Casual/FWB Managing Casual Relationship

[Gonzaleth]

I just read:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-s ... girlfriend
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-d ... zero-drama

and I have to say that I am really interested in exploring casual relationships since it is something new for me. Always have been in LTR, and casual relationship seems more enticing to me now than LTR.

I understand that managing a casual relationship involves managing expectations and emotions, but I am sure there will be times when things still get skewed despite your best effort. So I would really like to learn from others how to handle some of the logistics of casual relationship.

1) If a girl talks about other men she slept with outside of their casual relationship, is the guy expected to share his experience with bedding other girls to reciprocate? Or should he just change topic and keep things to himself?

2) If a girl in a casual relationship with you text to ask you what you are doing/where you are/who you are with, do you:
a) Dont respond
b) Be gentle but outright with her and tell her there and then that you prefer not to be tracked
c) Any other better response?
I know many see this as a sign that a girl is getting too attached and the guy probably mishandled the casual relationship, but is it possible to put a stop right there by doing (b) and pull her back to casual mindset again?

3) After sex, is the guy expected to talk/chat/deepdive with the girl if he is expecting to come back for more? I am guessing up and leaving after the act is a definite no-no, but I am trying to find out how to provide warmth without coming across as too boyfriend-y.

Appreciate any advice.

 

[Chase]

Gonzaleth-

On your questions:

1) If a girl talks about other men she slept with outside of their casual relationship, is the guy expected to share his experience with bedding other girls to reciprocate? Or should he just change topic and keep things to himself?

Don't go into your own conquests - then you just get into a dick-measuring contest, risk getting her emotional and jealous, and that doesn't really do anything for you. She's normally going to assume that if she's sleeping with other people, so are you too, so there's no need for you to confirm this for her with details. Just change topics, unless you're genuinely curious and want to know more about her other encounters.

2) If a girl in a casual relationship with you text to ask you what you are doing/where you are/who you are with, do you:
a) Dont respond
b) Be gentle but outright with her and tell her there and then that you prefer not to be tracked
c) Any other better response?
I know many see this as a sign that a girl is getting too attached and the guy probably mishandled the casual relationship, but is it possible to put a stop right there by doing (b) and pull her back to casual mindset again?

Just respond with, "Hey, what's up?" She's probably just using it as a way to get in touch with you / find out if you're available, and may not be as socially calibrated.

3) After sex, is the guy expected to talk/chat/deepdive with the girl if he is expecting to come back for more? I am guessing up and leaving after the act is a definite no-no, but I am trying to find out how to provide warmth without coming across as too boyfriend-y.

Appreciate any advice.

Talking here is fine - just be social, and have the kind of conversation you'd have with a platonic female friend or a guy friend. Don't get emotional or overly deep. No need for deep diving, unless you're genuinely interested in some topic. After a little chatting, you can excuse yourself and head out if you have things to do. You usually don't want to spend the night with her unless you want her getting more attached.

Chase

 

[Gonzaleth]

Thanks for your reply Chase! As a guy who has always been in LTR, getting into casual relationships is something that is really beyond my comfort zone - something that I never imagined I will dare venture into until I came across this site!