Making out at mine, she texts she has a BF: how to reply

[lux7]

Brought home a girl and we were making out. I moved on the bed were I removed her bra but couldn’t get past the pants and she stood up.
As I didn’t want her to leave with that memory, we sat another half an hour as we hugged and touched a bit.
I thought it would have been a sure thing on the second meet up.
But now she writes:

“It’s a great evening. But I have a BF.
That’s why I couldn’t stay with you. (that's why she could make out and snuggle all the time)
I thought you want to be my friend (yeah sure).
But its okay. Have a nice day and weekend”

I was a bit put off and angry, I didn’t expect she had a BF (and thank god I didn’t walk her to her place ).
She received a call from someone during the evening to whom she said quite dismissively “I’m busy now” and talked for less than 2 minutes, I guess that was him.

My reply:
“it will be our little secret.
Yes, nice evening.
(inside silly joke)
Until next time “


How does it sound?
Maybe I shouldn't have stressed about the "little secret" as that makes her feel a cheater?

 

[razir110]

In my opinion the bf thing can be:
-a bshit. She can be trying to play you around. Maybe its just a sort of an experiment to see how you react.
-it can also be an excuse not to see you more, but just the fact that she went so far with you shows she doesn't give a damn about her bf and if you are thinking of having something serious with her, have in consideration that she might do the same with you in the future.

I would reply something like "I don't care, If you want to see me again, text me. You were amazing (or something like that)" The thing here is, i would like to give her the next move, otherwise if u text her like "I want to see you again", it would put you into a pet position, like she has a bf, sleeps with a guy and plus he chases her after that. It can be one of those sick games some women like to play (it can be a sort of a psychological disorder...) so you can't feed it. Act perfectly normal, like you don't give a single fuck she has a bf. Well and just try not to sleep with the gf of some huge jealous guy. She might be having a revenge on him and be using you as a tool, so don't risk to get your ass kicked because of some demented bitch (in case she is one.)

Pass the message that the fact of her having or not a bf is non of your concern, she is the one that has to deal with her stuff. You are around, but not to be fooled around.

 

[lux7]

In my opinion the bf thing can be:
-a bshit. She can be trying to play you around. Maybe its just a sort of an experiment to see how you react.
-it can also be an excuse not to see you more, but just the fact that she went so far with you shows she doesn't give a damn about her bf and if you are thinking of having something serious with her, have in consideration that she might do the same with you in the future.

I would reply something like "I don't care, If you want to see me again, text me. You were amazing (or something like that)" The thing here is, i would like to give her the next move, otherwise if u text her like "I want to see you again", it would put you into a pet position, like she has a bf, sleeps with a guy and plus he chases her after that. It can be one of those sick games some women like to play (it can be a sort of a psychological disorder...) so you can't feed it. Act perfectly normal, like you don't give a single fuck she has a bf. Well and just try not to sleep with the gf of some huge jealous guy. She might be having a revenge on him and be using you as a tool, so don't risk to get your ass kicked because of some demented bitch (in case she is one.)

Pass the message that the fact of her having or not a bf is non of your concern, she is the one that has to deal with her stuff. You are around, but not to be fooled around.

I think it's true, I find her FB after that and indeed it said "in a relationship".

I like that boldened part, indeed if you chasing a girl who already has a BF risks of putting you quite low as the guy who's happy with the crumbles.
It wouldn't be my case, I wasn't interested in a relationship and I really don't care much. If anything, it could make things easier and lighter, an advantage. But still the risk is there.
Too late for that though, I guess I'll text in a few days lightly and suggest another meet (she's got "friends" over the weekend, I'm pretty sure now it's the BF).

And the BF is from another Country, she's abroad here as much as I am, so no big dangers for me .

 

[mkivtt]

If she came home with you to make out clearly her BF doesn't mean jack. Keep working on it.

 

[lux7]

Texted her this evening and went like this:

ME
How was the weekend with (inside joke) D .
Mine was quite fun.
When is it a good day for you to meet?

HER
Weekend was great.
But I don't think we can meet.
I'm not looking for any relationship (I wonder why should she think I wanted a relationship with a cheater here for only some months)
I'm sorry. Have a nice evening.

ME
Neither do I , just looking for a good time with cool people and you seemed so

HER
I saw last week what you wanted. (yep, I did it all by myself :S )
Anyway I don't have time this week.
Maybe later, I'll think about it.

ME
D. D... I never forced anybody and I'm not gonna start now.
You seemed like a cool girl and if we feel like sharing a nice time together, let's just do so


What do you think?
It puzzles me how at times a girl, especially if with a BF, is so happy to be with you and then never wants to see you again..

 

[mkivtt]

She's stupid... drop her. I would probably call her out on it, just like you wrote "yeah, I did it all alone..."

You could try to be real smooth and take her out again (sorry, how is beyond my skill level) but it looks like she's dead set on not meeting you again.