You are in chasing mode. You have underlying anxiety which makes you want to over-control things, over-think and over-analyze things that you are not successful with. You might even be obsessed with certain thoughts, which creates a mental barrier for you....
In life, not everything is so black and white though, for example, over-thinking and over-analyzing will eventually give you greater insight into things in comparison to average person, assuming that you persist. People who over-think and over-analyze usually achieve quite a high success, it is not surprising that many of them become lawyers or doctors, or great seducers.
One of the less positive things that this thinking style can bring you is, that you might be perceiving lots of negativity. For example, average guy can go out with 20 girls, and he gets laid once. For him it might be a great thing because he is focused on that one time he was successful. Sure, he doesn't like those 19 failures, but he doesn't over-analyze them and he is not trying to control them, thus they escape his mind. On the other hand, a guy who is over-analyzing and is focused on negativity might go out with 20 girls. He gets laid say 5x but he feels miserable anyway because his mind is focused on all those 15 failures. He over-analyzes failures, he tries to control things that are not in his hands... Does it make sense? If you want to be successful don't study failures. Study success, study things that work and forget things that don't...
Indeed, your mind is already trapped in such negative thinking. Let's review some of the keywords you are using:
Limiting, I worry, I'm not improving, I'm not improving FAST/QUICK ENOUGH, I am not progressing quickly, I won't be able to keep up, I won't be able to satisfy women even if, ...
You are beating your brain down with these words. You flooded your brain with lots of negativity and you are expecting success. When you drive a car, do you hit brakes with your left foot - and at the same time hit the gas pedal with right foot? You know what happens, the motor will be squealing, you will hear lots of noise, lots of wasted energy will be generated, perhaps you burn that motor - but the car won't move. It will be stuck at the same place.
Your negativity is like those brakes, you have to release the negativity and move smoothly forward. See if you can change those keywords to more positive things:
* Limiting --> I used to think that I have limiting ability for success, however now I focus on success only, and I am thinking about success
* I worry --> I used to worry a lot, however currently I am focusing on things that work, I am focusing on success. I understand that I have to celebrate success, and I celebrate even small success
* I am not improving fast or progressing fast --> I used to think that I am not improving/progressing enough, but now I understand that every action and every thing I learn is a great step forward. Those steps will eventually accumulate into success, and I am decided to move forward
* I won't be able to keep up --> I am doing just fine, I always do my best and I always move forward at my pace. I'm learning so much every day that eventually others won't be able to keep up with me
* I won't be able to satisfy women even if... --> I am learning the same way as everybody else who is successful. It might take some time to learn to be really great, but at this time I am good enough. All I need is to keep learning, keep trying, keep pushing forward, keep doing every day, little by little - and success is simply inevitable...
See the HUGE difference? Once you learn to think more positively your brain will release those mental brakes and you will move forward.
For example:
Guy A goes for a date. He talks to a girl, tries to take her to home. She rejects him. What does he do? He keeps telling himself: I messed up, it is definitely my fault, I definitely screwed up this one, and most likely I will screw up the next one too. I worry that the next one will not work out, I'm even wonder if there ever be next one. I am not able to keep up with this, even is I were able to take her to my place I would fail anyway... And he goes and feels miserable about himself, he puts himself down, feels sorry for himself, or gets angry and perhaps even hates himself... He may not go out the next couple of days because he feels down, and if he goes he is already Assuming another Failure...
Guy B goes for a date, he talks to the same girl, he tries to take her home. She rejects him. What does he do? He keeps telling himself: That was a great experience, I met a new girl and learned a lot, it is definitely a progress, it adds to my success. It didn't work out today but it is really not big deal, tomorrow is another day. It wasn't really my fault, it is ok that she didn't feel the vibes. Maybe tomorrow I'll get a chance and take another girl to my place, there is abundance of girls and just simply talking to them is such a great success. And he goes and enjoys himself with something he likes because he deserves to celebrate his success. Then he goes out the very next day Assuming another Success...
See the HUGE difference? Both were rejected, yet the final outcome is totally different... Learn to think like a Guy B. Release those brakes, over-analyze success, become obsessed with thoughts about success...
Hope it helps
