Minimizing Kiss Rejection Observation

[James D]

Hey everyone!

Ever since Chase's article on minimizing rejections came out https://www.girlschase.com/article/tactics-tuesdays-6-ways-minimize-rejection-girls , I've been meaning to try the one on minimizig the kiss rejection.

It's done by asking her first and this example is provided in the article:

• “If I kissed you right now, how would you react?"

Given that I operate in a university and already had one failed escation go around (where I awkwardly tried to bring my lips to the girl's and she abruptly left, blocked me and told everyone), minimizing rejection is particularly helpful.

I gave the rejection minimization technique a try with one girl and here's what happened:

We arrived near a pond in the park (as per my date plan)

There, I transitioned into teaching her some basic tango moves. I had seeded my tango experience in the date so she was actually quite excited to learn.

I showed her how to make basic steps and how to make a cross.

I played some tango music and we tangoed for a while.

I would not say that the moment was perfect to kiss her. Meaning, there was no deep eye staring or anything like that.

But, the moment was not bad either. There was some eye contact so I decided to give it a try.

I told her "Tell me, if I kissed you right now, how would you react?"

Her reaction: nervous laugh, then says "I would say no, because my conservative Asian background would not allow me to do so"

I followed with the "just kidding + touch" and everything went back to normal.

Good thing is the rejection went unnoticed and she was not awkward at all after (as compared to other girls where the kiss failed)

 

[TheEcho]

Just out of a long relationship with a girl with a "conservative Asian background". It can slow things down at the start, but she's a human female regardless.

"Ah, I get you grew up surrounded by that. I definitely enjoy when a girl can let herself be in the moment, though." a la https://www.girlschase.com/content/tactics-tuesdays-how-use-barriers-make-girls-chase-you

Guess it's a good experiment, but there's a difference between emotional acceptance and logical response. I've definitely had a kiss attempt blow the connection to dust, but that's rarely what happens, so long as you just continue as you were. Had one girl dodge like 5 times (probably not worth persisting that long nowadays...), and then on the next try, dive into French kissing and stripping herself lol.

 

[James D]

Just out of a long relationship with a girl with a "conservative Asian background". It can slow things down at the start, but she's a human female regardless.

"Ah, I get you grew up surrounded by that. I definitely enjoy when a girl can let herself be in the moment, though." a la https://www.girlschase.com/content/tactics-tuesdays-how-use-barriers-make-girls-chase-you

Guess it's a good experiment, but there's a difference between emotional acceptance and logical response. I've definitely had a kiss attempt blow the connection to dust, but that's rarely what happens, so long as you just continue as you were. Had one girl dodge like 5 times (probably not worth persisting that long nowadays...), and then on the next try, dive into French kissing and stripping herself lol.

Thanks for your reply and linking the article on barries! Hadn't seen that one before!

 

[Zoro]

Using a kiss as a way to escalate in the early stages, isn't really a good strategy. You want her longing for your lips, and that comes from teasing her, caressing her, and doing it in an environment where it can lead to sex.

We arrived near a pond in the park (as per my date plan)

I would not say that the moment was perfect to kiss her. Meaning, there was no deep eye staring or anything like that.

This is not the right environment for that kind of escalation. Tango in the park, that's fine as a first date (my style, might steal this), yet you want to build that tension with deep eye staring and close proximity, in short bursts.

If you don't have a private place and it's not yet time to escalate to sex, then keep the touch "elegantly bold", a hand on the small of her back, a light hand squeeze with a wink, bring her close for a moment with eye contact, and fractionate these (meaning don't hold the tension this creates too long, let it build and drop, ebb and flow).

PS about the tango in the park

I think it's might be a bit too much unless you genuinely like that stuff, no need to go to those lengths unless you are really into tango and can keep it light hearted. It can be easy too look try hard unless you handle it well.

 

[HoofHearted]

Dancing probably isn't optimal imo but with girls you can do a lot of things suboptimally, even wrong, and still get... the outcome you're seeking, whatever that may be, some of you all don't even seem to know...

Public displays of affection are rough. If you want to kiss her, do it somewhere private. Make sure it makes sense in terms of the rest of the interaction, ie you were flirting.

Experienced guys know that kissing is a specific thing to do at maybe specific times. But not every guy is there yet. Maybe you just need to kiss and gain a little experience.

 

[TomInHo]

I'm honestly not a fan on minimizing kiss rejections at all.

This may seem odd but it's actually possible to fuck a girl without ever kissing her. So kissing is really just a step that you can use to arouse girls but not always necessary

It's better to focus on overall compliance and arousal

 

[Skills]

I told her "Tell me, if I kissed you right now, how would you react?"

Her reaction: nervous laugh, then says "I would say no, because my conservative Asian background would not allow me to do so"

I followed with the "just kidding + touch" and everything went back to normal.

Good thing is the rejection went unnoticed and she was not awkward at all after (as compared to other girls where the kiss failed)

^ as you witness for yourself, aka field tested verbalizing directly or indirecly kissing is beyond horrible..... (did not read the article so i don"t know if taken out of context)

To kiss is better with sexual tension and tease, let me give you some of the best ways:

1.- the i won't kiss you technique: , in other words you could have said look at me while dancing, don't worry I WONT KISS YOU, this will make her guard go down, " come close keeping the eye contact to build tension, as she is close say, now go back, do this 3 times each in getting closer and then brushing lips without kissing in the 3 rd time, the 4th time you will make out" i do this all the time super easy...

2.- triangular glazing: at a foot distance you will look at left eye, right eye them mouth, as you are getting closer to her face couple of times about 3 max then you kiss NONE VERBALLY......

3.- My shut the fuck kissing technique.- as you are building tension and the girl keeps yapping, you put your index finger in her mouth and say shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, remove finger then kiss.....

NEVER VERBALIZE KISSING EVER, other than technique 1, it will always be a no.... similar to idiots asking a girl at the club "you want to dance" never works, is automatic rejection.... or super low odds...

Finally please read and review this post, also look at the answers and read through them, and the link to glow post as well


sample of triangular glazing done correctly minute 6:41

 

[James D]

^ as you witness for yourself, aka field tested verbalizing directly or indirecly kissing is beyond horrible..... (did not read the article so i don"t know if taken out of context)

To kiss is better with sexual tension and tease, let me give you some of the best ways:

1.- the i won't kiss you technique: , in other words you could have said look at me while dancing, don't worry I WONT KISS YOU, this will make her guard go down, " come close keeping the eye contact to build tension, as she is close say, now go back, do this 3 times each in getting closer and then brushing lips without kissing in the 3 rd time, the 4th time you will make out" i do this all the time super easy...

2.- triangular glazing: at a foot distance you will look at left eye, right eye them mouth, as you are getting closer to her face couple of times about 3 max then you kiss NONE VERBALLY......

3.- My shut the fuck kissing technique.- as you are building tension and the girl keeps yapping, you put your index finger in her mouth and say shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, remove finger then kiss.....

NEVER VERBALIZE KISSING EVER, other than technique 1, it will always be a no.... similar to idiots asking a girl at the club "you want to dance" never works, is automatic rejection.... or super low odds...

Finally please read and review this post, also look at the answers and read through them, and the link to glow post as well


sample of triangular glazing done correctly minute 6:41

Thanks for the reply Skills!

I actually gave technique 1 a try after reading your reply right before meeting a girl and kissed her smoothly