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hey there everyone,
i have a bit of a dilemma, i can't figure out how to proceed, so she is a work colleague for almost 8 months, there was no interest at first, started to feel mutual attraction at some point, like 3 months ago, approached her, got an uncertain rejection, she said she does not want to "fool around", at some point "snapped out" and made her understand i don't play games, off course had to apologize later after she approached me, after that, asked me out to the movies! made an a move, a day or two later made an "all in" move, she refused to give an answer, asked me out with her and her girlfriend! made another move, hinted its a last chance as i usually do not give it, had some touching going on, tried to kiss her, she refused with uncertainty saying there is no turning back if we kiss and that was it untill now, am showing her a bit more attention, thought i'd "force" a final answer or back off, so i went out again with this girl, this time i insisted on an answer, we talked a lot, she said she likes me a lot but she had concerns, like she has been through bad experiences and she wants me to be sure i want a relationship, she said she had concerns about age (she is a year older than me) and the fact that we are work colleagues and friends, i tried to explain and talked about all those concerns, we kissed for a moment but then she backed off, at the end when she did not give an answer, i explained to her that it is pointless if she cannot decide and that i cannot just keep being around, she got a bit upset and asked me why did i end this at this time and not earlier, i said because i liked her that much that i wanted to give it another chance and said it is not pointless if she decides, and that was it, i think i was cool later with it, i saw her at work off course the day after, i was cool, did not change anything, i think i need help! i can move on but i keep wondering whether i did something wrong and the fact that i see her everyday just annoying! any suggestions please?
i have a bit of a dilemma, i can't figure out how to proceed, so she is a work colleague for almost 8 months, there was no interest at first, started to feel mutual attraction at some point, like 3 months ago, approached her, got an uncertain rejection, she said she does not want to "fool around", at some point "snapped out" and made her understand i don't play games, off course had to apologize later after she approached me, after that, asked me out to the movies! made an a move, a day or two later made an "all in" move, she refused to give an answer, asked me out with her and her girlfriend! made another move, hinted its a last chance as i usually do not give it, had some touching going on, tried to kiss her, she refused with uncertainty saying there is no turning back if we kiss and that was it untill now, am showing her a bit more attention, thought i'd "force" a final answer or back off, so i went out again with this girl, this time i insisted on an answer, we talked a lot, she said she likes me a lot but she had concerns, like she has been through bad experiences and she wants me to be sure i want a relationship, she said she had concerns about age (she is a year older than me) and the fact that we are work colleagues and friends, i tried to explain and talked about all those concerns, we kissed for a moment but then she backed off, at the end when she did not give an answer, i explained to her that it is pointless if she cannot decide and that i cannot just keep being around, she got a bit upset and asked me why did i end this at this time and not earlier, i said because i liked her that much that i wanted to give it another chance and said it is not pointless if she decides, and that was it, i think i was cool later with it, i saw her at work off course the day after, i was cool, did not change anything, i think i need help! i can move on but i keep wondering whether i did something wrong and the fact that i see her everyday just annoying! any suggestions please?
, i tried earlier with her what you mentioned, she shit tested me i stayed solid until she made it clear she doesn't want to "fool around" and if any then she'd want a relationship, that's when i started to approach her and be more open about it, i did not give her an ultimatum but i told her that i cannot just keep doing this and i do not usually stick around that much so she will have to decide , but i get what you are saying, i do not want to be or look needy, well i know my posts kinda imply that i am but i only wanted to cut it off because i guess i am not willing to spend anymore time on this, recently she approached me said that she is interested and that she feels bad about us being just friends but she is scared etc..., i think i got the bottom line, i will keep it up to her now if not then move on.... thanks man