Online & Apps Lying about height as a 5’4” guy

[770]

I have no better option but to lie about my height on the apps, I don’t get any matches when I list my real height. I put myself as 5’7. Generally this has not been an issue as the girls that want to go on dates are usually like 5’0 and I do wear lifts (which realistically only makes me look a bit taller). But I remember going on dates with girls 5’5 and although they didn’t call me out, I know they weren’t exactly pleased, both were visibly slouching next to me. I just called them out on it playfully but it does make me annoyed and a little sad when they do that. AFAIK it is a major turnoff when they see you as shorter than they expected.

I want to go on a date with a pretty 5’7 girl she’s interested over text but I know she will definitely be noticeably taller than me, I don’t know what to say or do when she finds out I’m not as tall as I say I am.

I’m not in a great mood about dating at the moment as if see my past posted, almost all my dates have failed. I’m going to be pretty disappointed if this pretty girl auto rejects me as soon as she sees me, or if she finds out later I’m even shorter without lifts haha.

I know what’s said about meeting girls irl, but I’m not sure if I’m ready to try to talk to girls at clubs or bars when I’m likely to be the shortest guy there. I can’t do physical things like sports or run clubs because I won’t be able to wear lifts there.

 

[Chimp_OG]

Mate, what's the point of lying about your height in OLD if she sees you as soon as you are in-person?

I extend my height by a single inch online because no-one is the wiser, but any higher and you are playing with fire (no pun necessary).

You think you need to appear taller even in person at run club- man get that mentality out of your system because your self consciousness is probably not attractive. That is, you don't need lifts doing activities or sports. Hit the gym and stuff

 

[alexlaguma]

just day game. then she knows exactly how tall you are.

Height is an issue for girls when they are selecting from a million guys online. They have to find some way of cutting down the number of applications. Just like I rule out people who apply to jobs with me for the most ridiculous of reasons. I can't interview everyone.

But when you day game, that shit doesn't matter. You're not just another dating app guy. You are the one and only guy who had the balls to rock up to her in the street and confidently tell her she looks great and you had to say hello. You think your height matters then? It doesn't. I'm marginally taller than you and I'm on ~15 for the year, most from day game.

 

[Levo]

Are you having success with this approach?

If your game is good enough to get over the objections then go for it, but if youre just wasting time and money on dates that don't pan out because she isnt attracted to you and/or thinks you're a liar then youre better off not matching with them to begin with.

Disappointment and the thought that you mislead her is a terrible way to start a date.

I know you say you get fewer matches being honest but you have to look at your close rate not your number of date's rate, especially you have this wildcard variable in there of now knowing what part of your game messed up because it could be a height/liar issue.

I have heard though from most girls that they expect guys to be exaggerating their height a few inches these days so its not a big surprise for them, but three is pushing it especially when youre already in the lower numbers. I'd go with 1 or maybe 2 if your lifts are big enough.

 

[ziggydust]

only advice is to wear massive lifts, meet, bang, and to never expect an actual 'relationship' with that girl (for whom height is an issue)