now that #metoo has become a prominent thing in America society and is obviously going to have some lasting consequences how should we as men react to these new developments in dating, in the workplace, and society in general without losing our heads (and our jobs) in the process. Im very interested in hearing from outside voices on how they plan to go about while this movement rages on.
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Well we can't know for sure, but through societal patterns we can predict what might happen.
I think the movement, like most currents of societal change always has a reactive consequence for when one direction goes too far. The Aziz Ansari case, for example, sounded to me like the girl reverse-rationalized the scenario and felt compelled to bring her case to the surface for whatever reason (morally, social pressures, what have you). I do not think the dude was being rapey.
So what you have is women coming out about real life rape and exposing the weak men that committed the crimes, but because of the blurred lines, pump fakes, and deception that exist in the realm of sexual relationships, you have objective scenarios of non-rape being seen as rape (this is the consequence of the initial movement).
The reactive consequence to the initial movement, I predict, will be either less cases being reported that could be false positives, and/or smearing of the emerging accounts of date-rape/sexual assault of some kind. Both as a result of the perspective of false positives coming to the surface, such as with the Ansari case (which it seems most people speaking toward the issue are framing it as not rape, but not a great look to him).
When a movement is made, the immediate reaction can create a dichotomy and have people running away with ideas on both sides. But many are recognizing there's blurred lines in these scenarios, and that it's not a dichotomy. I don't think the movement will be "raging on" exactly, but that different perspectives of different cases will continue to emerge as it becomes more recognized nationally / globally.
EDIT: As far as what one should do to not get a false-rape accusation, I think it's important to make women feel as comfortable as possible with you before and after sex, so they don't reverse rationalize why they might have slept with you.
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I think the movement, like most currents of societal change always has a reactive consequence for when one direction goes too far. The Aziz Ansari case, for example, sounded to me like the girl reverse-rationalized the scenario and felt compelled to bring her case to the surface for whatever reason (morally, social pressures, what have you). I do not think the dude was being rapey.
So what you have is women coming out about real life rape and exposing the weak men that committed the crimes, but because of the blurred lines, pump fakes, and deception that exist in the realm of sexual relationships, you have objective scenarios of non-rape being seen as rape (this is the consequence of the initial movement).
The reactive consequence to the initial movement, I predict, will be either less cases being reported that could be false positives, and/or smearing of the emerging accounts of date-rape/sexual assault of some kind. Both as a result of the perspective of false positives coming to the surface, such as with the Ansari case (which it seems most people speaking toward the issue are framing it as not rape, but not a great look to him).
When a movement is made, the immediate reaction can create a dichotomy and have people running away with ideas on both sides. But many are recognizing there's blurred lines in these scenarios, and that it's not a dichotomy. I don't think the movement will be "raging on" exactly, but that different perspectives of different cases will continue to emerge as it becomes more recognized nationally / globally.
EDIT: As far as what one should do to not get a false-rape accusation, I think it's important to make women feel as comfortable as possible with you before and after sex, so they don't reverse rationalize why they might have slept with you.
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Another big part of avoiding that is pre-screening. That article on crazy girl warning signs pretty much covers it.
-NEVER go for neon anime haired girls. Avoid at all costs. They need therapy. Badly.
-Immediately walk away from any true believer feminists at the very first zealotous comment. (I was on a date with a girl at a bar who immediately freaked out and got pissed when I said "girls" instead of "women", then there was another who got pissed and accused a guy across the room of "manspreading". In both cases I immediately paid the bill and left.)
-This one seems harmless, but I always avoid girls with thick dark glasses. Wearing them once in a while at work or at home when they don't have their contacts is one thing, but when it's the default look of a woman under 40, they seem to always fall into the category of joyless feminist or bipolar. ALWAYS. It's practically the de facto uniform of true believers. The modern day Puritan capotain hat. Technology for light glasses building material is so good now that consciously choosing to wear the bulky old fashioned ones is now almost just as much of an anti-social statement as excessive piercing or tattoos are. Go look at the author bio pics on Jezebel and try to find any without those glasses.
Aziz Ansari is probably dorky in real life (most comedians are) and missed a ton of warning signs that would have saved him. I'd bet a ton of money that his accuser had the neon hair (or at least a tinge of it) and/or thick dark glasses. In fact I'd GUARANTEE it.
-NEVER go for neon anime haired girls. Avoid at all costs. They need therapy. Badly.
-Immediately walk away from any true believer feminists at the very first zealotous comment. (I was on a date with a girl at a bar who immediately freaked out and got pissed when I said "girls" instead of "women", then there was another who got pissed and accused a guy across the room of "manspreading". In both cases I immediately paid the bill and left.)
-This one seems harmless, but I always avoid girls with thick dark glasses. Wearing them once in a while at work or at home when they don't have their contacts is one thing, but when it's the default look of a woman under 40, they seem to always fall into the category of joyless feminist or bipolar. ALWAYS. It's practically the de facto uniform of true believers. The modern day Puritan capotain hat. Technology for light glasses building material is so good now that consciously choosing to wear the bulky old fashioned ones is now almost just as much of an anti-social statement as excessive piercing or tattoos are. Go look at the author bio pics on Jezebel and try to find any without those glasses.
Aziz Ansari is probably dorky in real life (most comedians are) and missed a ton of warning signs that would have saved him. I'd bet a ton of money that his accuser had the neon hair (or at least a tinge of it) and/or thick dark glasses. In fact I'd GUARANTEE it.
