- Joined
- Apr 28, 2014
- Messages
- 18
Okay, so I wrote about this girl one other thread of mine. Where I tried to analyze what was moving in this girl's mind. Actually, I think there were two girls which I wrote about in that post, but now I'm going to focus on just one of them.
I realized that she's most presumably interested. Or at least, given the clues, I do need to switch on the auto assumption-mode.
Let's just "quickly" recap the signs. They're not in any specific order. There are more signs which I've wrote on the other article, so I'm not going to list them here. These other are "she and her friends noting me when I enter the room", and maybe a few other.
- She smiles to me a lot.
This can happen be when I'm ending a smalltalk with her, like a "finishing smile". Or sometimes it's an answering smile for me smiling. As an example, there was this one occasion when we were in the same room (there were other people also), and I was smiling to this stumbling person in the background. She didn't know that I was smiling for it, but I happened to look at her, while smiling, and she immediately answered with her trademark smile (smile + a faint "hum"-sound). It's a littlebit of a forced smile, but she certainly tries to communicate with it. I don't see her doing this to other people.
- She wants to have a conversation with me/communicate with me
These are more rare, but sometimes when we are in the same room, she may ask me to join what she's doing. Once she ended up sitting next to me, though she hesitated a bit (which probably indicated nervousness). I should've been more open to her, but instead I waited for her to make an opening move. She did eventually open up a small conversation, but.. Well, it wasn't really good and it ended up confusing me a bit.
But oh man, this girl's just so cute. I don't know whether it's a role she's taking, or if she's literally just adorable in her whole personality.. Rainbows and smiling stars are how I would describe her.
- She's done an approach invitation
Once we were at the same bar, and I was busy showing off at the dance floor. We noted each other at the dance floor, but I was too ignorant to make a move - this was before I found CG.
She went to the bar counter, and glanced to me at times from there. These were the approach invitations. I guess she was trying to say, "Yes, I know you can dance. Now come here.". Or maybe she was just thinking, "Wow, this guy really has endurance.". Anyway, I didn't approach her. I was soaking with sweat and I thought she wouldn't like it. Also, I just wanted to keep on dancing, to "show how long I can dance".
Then I made a third mistake. I left the bar while she was visiting a bathroom (I had a busy schedule the next day). I thought I would appear more mysterious that way, but I don't know.. Thinking it now, I could've just gone to her, chatted a few words, told her that I needed to go and maybe exchanced our numbers to keep in touch.
*Going to the point*
Okay, so I now believe she's interested. She tends to have orbiters, and one alpha bf-material which she hangs out with often (the usual routine is that at an event, they hang out closely together for a couple for hours, but it always ends up with the guy leaving the girl alone, while heading out to hang out with other girls whom are out of this girl's social circle). Earlier, I would take this whole orbiter thing as a major object, making it harder for me to make a move. But now I ignore the fact.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
But what I do want to know, is that should I just go and ask her for a date, or should I wait for a bar evening where we both are at the same time (it will happen eventually), and head for deep diving --> escalation.
This has gone on for a couple of months now, so it could be that my attraction expiration date has gone already, due to my inactiveness. But still, I'm going to try it out.
What I would think, is that I should perhaps have to try it at a bar. Because right now she can be disappointed in me. After all, she has shown to me that she's interested, but I haven't done a move.
Now, if I close up for the conversation and actually take things forward, it might turn the heater back on.
There's only the orbiter thing. Should I try and deep dive the girl in front of the orbiter, or should I wait for the guy to leave and then approach the girl? But if I wait for the guy to leave, it could be that the girl actually leaves with the guy.
I realized that she's most presumably interested. Or at least, given the clues, I do need to switch on the auto assumption-mode.
Let's just "quickly" recap the signs. They're not in any specific order. There are more signs which I've wrote on the other article, so I'm not going to list them here. These other are "she and her friends noting me when I enter the room", and maybe a few other.
- She smiles to me a lot.
This can happen be when I'm ending a smalltalk with her, like a "finishing smile". Or sometimes it's an answering smile for me smiling. As an example, there was this one occasion when we were in the same room (there were other people also), and I was smiling to this stumbling person in the background. She didn't know that I was smiling for it, but I happened to look at her, while smiling, and she immediately answered with her trademark smile (smile + a faint "hum"-sound). It's a littlebit of a forced smile, but she certainly tries to communicate with it. I don't see her doing this to other people.
- She wants to have a conversation with me/communicate with me
These are more rare, but sometimes when we are in the same room, she may ask me to join what she's doing. Once she ended up sitting next to me, though she hesitated a bit (which probably indicated nervousness). I should've been more open to her, but instead I waited for her to make an opening move. She did eventually open up a small conversation, but.. Well, it wasn't really good and it ended up confusing me a bit.
But oh man, this girl's just so cute. I don't know whether it's a role she's taking, or if she's literally just adorable in her whole personality.. Rainbows and smiling stars are how I would describe her.
- She's done an approach invitation
Once we were at the same bar, and I was busy showing off at the dance floor. We noted each other at the dance floor, but I was too ignorant to make a move - this was before I found CG.
She went to the bar counter, and glanced to me at times from there. These were the approach invitations. I guess she was trying to say, "Yes, I know you can dance. Now come here.". Or maybe she was just thinking, "Wow, this guy really has endurance.". Anyway, I didn't approach her. I was soaking with sweat and I thought she wouldn't like it. Also, I just wanted to keep on dancing, to "show how long I can dance".
Then I made a third mistake. I left the bar while she was visiting a bathroom (I had a busy schedule the next day). I thought I would appear more mysterious that way, but I don't know.. Thinking it now, I could've just gone to her, chatted a few words, told her that I needed to go and maybe exchanced our numbers to keep in touch.
*Going to the point*
Okay, so I now believe she's interested. She tends to have orbiters, and one alpha bf-material which she hangs out with often (the usual routine is that at an event, they hang out closely together for a couple for hours, but it always ends up with the guy leaving the girl alone, while heading out to hang out with other girls whom are out of this girl's social circle). Earlier, I would take this whole orbiter thing as a major object, making it harder for me to make a move. But now I ignore the fact.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
But what I do want to know, is that should I just go and ask her for a date, or should I wait for a bar evening where we both are at the same time (it will happen eventually), and head for deep diving --> escalation.
This has gone on for a couple of months now, so it could be that my attraction expiration date has gone already, due to my inactiveness. But still, I'm going to try it out.
What I would think, is that I should perhaps have to try it at a bar. Because right now she can be disappointed in me. After all, she has shown to me that she's interested, but I haven't done a move.
Now, if I close up for the conversation and actually take things forward, it might turn the heater back on.
There's only the orbiter thing. Should I try and deep dive the girl in front of the orbiter, or should I wait for the guy to leave and then approach the girl? But if I wait for the guy to leave, it could be that the girl actually leaves with the guy.
