Met her today, Going out tomorrow. Ask her home after eating?

[Prehistoric]

I met this girl some 4-5 hours ago. We were at a dinner with other people.

She was sitting next to me and was talking the whole time with me, asking me questions when the conversation was dying and even teasing me and touching me. So I said, f**k it, I'll ask her to go eat something tomorrow night, to which she said ok without hesitation and gave me her number quite easily. Not only that, she mentioned the topic "sex" 2 or 3 times of her own accord (I hadn't mentioned that before) while she was speaking to me.

On the way back (we took the bus together because we were going in the same direction) I thought of making a move but then I remembered all the advice on this forum about saving the kiss for when she's at your place and it can actually lead to sex.

So we chatted and laughed a bit on the bus and when she had to go off she told me "I'll see you tomorrow".

I am thinking to ask her home directly after eating tomorrow night. No "big moves" before. Simply re-creating tonight's vibe, maybe deep-diving a bit more and then say "what about a couple of drinks at my place"?

What do you guys think? And if she hesitates should I insist or ask her to drink something at a bar and then later re-ask her home?

 

[Drck]

Try to think like a hunter, like a Cave Man. You hungry, you go out because you want to eat. Me hungry, Stone Age.

You can't really go directly after every piece of meat that you see and say: Me hungry, eat now. Most will run away right there. You have to go slow, with patience, sometimes perhaps under cover. You know exactly what you want (that piece of meat), but you have to be careful, indirect. Sometimes you can get it on first try. Another times it may take longer, maybe the wind is not in your favor,, but as long as you know what you want and keep going after that, the success is simply inevitable. Like that fucking hunter - patient, careful, perhaps invisible, yet always determined to get exactly what he wants...

So you invite her home, but try indirectly. The words you have are good, but also watch your emotions. You want to be sexy, you want to tell her (without words) that you want sex, you want to express it with your body language. You don't have to go overboard, don't worry, she can read your body language quite well. Once you can express it with your body, the words should be only suggestive. It shouldn't be a logical argument where you keep persisting and convincing her, rather suggestion that both of you should go do what both of you want....

So basically: you go out with her, you think sexy, you feel sexy, you feel pleasure, and it is reflected in your body language >> she mirrors your body language, now she thinks sex and she feels sex, she feels pleasure >> now you suggest to go to your place. No big moves, ok, but you should touch here and there so she gets used to physical contact...

 

[NarrowJ]

Prehistoric,

Yes, you definitely are going to ask her back to your place after the date. Seed something during the date such as some cool photographs you have or something else that interests her. It could even be something as simple as a TV show or movie that you both like.

In addition to seeding something, I'm going to tell you something that's very key in doing this. Well, actually two things:

1) Wait until you are outside, about to go to your cars when you ask her. If you ask her back to your place while you're still there sitting with one another, it gives her more time to mull the options. If you just say, "hey, I think it's time to blow this joint" and then head outside, she'll have it running through her head. She'll think, "Is he going to ask me to come over? Is this it? What's going to happen?!!!", and then when you're just about to part ways, tell her about the thing you seeded during the date and tell her to come see it (movie, photos, whatever). She'll have to make an impulse decision, which is what you want. I can tell you with a high degree of confidence that asking her at this junction will increase your chances tenfold.

2) Dont exhibit any nervousness or hesitation when you ask. Remember that she mirrors your emotions, so the more calm you are when you ask her back to your place, the easier it will be for her to say yes.

So there's two big ones for you. Both of those have been the keys to making this work for me. You know what to do, brother Let us know how it goes!

J.J.

 

[ILoveElla]

Wait until you are outside, about to go to your cars when you ask her. If you ask her back to your place while you're still there sitting with one another, it gives her more time to mull the options. If you just say, "hey, I think it's time to blow this joint" and then head outside, she'll have it running through her head. She'll think, "Is he going to ask me to come over? Is this it? What's going to happen?!!!", and then when you're just about to part ways, tell her about the thing you seeded during the date and tell her to come see it (movie, photos, whatever). She'll have to make an impulse decision, which is what you want. I can tell you with a high degree of confidence that asking her at this junction will increase your chances tenfold.

Now that was helpful, and to the point. I think there's a lot more deliberate vagueness and false hope over on the PUA website

 

[ray_zorse]

Don't forget your plausible deniability.

In a nutshell the words "home" or "my place" tend to raise defenses... this one seems keen but I would play it safe (e.g. she may be looking for a boyfriend or just not into first date sex).

You: it's still pretty early isn't it?
Her: yeah
You: lets grab another drink, I know where to go
Her: okay where are we going?
You: (smiles mysteriously and leads her by the hand)

If you must verbalize say things like "come on, you'll see!" or "I'll take you somewhere with cocktails/wine/whatever you have & are drinking together".

Inviting her back for some activity like film etc, is same idea but less extreme.

Note I also snuck in a brief yes-ladder... this can kill you if you overthink it or make it too obvious so best to practice your yes-ladders on women who don't matter, but it still doesn't hurt to get at least one yes prior.

Of course, remember to lead... no fucking around asking for compliance etc. If she's in a car order her to follow your car. Or maybe don't bring a car, so you can jump in hers and start giving her directions.

On the way talk about some light topics to keep her engaged & not overthinking stuff.

Kill it bro break a leg

cheers, Ray