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I will provide a TL;DR version of the context
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Over the summer at school, we had a visiting student from a different school doing research in our group. Her name is Christine. We never really spoke much, only what needed to be said really, about lab stuff. Fast forward to 4 days before I graduate, we match on Tinder, and do some chit chatting there. She eventually gives me a thinly veiled way of saying she finds me attractive, so I ask for her number, which she doesn't give, and starts to play hard-to-get. I tried once more, but I see her guard is up, so I drop it. I playfully tease her about it the next day.
Fast forward even more to last week, about a month after leaving school (her research project has also ended, so she went back to her school (~30 minutes away)). She messages me on Tinder asking whats up. I say oh ya know, this and that, how about you. This goes on for a bit until we eventually get to stories of Tinder dates. Again, she puts her guard up saying that my perception of her will change if she tells me her story. I eventually get it out of her, it was a failed attempt at a foursome. I offer up my story of a failed threesome. So I said we're both interested in having multiple partners, so next time you want to have a threesome, get in touch with me. She says her friend would be totally down to do it with us. Then she gives me her number.
We planned it for Aug 22, but we couldn't find a venue. She lives in a small town with her parents and the motels there are dirty, sketchy places which she won't do. She said that occasionally her sister goes away for the weekend so she could use her sisters place. So unfortunately, the threesome didn't happen.
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TL;DR Version
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Girl in my research group matched with me on Tinder, played hard to get. We got onto the topic of sex with multiple partners, and said her friend would join us. We planned the threesome for Aug 22, but we couldn't find a venue so it didn't happen.
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Why this worries me, or basically what I'm aiming for
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What worries me is that girls can be fickle about these things. One minute they're up for it, next they might not be. Are you ever gung-ho for an idea when you first think of it, but give it some time and your enthusiasm drops? That's what I'm worried about, that she might change her mind.
Second, is there a way I can text her or not text her to keep her excited and thinking about when the next time she'd be available? (Basically to negate any loss of enthusiasm) I obviously don't want to appear desperate or needy in doing so.
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Long Version
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Over the summer at school, we had a visiting student from a different school doing research in our group. Her name is Christine. We never really spoke much, only what needed to be said really, about lab stuff. Fast forward to 4 days before I graduate, we match on Tinder, and do some chit chatting there. She eventually gives me a thinly veiled way of saying she finds me attractive, so I ask for her number, which she doesn't give, and starts to play hard-to-get. I tried once more, but I see her guard is up, so I drop it. I playfully tease her about it the next day.
Fast forward even more to last week, about a month after leaving school (her research project has also ended, so she went back to her school (~30 minutes away)). She messages me on Tinder asking whats up. I say oh ya know, this and that, how about you. This goes on for a bit until we eventually get to stories of Tinder dates. Again, she puts her guard up saying that my perception of her will change if she tells me her story. I eventually get it out of her, it was a failed attempt at a foursome. I offer up my story of a failed threesome. So I said we're both interested in having multiple partners, so next time you want to have a threesome, get in touch with me. She says her friend would be totally down to do it with us. Then she gives me her number.
We planned it for Aug 22, but we couldn't find a venue. She lives in a small town with her parents and the motels there are dirty, sketchy places which she won't do. She said that occasionally her sister goes away for the weekend so she could use her sisters place. So unfortunately, the threesome didn't happen.
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TL;DR Version
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Girl in my research group matched with me on Tinder, played hard to get. We got onto the topic of sex with multiple partners, and said her friend would join us. We planned the threesome for Aug 22, but we couldn't find a venue so it didn't happen.
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Why this worries me, or basically what I'm aiming for
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What worries me is that girls can be fickle about these things. One minute they're up for it, next they might not be. Are you ever gung-ho for an idea when you first think of it, but give it some time and your enthusiasm drops? That's what I'm worried about, that she might change her mind.
Second, is there a way I can text her or not text her to keep her excited and thinking about when the next time she'd be available? (Basically to negate any loss of enthusiasm) I obviously don't want to appear desperate or needy in doing so.
All you can do is keep yourself available for when the stars suddenly align. In the meantime don't try to force a meet, but don't totally go radio silence either. They have to know you're available for when the time comes.