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FU  Lunch date with Blondie

Killa DeX

Space Monkey
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This afternoon I had a lunch date with the girl from my last FR. See that here ----> viewtopic.php?f=5&t=7011

Setting Up the Date
Me: Hey what's your schedule like tmrw?
Kat: I might have to do something in the afternoon and I have work later. Whats up?
Me: I figured I been a good boy on this diet so I figured I'd have a good cheat meal with you
Kat: Where would you consider a good cheat meal? Lol
Me: Pizza!! :D lol
Kat: Lol okay
Me: U down?
Kat: Yea. I have work in the evening. What time you wanna go?
Me: Around 12 pm?
Kat: Sounds good. Where do you wanna go?
Me: King Umberto?
Kat: Okay :)
Me: And you better not order a salad -__- lol
Kat: Hahaha I won't
Me: Good :)
Kat: At my job now I gotta go. See you tomorrow

This Afternoon/The Date
Kat: Hey Im leaving my house now
Me: Cool Ill be on my way shortly
Kat: Im coming from the parking lot

Im wearing my favorite 3/4 sleeve shirt, nice levi jeans and my jordan retro 4's; I'm feeling pretty confident! She walks in wearing a casual tank-top type of shirt with shorts. The first thing I say to her is "You look more beautiful every time I see you" (I saw her briefly the night before when our group of friends were getting together). We order our food and I pay (I didn't wanna come off as a cheapstake). We start talking and she talks about her dog, college, family, recent trip to Europe, etc. The only problem I had in our interaction is that she talked TOO much. She went on and on and on and I literally maybe got one sentence in every time. I tried to touch on deeper topics or more personal and intellectual things as much as I could and she reciprocated a bit, but she would just take it and run with it. We connected on a few things like sports, working out, our opinions on tattoos/piercings and we sat long after our food was done and just talked to one another. We talked, laughed and connected so much that we lost track of time and 2 hours passed by before I even realized it(I was borrowing my sisters car because its much nicer than my own and I promised her I would bring it back at 2:30). She eventually realized what time it was and said she had to meet some family members. I walk her to the parking lot and we stop a talk in front of her car for a min. She tells me thanks for lunch and I lift her chin and try to go for a make-out type kiss but instead she gives me a regular kiss on the lip(peck).
I might be leaving out a view details but I'm rushing through because it's late and I'm tired hahaha. I know I pretty much did everything AGAINST the doctrine that we follow here on GC.

Later Tonight
Me: Hey, Kat I had fun today :)
Kat: Me too!
Me: Glad I got to know about you. Im sure there's much more for me to learn tho
Kat: And Im sure there's more for me to learn also
Me: You just gonna have to find out ;)

I need opinions form you guys on what exactly I did wrong, what would you have changed and hopes for the future... Thanks again !!
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake

Mr. oblivious

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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The only problem I had in our interaction is that she talked TOO much. She went on and on and on and I literally maybe got one sentence in every time.

Isn't that what you should be aiming for ? Law of least effort keeping mystery

I don't think this is a bad thing



My Question for you is how was this a FU (just because you "broke some rules" does not mean you screwed up)

What was your goal of the interaction ?


From what you have given us you took her out for lunch had such a great conversation that you both lost track of time.

all you have to do is set up a second date and make it logistically setup well
 

Killa DeX

Space Monkey
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It was hard to sexual frame her because she held the conversation for so long.

I put this as an FU because I thought that meant Field Update. My Noobness is showing haha
 

Killa DeX

Space Monkey
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I'm really having doubts about this girl, I'm debating on whether or not I should just give up on it. I could just be overthinking things because I didn't escalate properly with her the first time and also the fact that she is in my social circle. She's also best friends with my close friend so pretty much anything I say or do she's gonna go and tell him and I'm not really cool with him or my social circle knowing my personal business.

Some Text Messages from yesterday
Me: What you doing?
Kat: Just took a shower and about to hang out with the parents. U?
Me: Texting this cute girl :)
Kat: What a lucky girl she is
Me: Yeah... but she's a little hard to read sometimes
Kat: What do you mean?
Me: Its hard to tell how she feels about me
Kat: I do like u but idk what u want this summer
Me: What do you think I want?
Kat: I don't know
Me: Better question. What do u want?
Kat: I just don't have time for anything. I'm running around all the time. Its not fair to anyone
Me: I know what you mean trust me. I'm busy a lot too especially since i'll be starting summer classes soon
Kat: Okay and yea thats true

Haven't texted her after that last message. I have't seen her since the first date and now I'm debating if I even want to see her again. She's pretty and of course I would love to lay her but the whole situation is just awkward and I don't really feel like wasting my time on a girl that nothing is gonna happen with.
 
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