Managing dates after the pickup,would love to get some help

[Jonathan4all]

Hey there guys.Im new to this forum and im happy to be here.

I've dated lots of girls in my life,but had sex with very few of them.
The articles on GC site helped me realize im in the boyfriend zone,so i was constantly slow gamed by girls.

I implemented the stuff about disqualfying yourself as a boyrfriend while i was aborad,and laid about 20 girls(which was pretty easy,all i had to do is tell them im a tourist).
Now im back home.When i interact nowdays,i am able to portray myself as the lover or a bit of a "bad boy" (showing them my "freaky side",telling them how much i love women and partying).
I did have some success pulling girls home lately.Actually,in my last interactions i should have pushed harder at the end,these girls were DTF but logistics were not "good enough".my mistake.

Now,after the pickup,Im offering those girls to meet up(who i believe didnt slot me into the boyfriend zone),but it just doesnt happen,because they are tired that day,they are having a bad day...and in genreal,reasons that out of my control.I believe they do want to meet up,and not just rejecting me.These girls liked me a lot when we first met.

Problem is,after a while things start to cool down with them...and it just doesnt feel "on" that much,at least for me.I feel its kind of like a thin line to walk on- i keep on persisting and offering to meet again every couple of days,but on the other hand im trying not to come off too needy and blow it.

What should i do? How should i play it?
I would love to hear good advices from real experienced guys who have dealt with this before.
Much regards,
Jonathan.

 

[Ross]

I implemented the stuff about disqualfying yourself as a boyrfriend while i was aborad,and laid about 20 girls(which was pretty easy,all i had to do is tell them im a tourist).
Now im back home.When i interact nowdays,i am able to portray myself as the lover or a bit of a "bad boy" (showing them my "freaky side",telling them how much i love women and partying).
I did have some success pulling girls home lately.Actually,in my last interactions i should have pushed harder at the end,these girls were DTF but logistics were not "good enough".my mistake.

Now,after the pickup,Im offering those girls to meet up(who i believe didnt slot me into the boyfriend zone),but it just doesnt happen,because they are tired that day,they are having a bad day...and in genreal,reasons that out of my control.I believe they do want to meet up,and not just rejecting me.These girls liked me a lot when we first met.

Problem is,after a while things start to cool down with them...and it just doesnt feel "on" that much,at least for me.I feel its kind of like a thin line to walk on- i keep on persisting and offering to meet again every couple of days,but on the other hand im trying not to come off too needy and blow it.

If I read this right, you are meeting girls and advancing with them, but unable to pull them home because of logistics. Then you try and get them to meet up after the fact, but they aren't interested.

Could you provide some specific example scenarios of how these interactions are going down? I don't think that persistently asking them is the issue in this situation; I feel as if the problem mainly lies in the interaction beforehand. Although, if you provide some examples of how you're persisting, that can help too.

 

[Jonathan4all]

Hi man.FIrst of tall thanks for the respone.

I think i didnt explain myself right-let me clarify that.

Im meeting girls that seem pretty DTF and like me a lot,at night usally.Sometimes i cant pull them right then an there,and just take their number.

When i call them they are simply unavailable to meet.They are having a bad day,they are busy with moving out to another apartment,they are tired...things that out of my control.

Problem is,when i contact them again and again,after a while it starts to become expected,and im starting to walk on a thin line-contacting them every once in a while(once a week or more),but still try not to seem too needy.

Meanwhile,i dont know if its right to say that the attraction fades,becuase i had a strong impact on them when i met them,but you know...it simply starts to feel less and less fun.

How do you deal with that?
Thanks man,it is very appreciated.
Jonathan.