madonna/whore chick?

[antidox]

i've been talking to this chick a while, clearly failing to seduce her. she is the madonna/whore complex and i have no idea how to deal with this.

madonna/jekyl
some guy seen us together a few weeks running and made a remark that she's the chick AntiDox is fucking

she didn't like this, came to find me and made me tell her friend that we haven't fucked. questioned if that's what i've been telling people or if he made it up. i didn't even know who he was!

i used this to set secret frames that i don't kiss and tell and also to check her thoughts by saying if she's that horrified of being with me i'll leave her alone.

whore/hyde
i'm leaving the club with this chick and the bouncer trying to get us out says "take her home and give her a good time" i jokingly say "i'm trying" which is ambiguous and funny. am i saying that as a joke because i'm clearly doing that or am i trying cause her friends blocking me.

one of her friends heard me say "i'm trying" and she wasn't very happy about it because it makes her look weird. a few weeks ago she wanted her friends to know we weren't fucking, now she's annoyed because they think we're not fucking.

if she's worried about looking weird because we're not fucking she can easily fix that, it's not cause i've not been inviting her home or escalating every chance i get.

i know how to find the difficult chicks!!

AntiDox

 

[Jan]

First of all madonna/whore concept is an idea inside males heads and not a female heads. It's men thinking that a girl is EITHER a slut or a saint. Men can't accept in their minds that a single woman can be both at the same time.

Regarding the first situation. If you wanted to communicate to her that you don't kiss and tell, you should have replied to that guy: "Brandon, I told you several times that I'm loyal to you and I only fuck you, no one else. Now, go home." Some random dude pops up and endangers her reputation, which gives you a great chance to really show that you don't kiss and tell. Instead you did shit. No wonder if doesn't feel secure with you. And btw, I suspect you told someone that you want to fuck this chick, and the rumor spread that you do, or they just made it up to look you weak. Either way, most likely the whole situation is your fault.

""i'm trying" which is ambiguous and funny." No, it's not ambigous and funny. It's weak and lame. Once again you proved that you really are not ' don't kiss and tell". Actually you are the exact opposite. What you should have told the bouncer is this "She is a lady. Mind your language." And walk away. This would have showed her that regardless whether you fuck or now, you will always protect her reputation. This is what 'don't kiss and tell' is about.