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On Friday night I went out with some buddies of mine around 10 pm. I mainly hung around with them and made light chit chat with some girls who joined our table (they weren’t very attractive though). A few hours later I lost them on the dance floor (I later found out they got kicked out for being too drunk) so I was on my own. After dancing on my own for a bit I switched venues, and did pretty the same thing until close (2am).
So the place was still open for a little bit past 2am and there were people sitting around the table. I was sitting there on my phone contemplating what to do and feeling pretty down on myself (I hadn’t made a single approach that night) when I saw a brunette with glasses on her own standing a few meters away from me. It felt like I was sitting there for an eternity contemplating what to do when suddenly a thought ran through my head:
I imagined myself in 60 years time on my deathbed, lonely and full of regret for not taking more chances when I was younger. This was so powerful that it didn’t even feel like I was present at the place anymore – it was almost like I was looking back in time, and suddenly everything around me didn’t seem so important anymore. Who cares if I went up to her? No one would remember it in 60 years anyway.
So I did – I immediately got up and introduced myself. She was warm and receptive but her friend came back soon after that. I danced with them for a while then went to dance with another group of girls and a guy. I still felt like I wasn’t even present – I was just on autopilot. And I wasn’t drunk either – I had been drinking water for the last few hours. After this I went next door and immediately complimented a girl on her hat, went inside and made eye contact with every cute girl walking past. I got a lot of smiles, and this continued later on when I was on the dance floor. Everyone felt warm. At one point I pretty much just looked at a girl dancing in a group and smiled, and she left her group to come up right in front of me. It looked like she wanted to kiss me, and last year I would have, but I read Chase’s article about not kissing in clubs and decided not to. Maybe I should have given her a quick one? Because soon after that she left looking a little disappointed.
At another point another girl I was dancing with kept pulling me back when I left. These girls looked really young too (one had braces) but I didn’t feel like a weirdo dancing with them at all which was a first. It just felt natural. So that was a nice confidence boost and will hopefully help remove some mental hang ups I have about going for younger looking girls..
Anyway, thought I’d share that one since it was crazy how much that little mental trick helped me overcome AA for a few hours. I guess the trick was finding something that scared me more than walking up to a pretty girl.
So the place was still open for a little bit past 2am and there were people sitting around the table. I was sitting there on my phone contemplating what to do and feeling pretty down on myself (I hadn’t made a single approach that night) when I saw a brunette with glasses on her own standing a few meters away from me. It felt like I was sitting there for an eternity contemplating what to do when suddenly a thought ran through my head:
I imagined myself in 60 years time on my deathbed, lonely and full of regret for not taking more chances when I was younger. This was so powerful that it didn’t even feel like I was present at the place anymore – it was almost like I was looking back in time, and suddenly everything around me didn’t seem so important anymore. Who cares if I went up to her? No one would remember it in 60 years anyway.
So I did – I immediately got up and introduced myself. She was warm and receptive but her friend came back soon after that. I danced with them for a while then went to dance with another group of girls and a guy. I still felt like I wasn’t even present – I was just on autopilot. And I wasn’t drunk either – I had been drinking water for the last few hours. After this I went next door and immediately complimented a girl on her hat, went inside and made eye contact with every cute girl walking past. I got a lot of smiles, and this continued later on when I was on the dance floor. Everyone felt warm. At one point I pretty much just looked at a girl dancing in a group and smiled, and she left her group to come up right in front of me. It looked like she wanted to kiss me, and last year I would have, but I read Chase’s article about not kissing in clubs and decided not to. Maybe I should have given her a quick one? Because soon after that she left looking a little disappointed.
At another point another girl I was dancing with kept pulling me back when I left. These girls looked really young too (one had braces) but I didn’t feel like a weirdo dancing with them at all which was a first. It just felt natural. So that was a nice confidence boost and will hopefully help remove some mental hang ups I have about going for younger looking girls..
Anyway, thought I’d share that one since it was crazy how much that little mental trick helped me overcome AA for a few hours. I guess the trick was finding something that scared me more than walking up to a pretty girl.
