Making girls chase without being a dick

[yoni201]

Hey GC,

I've tried to change my approach when speaking and texting girls.

I would usually act interested in what they are saying, and ask them questions, etc.

I also (when texting) would use emoticons.

I feel like these things make it seem like i'm too easy, which is a turn-off for women.

I've been trying to be much less emotional, and more indifferent to things girls say to me; semi-responding, acting like they aren't really important (without telling them, of course),
not showing too much interest, and not much emotion.

I've also been trying to act suavely, and when a conversation is dying, I say "catch you later", or something, and drop the mic.

Is this the right approach?

Any ideas?


Thanks.

 

[Estate]

I really just don't feel text messaging matters all that much anymore.

When she has met you in person she will have got some sort of idea of you. If she's not giving you much by text it means she didn't see anything she liked in person or she'd be chomping at the bit to reply to you.

 

[yoni201]

What about speaking with girls?

WIll my approach give them the wrong message? (that i'm mean, or something along those lines, or will it be a turn-off?)

 

[NarrowJ]

To Estate's point, he's right.. texting doesn't matter that much *once you're good at interacting in person*

But to be clear, texting well won't necessarily save you from a bad first impression.

That point being made, I feel like texting is only important if you're BAD AT IT. What I mean is, it's necessary to know how to text a girl. It's just something you have to get good at. It won't save you from messing up the initial approach. But, you do have to text her to confirm plans at least, so you need to know how to do that.

Knowing how to text a girl isn't something that will help you get them in bed, it's just a skill that will help you from screwing things up before you do.

My $0.02

NJ

 

[yoni201]

I understand, thanks.

Just to be clear, I wasn't referring to texting when I wrote about my approach, I was referring to face-to-face conversations.

Sorry if I made that unclear.


Thanks!

 

[NarrowJ]

I understand, thanks.

Just to be clear, I wasn't referring to texting when I wrote about my approach, I was referring to face-to-face conversations.

Sorry if I made that unclear.


Thanks!

Ah, yes... reread your initial post. I piggybacked off Estates response perhaps.

Instead of asking a ton of questions just to keep the convo flowing, which seems boring and needy, try assumptions (example: You seem like one of those girls that's really sociable and outgoing) or maybe frame your question as a compliance demand (example: so tell me something really cool about yourself or so tell me what you do in your spare time when you're not busy seducing boys at the mall). Also, if you feel you've hooked her then use a pregnant pause and get HER to drive the convo. Then, she's chasing you

NJ

 

[yoni201]

I'll try that, thanks!

 

[Franco]

yoni,

I also (when texting) would use emoticons.

I feel like these things make it seem like i'm too easy, which is a turn-off for women.

You indeed referred to texting at one point in the post, so I will address that: you should continue to use warm emoticons. This means smiley faces and "winky" faces (if you're being witty or using sexual innuendos). It helps women understand the sentiment and vibe behind the text, rather than it just being "words on a screen."

So continue to use emoticons, but limit them to one per text maximum[/].

Franco