was closed for that night.
I'd never meet again a girl I didn't connect with, but we had a great time so I'll probably see her again in the Philippines and I personally resolved to help her conquer the fear of water.
Helping people is good.
Even with Tinder it seemed harder to go straight to the point.
More than once some guy either turned around to stare at me and a girl I was interacting with or literally butt in asking if "it was all good", and each time the girl left. It was annoying.
I mean, of course not all interactions were interrupted, yet even in non interrupted interactions most girls, even non veiled ones, were like fishes: they'd smile after the approach, look flattered and then slink away making you look like an harrasser if you tried to stick to the interaction (a friend would later tell me "never to go for sex with a muslim woman as that's realistically the only trouble you can get into around here". Maybe it's not true, but it's one of those things which is hard not to be affected by so I completely dropped any veiled girl)
Anyway, my admittedly childish and juvenile idea of "at least a girl in every country I visit" was really coming under pressure around here
.Good thing this pretty 23 YO philippino girl came by on Tinder
(a bit of an exception, girls who are ok with moving very fast online tend to be not so good looking).Below the convo:
Me:
You and I under that waterfall, doing crazy things while you get all wet (shy emoticon)
She has a picture of her hiking beside a waterfall.
Notice how this brings like-minded adventurous action and sexual thoughts right away with the "you and I", "crazy things" and "wet", but without being crude or vulgar and the shy emoticons further tapers any risk of making her feel a slut
Her:
Woah! Take it slow ahah (laughing hard emoticon)
She obviously liked it
Me:
Life's too short to take it slow dear
Nothing special here, but underlines I'm not up for anything slow moving
Her:
-You are such a sweet talker
-So do you live here?
Me:
-lol glad to see you matched me after so carefully reading my profile ahaha
my profile says I'm a traveler and "I can't promise anything long term"
-treating my like a piece of meat tsk tsk (sad but funny emoticon)
this was very good, framing her she matched me just for sex and it's her who only wants quick sex out of this.
Notice though I've used it with another woman and she didn't get the light-hearted emotions of it and got offended and apologetic. In a way, it can help you screen for smart enough women to get a joke and funny enough to have a laugh
Her:
-ahahah sorry for that I'm trying to multi task
-and I actually read your bio before swiping right
-how long will you be here?
Me:
-sure you did
-not long, so we gotta move quick
-how does your schedule look
acknowledge and close the hilarity of the situation and move on. Verbally stating now we "need to move quick" and notice I don't give a precise date as it's a tendency for many people to postpone things, so keep it vague and strike ASAP
Her:
-I'll be leaving on the 16th
-I'm here for work, so I usually get back to the hotel a bit late
Uh oh, we're vibing good, we're on a sexual frame, she's mentioning the hotel...
Me:
-are you inviting me to your hotel
notice I didn't put a question mark, it likely was an invite, but even if it wasn't, pretend you knew it all along and, most importantly, don't force her to make the invitation obvious and let her make the final step with a question mark
Sounds good right?
Well actually I think it was a mistake: my reply is already borderline. I might/should have proposed to meet at her hotel right away without this message and/or implied we were going to meet there. My mistake was partly because I never went to a woman's hotel before via online dating before, so it was a new thing.
good thing that..
Her:
-Maybe...
Bingo, it worked anyway
Me:
What's the address
We actually wouldn't meet that same evening and I'd still have time to make a small mistake, but we'd still go for it a couple of nights later
It was a beautiful thing, the sex was very good and we'd later chat and connect hugely. She's got a good career, perfect English and she's a life lover with an happy personality.
She asks me how come I went there so easily and wasn't scared, which is a good thing: women who always do this don't ask such questions.
I ask her the same and she said she had found my info on internet (not sure if I should curtail my info on Tinder or if I should leave it as a "safety proof" for those who wanna research a bit).
She couldn't swim and was scared of water and... I can so relate to that, it was the same for me, I just learned to swim in the second half of 2015 (amazing experience conquering a fear of yours BTW).
Unluckily the swimming pool in her hotel was closed for that night.
I'd never meet again a girl I didn't connect with, but we had a great time so I'll probably see her again in the Philippines and I personally resolved to help her conquer the fear of water.
Helping people is good
.