- Joined
- Jul 17, 2013
- Messages
- 1,554
Here's a question I've never really understood. It has baffled me throughout my adult life, and the odd thing is, although I have had so many realizations as a result of reading articles here, going out several days a week into the field, and putting in the work to do cold-approaches over the course of 10 months, and although I've learned so much and improved in so many areas... I'm still no nearer to the answer to this particular question.
Why is it so much easier to make progress and escalate with girls who have ONLY sex appeal, as opposed to those who have romantic appeal also?
I guess I'm not the only one to have noticed this. Making progress with girls who have sex appeal, but are devoid of any form of romantic appeal, is really a matter of fundamentals and process. Hell, I could do it reasonably well in my youth, on and off. I wasn't ever good—that's why I'm here—but I know it's possible because I've done it enough times. I've even had relationships with them. Yes, my process is patchy, but I'm working on it. I can see improvement, and I truly believe I can get it down if I continue to work hard.
But girls with romantic appeal? How does one even go about pushing things forward with them? Now, obviously, such girls have comprised almost exactly one-third of the chicks I've cold-approached to date, so it's not like I'm incapable of acting in the beginning. Even of the 63 phone numbers I've gotten since I started this process, 23 are from girls with romantic appeal, so it's not like my number-close rate is any lower. But actually escalating with them seems so daunting.
I assume I'm not the only one who has made this observation?
I hope I'm being clear. What I'm trying to say is that with the type of girl who only holds pure sexual interest for men, in the absence of any other form of attraction, it's possible to remain clear-headed, banter and tease her a bit, push things forward and see what happens... after all, a man has nothing to lose here, right? You might get nothing, or you might get a sex partner, and if she's nice enough and interesting, you might get a girlfriend, a serious relationship, or even a wife if that's what you want.
But in the case of girls with romantic appeal, by which I mean the ones you might love, what do you even do? You obviously can't treat them the same as girls with sex appeal only—that would be profoundly insulting. So you have to romance them somehow, like in the movies, but trouble with that is that there are so many places you can slip up. It's so much more difficult. All the relationships I've had, it's always been with girls I'm initially interested in sexually only. Later on, reluctantly, I might develop other feelings for them. But things never seem to work out with the sort of girl that I'd have romantic feelings for from the start. And those, obviously, are the best girls.
It's damned confusing. I tell you, friends, I've been puzzling over it for a good 20 years and although Girls Chase has taught me so much, for which I'm profoundly grateful, I'm sorry to say: I don't feel much closer to the answer on this one.
Has anyone thought about it in the same way? Has anyone actually solved it, and if so, what have you learned?
Thank you!
Why is it so much easier to make progress and escalate with girls who have ONLY sex appeal, as opposed to those who have romantic appeal also?
I guess I'm not the only one to have noticed this. Making progress with girls who have sex appeal, but are devoid of any form of romantic appeal, is really a matter of fundamentals and process. Hell, I could do it reasonably well in my youth, on and off. I wasn't ever good—that's why I'm here—but I know it's possible because I've done it enough times. I've even had relationships with them. Yes, my process is patchy, but I'm working on it. I can see improvement, and I truly believe I can get it down if I continue to work hard.
But girls with romantic appeal? How does one even go about pushing things forward with them? Now, obviously, such girls have comprised almost exactly one-third of the chicks I've cold-approached to date, so it's not like I'm incapable of acting in the beginning. Even of the 63 phone numbers I've gotten since I started this process, 23 are from girls with romantic appeal, so it's not like my number-close rate is any lower. But actually escalating with them seems so daunting.
I assume I'm not the only one who has made this observation?
I hope I'm being clear. What I'm trying to say is that with the type of girl who only holds pure sexual interest for men, in the absence of any other form of attraction, it's possible to remain clear-headed, banter and tease her a bit, push things forward and see what happens... after all, a man has nothing to lose here, right? You might get nothing, or you might get a sex partner, and if she's nice enough and interesting, you might get a girlfriend, a serious relationship, or even a wife if that's what you want.
But in the case of girls with romantic appeal, by which I mean the ones you might love, what do you even do? You obviously can't treat them the same as girls with sex appeal only—that would be profoundly insulting. So you have to romance them somehow, like in the movies, but trouble with that is that there are so many places you can slip up. It's so much more difficult. All the relationships I've had, it's always been with girls I'm initially interested in sexually only. Later on, reluctantly, I might develop other feelings for them. But things never seem to work out with the sort of girl that I'd have romantic feelings for from the start. And those, obviously, are the best girls.
It's damned confusing. I tell you, friends, I've been puzzling over it for a good 20 years and although Girls Chase has taught me so much, for which I'm profoundly grateful, I'm sorry to say: I don't feel much closer to the answer on this one.
Has anyone thought about it in the same way? Has anyone actually solved it, and if so, what have you learned?
Thank you!
