"Me and only me"—little white lie? Confused.

[Marty]

Okay, so back in the "bad old days" when I still used social-network sites like VK and Facebook, before I read Chase's good material on how pathological they are and disconnected my accounts completely (I use LinkedIn to this day, I think that's all right though), I used to see a lot of posts from females, especially younger females, say, under 30, reading as follows:

• I want a man who loves me and only me.

The wording was not always the same, it was written in multiple languages, but the essence of the statement was identical in each case: as stated above.

I used to take it at face value. Silly me.

Now I've become more or less familiar with the material on this site—which means: reading all the articles, trying the material out in the field on a very regular basis, coming to the forum and taking an active role in discussions—I've come to realize that much of what is taught is actually diametrically opposed to the statement above.

Women like:

• Men with preselection
• Men with abundance
• Unexpectedly being led to sex... i.e. being kept guessing until the last minute whether he loves her or no at all, never mind "only" her
• Non-pedestalization and non-supplication
• Men who possess experience with women
• Men who have had multiple prior lovers and have thus developed the skill to make a girl the gift of a satisfying and stunning orgasm

...and so forth.

So is the above statement a little white lie actively promulgated in order to preemptively protect the woman's reputation in every case? Or are there simply women who do not fit the bulleted list above and actually prefer supplicating, inexperienced, unpreselected men who will genuinely love her and only her?

Thanks. I feel like I'm back in kindergarten sometimes

-Marty

 

[Thedoctor]

Marty,

I'm not going to directly answer the question in your post here (I'm sure some of the other guys can provide a more articulate response than I can). I just wanted to share an observation I've made from reading a lot of your posts over the months. I hope you don't take this the wrong way, and if I'm out to lunch, then by all means, ignore what I'm about to say. But here it goes:

It kinda seems like you continually want there to be two different kinds of women out there:

The ones that the guys on here pursue (Be sexual, move fast)
And the ones you want to pursue (that involves romance and more movie-style classic seduction)

Here's the problem: They both exist, but they are one and the same. Chicks love the attention they get from a well dressed, well put together guy that wants to court them and bring them the fairy tale romance. But this generally leads nowhere (for reasons I won't repeat here because there is more than enough articles explaining exactly this on the site). These same girls move fast with bad boys.

Girls react to how you initially treat them. If you treat her like a princess, she acts like one. If you treat her (respectfully ) like a slut, she'll act like one.

Girls will complain on FB about "Wanting a man who loves me and only me," while she turns down all the nice guys in her life and jumps into a relationship with another bad boy. You can only ascertain what girls truly want by observing their actions, not listening to their words.

You need to realize that the nice girls, the shy girls, the party girls, the experienced girls, the bossy girls etc all want the same type of man. The sexy, dominant man who shows them the time of their lives. This isn't done by fancy dinners and movies. It's done by great conversation with an underlying sexual tone, followed by great sex. Simple as that.

Again, I don't want this to come off the wrong way, I'm really just trying to offer some useful advise. But I think you need to change the way you view women.

Just my humble opinion. I haven't read all your posts and FR's so maybe I've gotten the wrong impression. Otherwise, I hope it helps you gain some insight.

-John

 

[trashKENNUT]

Thedoctor,

It kinda seems like you continually want there to be two different kinds of women out there:

The ones that the guys on here pursue (Be sexual, move fast)
And the ones you want to pursue (that involves romance and more movie-style classic seduction)

You tend to categorize them, now that Thedoctor said it. The thing now, the way i see it, is to tailor your game around being "sweet and romantic" while moving fast.

Zac

 

[Doctor]

I think these kinds of statements are simply anti-slut defence. Deploy your countermeasures as appropriate!

 

[Franco]

Marty,

One thing to keep in mind when women post (or verbally make) statements like these:

"I want a man who loves me and only me."

...is that they always have a particular guy in mind that they were seeing that didn't give them what they want. In other words, if I saw a girl post this exact statement on my Facebook News Feed, all it would tell me is that she met a guy who slept with her quickly, possibly made some promises he couldn't keep (about him wanting to only be with her), and then slept with other women in the process (or cheated on her after agreeing to commitment).

Guys tend to forget that these posts that girls make almost always come after a specific instance that the girl has in mind when she makes it, and it usually has to do with a guy that moved quickly with her, got sex (likely for an extended period of time), and then moved on without properly handling her expectations.

Don't try to read into women's words. I say it all the time on here, but it never hurts to repeat it: we don't listen to what women say; we only listen to their actions. =)

- Franco