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Mindfulness can be defined as the mental state achieved by focussing your awareness on the present moment, while simply acknowledging and accepting your thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations. This is a common therapeutic technique to help people with mental illness, but anyone can benefit from it. 
The benefits of mindfulness include:
1. Being able to recognize, slow down and stop automatic and habitual reactions
2. Seeing situations more clearly
3. Responding more effectively to difficult situations
4. Helping you to become fully engaged in every day activities. You are rooted right in the present.
This can also benefit you on your journey with women as well. When you're new to pick up, you get caught up in a "Do this, don't do that mindset" when you approach a woman. That's not a bad thing, but it's not that effective because instead of being in the present moment with the girl, you are in your head thinking about what you have to do next. You will tell yourself the story of what is happening in your head, but it is better to remove yourself from that story and experience things for how they actually are. Let the actual situation guide you to what you have to do next.
I agree Franco, my initial post was rather vague. Has anyone heard of mindfulness or practiced it, and what were your experiences with it when it comes to women?
The benefits of mindfulness include:
1. Being able to recognize, slow down and stop automatic and habitual reactions
2. Seeing situations more clearly
3. Responding more effectively to difficult situations
4. Helping you to become fully engaged in every day activities. You are rooted right in the present.
This can also benefit you on your journey with women as well. When you're new to pick up, you get caught up in a "Do this, don't do that mindset" when you approach a woman. That's not a bad thing, but it's not that effective because instead of being in the present moment with the girl, you are in your head thinking about what you have to do next. You will tell yourself the story of what is happening in your head, but it is better to remove yourself from that story and experience things for how they actually are. Let the actual situation guide you to what you have to do next.
I agree Franco, my initial post was rather vague. Has anyone heard of mindfulness or practiced it, and what were your experiences with it when it comes to women?
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I think meditation is amazing for progressing in pickup and destroying limiting beliefs and being sharper in general.
No I think for the most part practicing being present to the moment as I'm going to phrase it is not something to be all too worried about.
I personally think the ideal mind state to enter is one of "flow".
You enter a flow state when you are completely immersed in an activity that you are engaging in to the point where you are extremely present to the moment. However this doesn't occur because you are focused on your breath or the silence between the words the girl is saying. No this comes from being fully engaged in the process of meeting and seducing women.
The book "Talen is Overrated" by Geoff Colvin talks about achieving this state which occurs when you engage right outside your comfort zone but not too far to the point of overly out of your comfort zone. You enter a state of "flow" or being present to the moment because your brain is engaging and trying hard to keep up with all the variables being thrown at it.
Too many variables and it shuts down and it's too much. Too little variables and you're stuck in your comfort zone operating on autopilot.
If you're really into meditation and living present to the moment I guess you could practice mindfulness with women but if your goal is to improve with women I recommend to enter a flow state and being present to the moment is a mere byproduct of your activity.
-Rob
No I think for the most part practicing being present to the moment as I'm going to phrase it is not something to be all too worried about.
I personally think the ideal mind state to enter is one of "flow".
You enter a flow state when you are completely immersed in an activity that you are engaging in to the point where you are extremely present to the moment. However this doesn't occur because you are focused on your breath or the silence between the words the girl is saying. No this comes from being fully engaged in the process of meeting and seducing women.
The book "Talen is Overrated" by Geoff Colvin talks about achieving this state which occurs when you engage right outside your comfort zone but not too far to the point of overly out of your comfort zone. You enter a state of "flow" or being present to the moment because your brain is engaging and trying hard to keep up with all the variables being thrown at it.
Too many variables and it shuts down and it's too much. Too little variables and you're stuck in your comfort zone operating on autopilot.
If you're really into meditation and living present to the moment I guess you could practice mindfulness with women but if your goal is to improve with women I recommend to enter a flow state and being present to the moment is a mere byproduct of your activity.
-Rob