Meeting at hotel: Is this a valid complaint? Or is this a test?

[The Byronic Man]

I've been setting up first dates at a bar/lounge in a Hyatt Hotel. I just had this text conversation with a gal I met online:

ME: Let's grab a drink @ XXXXXX @ 8pm.
HER: Why do you like XXXXXX so much [we tried to meet there last time but she couldn't make it]
HER: R u stating at that hotel?
HER: Staying
ME: Ha, it's quiet and relaxing! And it's close by where I work and live.
HER: Oh! So you want me to come to you?!
ME: We'll meet somewhere close to you next time.
HERon't you think it's kind of weird to meet in a hotel when there are so many gorgeous places to meet in SD...plus I have to pay for parking![/quote]

I ended up just telling her I see her point and changed venue. I usually do the Hyatt lounge because it has large sofas, which I prefer over sitting across each other at a table. Is it really weird to meet at a bar/lounge in a hotel?

 

[Marty]

Byron:

I don't think it's a test. I think the issue is that it's unromantic. Hotel bars have a functional and "fleeting" feel. Having said that, Four Seasons or, at a push, Loews are okay in terms of bars/lounges. Hyatt in the States is disappointing, although it's better across the pond.

What you really need for a date in my view is a place that's sufficiently relaxed and casual that she won't feel under pressure, yet classy and inspiring. In the part if the country where I live, there's a place called Cafe Intermezzo that fits that exact description. No idea whether these exist in San Diego.

Hope this helps.

-Marty

 

[The Byronic Man]

That makes sense.

I've had dates where she isn't free until 11pm. The only place I know of that is close to my place and is open that late is that lounge in the Hyatt. It's literally a 5 minute drive. Maybe I need to be willing to drive up to 15 minutes away?