Had 2 almost lays this weekend, and the reason for this I feel is my lack of escalation knowledge and logistics.
Night 1: ALOT of girls in the club on night #1, opened up a lot of girls but there was this group of 3 that were all my type. However, there was one HB9 in the group that I was really going for. Luckily my social proof at this spot is pretty high up, and I opened the group by saying 'the DJ wants to meet you'. I bought them into the DJ booth where they conversed with the DJ for a bit, but then I put all the attention on me. The one girl I was really interested in was very receptive to me which was great. The group went off for a bit and we lost each other but I got HB9's number before she left. About 30 minutes later she texts me asking where I am in the club. I don't reply to this but I find her on the upstairs level of the club about 30 minutes later (while I happened to be opening/dancing with another set of girls). This made her stick to me even more throughout the night. We danced for a bit and I got her a drink, then we had a makeout session for about 30 minutes back downstairs (where I originally met her). She was in town for her birthday, and was staying at a hotel. I on the other hand, took the train into town so I had nowhere to take this girl besides her hotel room.
Me: "we should head back to your room for a bit".
Her: "We can't I'm sharing it with my 2 friends, it's going to be awkward".
Me: "Your friends are here, we can head back now for a bit and it won't be so awkward."
Her: "Yeah but I can't leave my friends. You don't live close by?"
At this point I was trying to see if there was any hotels nearby within my budget, but there weren't any available last minute at a cheap rate. So I kept trying to get back to her hotel, or at least leave the club with her.
Me: "I don't unfortunately, but you're hotel isn't too far from here! I'll leave when your friends get there so it isn't so awkward!"
Her: "Yeah but I can't leave my friends here, they don't even know where I am right now!"
After this we moved near the exit of the club, and I was also losing my patience (horrible mistake) because my state changed from dominant to chasing her. I stepped outside for about 2 minutes for a smoke (I invited her but she didn't want to smoke) and when I stepped back in she was gone. I wasn't going to search for her because she most likely ditched me due to not liking the idea I was trying to get her back to her room. I text her the next day saying "you disappeared last night!", she was open to hanging again the next night, but once again "not at her hotel". I suggested we would take a ride and hang out at the pier or somewhere nice after partying. I personally knew this probably wouldn't happen, but I figured I may not see her again after the weekend since she isn't from the area. She responded "we'll talk later
" and I left it at that.
Night 2: With the other girl, we had already met and this was an older girl. I met her at a bar once, and we hung out at a different club about 2 weeks before where she wanted to fuck that night, but the logistics weren't right. She was 30, and I am much younger. Gaming her is a bit different then the 21 year old I met the previous night. I texted her and suggested we hang out later that night. She told me to meet her at a bar near her house, as she was there with some friends. Perfect I thought, we would have a few drinks and head back to her place right up the street. Drinks were on her the whole night, and her group of friends were pretty cool peeps. We were hanging out and enjoying ourselves. I was dancing and flirting with her the entire night. We were there about three hours (a long time IMO, but I couldn't break her from her friends and the music was pretty good). Her friend became intoxicated and she said "we have to go my friend is really drunk". Perfect I thought, we would drop her friend off and head to her place. I was wrong. When we headed out she said "I'll see you around, I have to take care of her". Whoa! Completely out of left field.
Me: "Should we all go together?"
Her: "No, she's really drunk. Just text me."
While this was happening, the HB9 from Night 1 texts me "what are you up to?" and it is around 2am at this point. I am nowhere near the girl from Night 1, and I also am once again, on foot. By the time I got to my car (which was parked at the train station), and went to pick her up, it would have taken me at least an hour or more.
TL;DR: 2 different nights, 2 different girls, one big lay failure. Mostly due to logistics and failed escalation. Anyone have any advice on how I can avoid this? Only thing I can think of is just having somewhere to go after the club each time I go out to avoid any mishaps. Or driving whenever I go out, which can become pricey where I'm at (NYC).
Night 1: ALOT of girls in the club on night #1, opened up a lot of girls but there was this group of 3 that were all my type. However, there was one HB9 in the group that I was really going for. Luckily my social proof at this spot is pretty high up, and I opened the group by saying 'the DJ wants to meet you'. I bought them into the DJ booth where they conversed with the DJ for a bit, but then I put all the attention on me. The one girl I was really interested in was very receptive to me which was great. The group went off for a bit and we lost each other but I got HB9's number before she left. About 30 minutes later she texts me asking where I am in the club. I don't reply to this but I find her on the upstairs level of the club about 30 minutes later (while I happened to be opening/dancing with another set of girls). This made her stick to me even more throughout the night. We danced for a bit and I got her a drink, then we had a makeout session for about 30 minutes back downstairs (where I originally met her). She was in town for her birthday, and was staying at a hotel. I on the other hand, took the train into town so I had nowhere to take this girl besides her hotel room.
Me: "we should head back to your room for a bit".
Her: "We can't I'm sharing it with my 2 friends, it's going to be awkward".
Me: "Your friends are here, we can head back now for a bit and it won't be so awkward."
Her: "Yeah but I can't leave my friends. You don't live close by?"
At this point I was trying to see if there was any hotels nearby within my budget, but there weren't any available last minute at a cheap rate. So I kept trying to get back to her hotel, or at least leave the club with her.
Me: "I don't unfortunately, but you're hotel isn't too far from here! I'll leave when your friends get there so it isn't so awkward!"
Her: "Yeah but I can't leave my friends here, they don't even know where I am right now!"
After this we moved near the exit of the club, and I was also losing my patience (horrible mistake) because my state changed from dominant to chasing her. I stepped outside for about 2 minutes for a smoke (I invited her but she didn't want to smoke) and when I stepped back in she was gone. I wasn't going to search for her because she most likely ditched me due to not liking the idea I was trying to get her back to her room. I text her the next day saying "you disappeared last night!", she was open to hanging again the next night, but once again "not at her hotel". I suggested we would take a ride and hang out at the pier or somewhere nice after partying. I personally knew this probably wouldn't happen, but I figured I may not see her again after the weekend since she isn't from the area. She responded "we'll talk later
" and I left it at that. Night 2: With the other girl, we had already met and this was an older girl. I met her at a bar once, and we hung out at a different club about 2 weeks before where she wanted to fuck that night, but the logistics weren't right. She was 30, and I am much younger. Gaming her is a bit different then the 21 year old I met the previous night. I texted her and suggested we hang out later that night. She told me to meet her at a bar near her house, as she was there with some friends. Perfect I thought, we would have a few drinks and head back to her place right up the street. Drinks were on her the whole night, and her group of friends were pretty cool peeps. We were hanging out and enjoying ourselves. I was dancing and flirting with her the entire night. We were there about three hours (a long time IMO, but I couldn't break her from her friends and the music was pretty good). Her friend became intoxicated and she said "we have to go my friend is really drunk". Perfect I thought, we would drop her friend off and head to her place. I was wrong. When we headed out she said "I'll see you around, I have to take care of her". Whoa! Completely out of left field.
Me: "Should we all go together?"
Her: "No, she's really drunk. Just text me."
While this was happening, the HB9 from Night 1 texts me "what are you up to?" and it is around 2am at this point. I am nowhere near the girl from Night 1, and I also am once again, on foot. By the time I got to my car (which was parked at the train station), and went to pick her up, it would have taken me at least an hour or more.
TL;DR: 2 different nights, 2 different girls, one big lay failure. Mostly due to logistics and failed escalation. Anyone have any advice on how I can avoid this? Only thing I can think of is just having somewhere to go after the club each time I go out to avoid any mishaps. Or driving whenever I go out, which can become pricey where I'm at (NYC).
