I often have to go get lunch at our university cafeteria by myself, but since I have a free afternoon afterwords I like to pick up some company while I'm eating. I've found that with solid fundamentals almost no girl has an issue with a sexy stranger joining them for lunch, and that's enough encouragement to try this almost any time I'm feeling up for it.
Unfortunately, there aren't many girls eating by themselves, or the ones that are usually aren't very cute at all. Most cute girls are eating in pairs or groups, and from my experience thats a bit different then managing a simple 1 on 1 date. Right now the only outcomes I'm getting are that I meet women who will be very warm the next time they see me on campus, but that's not what I'd like to settle for.
I've been in this situation a few times already, and I'm starting to notice all the trends and implications being with 2 girls has, and I'd like to take an observation dump and see what insights/additions the Girlschase community has on this:
- Interruptions - As it becomes obvious that I'm vibing very well with Girl A, Girl B will start talking about some random bullshit to break our connection. I know this is intentional, but its still painfully effective for her.
- Jealousy - As observed from body language, girl B will start flipping her hair and getting antsy, I use this info now to predict her trying to interrupt me and girl A. It's not bad enough that they destroy our interaction, but when I don't take the lead of the conversation it tends to fall into girl talk.
- Girl Talk - Seeing as these two girls went to get lunch together I think it's understandable that they want to have their own conversations, and I let them. I'm considering whether I shouldn't. The problem with this is that its almost like a reset button between me and either girl. I can still reignite our connection almost at will, but girl talk consistently cuts our flow.
When girls start talking amongst themselves, and this happens more with groups of 3+, there are 2 ways I can behave:
1 - jump in and start relating with all of them, become part of the group. I've pulled this off before by maintaining my independence from the group and having them engage me, but if I dive in too willingly I think I'd come off as too friendly or much of an entertainer. I risk losing my sexy vibe big time.
2 - be aloof and only engage when asked or when I want to contribute something. Currently my method is to lay back, eat my food, sip my drink, and appear a bit aloof, until they hit a topic that I can casually jump in to relate with them on and make the interaction constructive again. However, I'm worried that I might look a bit serious/bored instead. I see how well they hook after reengaging to measure where I am in that respect, but all it really seems to be doing is getting them to continue their girl talk to keep the table from getting quiet.
- Future Investment - The last observation I want to make is that most girls are too busy to do anything immediately after our lunch. Even as college students, they either have a class or some meetings/work to do, and getting a girl to come back home with me after a lunch is unreasonably difficult. Even girls who hooked on Hello would have reservations about coming home with me. Is this a "because her friend is right next to her" kind of thing, does it pay to be convincingly more persistent, or is grabbing a # instead always the right call?
All these observations being made, is there a right/wrong/better way of handling a 2 girl lunch? Do I have to tactically sit through girl talk or should I be leading the conversation the same way I would if it was just 1 girl?
I'm going to try just that the next time. I will deep dive Girl A, then when I see Girl B getting antsy I will get her involved too. I figure that as long as its on my terms and they don't take the reins of the conversation the interaction will stay out of girl-talk territory and keep moving forward. I'm envisioning that if I could get them both well invested it would be simply natural to grab a # mid-conversation and setting good frames about what we're going to do in the near future. I'm thinking that last one is critical in solving the issue of future investment I talked about earlier.
- TR
Unfortunately, there aren't many girls eating by themselves, or the ones that are usually aren't very cute at all. Most cute girls are eating in pairs or groups, and from my experience thats a bit different then managing a simple 1 on 1 date. Right now the only outcomes I'm getting are that I meet women who will be very warm the next time they see me on campus, but that's not what I'd like to settle for.
I've been in this situation a few times already, and I'm starting to notice all the trends and implications being with 2 girls has, and I'd like to take an observation dump and see what insights/additions the Girlschase community has on this:
- Interruptions - As it becomes obvious that I'm vibing very well with Girl A, Girl B will start talking about some random bullshit to break our connection. I know this is intentional, but its still painfully effective for her.
- Jealousy - As observed from body language, girl B will start flipping her hair and getting antsy, I use this info now to predict her trying to interrupt me and girl A. It's not bad enough that they destroy our interaction, but when I don't take the lead of the conversation it tends to fall into girl talk.
- Girl Talk - Seeing as these two girls went to get lunch together I think it's understandable that they want to have their own conversations, and I let them. I'm considering whether I shouldn't. The problem with this is that its almost like a reset button between me and either girl. I can still reignite our connection almost at will, but girl talk consistently cuts our flow.
When girls start talking amongst themselves, and this happens more with groups of 3+, there are 2 ways I can behave:
1 - jump in and start relating with all of them, become part of the group. I've pulled this off before by maintaining my independence from the group and having them engage me, but if I dive in too willingly I think I'd come off as too friendly or much of an entertainer. I risk losing my sexy vibe big time.
2 - be aloof and only engage when asked or when I want to contribute something. Currently my method is to lay back, eat my food, sip my drink, and appear a bit aloof, until they hit a topic that I can casually jump in to relate with them on and make the interaction constructive again. However, I'm worried that I might look a bit serious/bored instead. I see how well they hook after reengaging to measure where I am in that respect, but all it really seems to be doing is getting them to continue their girl talk to keep the table from getting quiet.
- Future Investment - The last observation I want to make is that most girls are too busy to do anything immediately after our lunch. Even as college students, they either have a class or some meetings/work to do, and getting a girl to come back home with me after a lunch is unreasonably difficult. Even girls who hooked on Hello would have reservations about coming home with me. Is this a "because her friend is right next to her" kind of thing, does it pay to be convincingly more persistent, or is grabbing a # instead always the right call?
All these observations being made, is there a right/wrong/better way of handling a 2 girl lunch? Do I have to tactically sit through girl talk or should I be leading the conversation the same way I would if it was just 1 girl?
I'm going to try just that the next time. I will deep dive Girl A, then when I see Girl B getting antsy I will get her involved too. I figure that as long as its on my terms and they don't take the reins of the conversation the interaction will stay out of girl-talk territory and keep moving forward. I'm envisioning that if I could get them both well invested it would be simply natural to grab a # mid-conversation and setting good frames about what we're going to do in the near future. I'm thinking that last one is critical in solving the issue of future investment I talked about earlier.
- TR
