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Hey.
I've been reading around and trying to find where my game could still be improved. Always room for improvement and I think it's a better strategy to accept there's always things I could be improving than get frustrated with getting to a certain point and wanting more.
So approaching, getting dates, etc. I'm doing fine. Had a blip after finishing seeing someone through the new year but had a string of dates the past 2 weeks and hit my stride again.
So here's something that stood out to me in reading some old atricles: Being mysterious and building intrigue.
I've said before a sticking point is when I'm interested in a girl as more GF material I love struggled keeping them around. Now I know the strategy is to get her to bed asap. So I accept that as a huge factor.. but putting it aside for a minute. Here's where I feel I lose some control of the situation:
It's easy to be the mysterious guy she meets going about her day. Being foreign may even help. I'm a little different and she has questions.
But fast forward a few weeks. We've been seeing each other and this is where it has been make or break. She could be hooked or she could be feeling she k ow all she needs and it's running it's course. I think this is where I feel I am then lacking any control over the situation. I'm back to just "hoping for the best". I want to try understand and improve this area. Obviously it's usually the ones I'm interested most in are less hooked. It could be me or it could be simply they have more options and I am not yet managing to position myself as their no.1 choice.
How to continue the mystery and intrigue. When I think what hooks me with a woman. Besides her looks there's usually something about her that when I leave her I'm looking to ask her more and learn more about her.
I've been reading around and trying to find where my game could still be improved. Always room for improvement and I think it's a better strategy to accept there's always things I could be improving than get frustrated with getting to a certain point and wanting more.
So approaching, getting dates, etc. I'm doing fine. Had a blip after finishing seeing someone through the new year but had a string of dates the past 2 weeks and hit my stride again.
So here's something that stood out to me in reading some old atricles: Being mysterious and building intrigue.
I've said before a sticking point is when I'm interested in a girl as more GF material I love struggled keeping them around. Now I know the strategy is to get her to bed asap. So I accept that as a huge factor.. but putting it aside for a minute. Here's where I feel I lose some control of the situation:
It's easy to be the mysterious guy she meets going about her day. Being foreign may even help. I'm a little different and she has questions.
But fast forward a few weeks. We've been seeing each other and this is where it has been make or break. She could be hooked or she could be feeling she k ow all she needs and it's running it's course. I think this is where I feel I am then lacking any control over the situation. I'm back to just "hoping for the best". I want to try understand and improve this area. Obviously it's usually the ones I'm interested most in are less hooked. It could be me or it could be simply they have more options and I am not yet managing to position myself as their no.1 choice.
How to continue the mystery and intrigue. When I think what hooks me with a woman. Besides her looks there's usually something about her that when I leave her I'm looking to ask her more and learn more about her.
