FR+ Missed an easy layup? What was I supposed to do in this situation? (Nightgame)

[Beam]

So it's 3:30am, me and my mate are in a nightclub known for clients who love to do drugs. We're both done and ready to leave when this hot pierced and tatted up chick locks eyes with me. 10 seconds later we're in each others arms, then she tells me "come over here" and leads me to a couple of small cushion chairs. We both sit down. She asks me if I want her Negroni cause she's had enough. I chase frame, joking about her spiking the drink but accept it despite already being kind of drunk - she then asks me if I have MDMA but I don't.

After this things got weird, I'm sitting down and she's standing up but we're close. I don't remember exactly how we got onto the topic but at one point I start joking about slapping her as a punishment for something she said. She's getting into it motioning to her cheek and then says "I dare you to slap me right here" to which I respond "Yeah, I'm not getting kicked out thank you very much. I like this place". She's insistent and tells me that "it's ok, it's consentual". My body language is relaxed, leaning back, amused at the situation. When I refuse again she comes up in my arms, sticks her tongue out and slowly licks my mouth from bottom to top while giggling. This turned me on like crazy.

"Keep doing that and I will have to slap you. But we're going to have to do it somewhere a little more private". So my thinking is, I didn't want to give in to her demand, and wanted to put the idea of us being alone together in her mind. She's still insisting on me doing it here and I'm refusing. I'm being playful about it, saying "you've probably got five bouncers waiting in the shadows ready to pounce as soon as I do" . She licks/kisses me the same way a few more times giggling while this is happening. She also starts to straddle my left leg rubbing her pussy against it. At some point her friend comes into the situation and this chick pulls her in, licks her friends ear the same way and then explains the situation.

After a stalemate, she tells me "you had your chance" and walks away. I'm sitting there wondering what the fuck just happened. But I genuinely in the moment didn't know what to do. It all happened so fast, probably in the space of about 5 minutes. Should I have just taken the lead and taken her to the bathroom? It didn't seem like her buying temp was there yet, honestly it felt like she was messing with me a bit, testing my reaction. The straddles didn't feel like true horniness but more trying to get a reaction out of me. I was staying calm, grounded and non-reactive. It felt like giving in was the wrong move, it also felt like taking her to a bathroom quickly was too quick and also the wrong move (showing I was too easily won over). She might have also just been high as fuck. But genuinely curious about other peoples opinions on this situation.

 

[TomInHo]

"Keep doing that and I will have to slap you. But we're going to have to do it somewhere a little more private". So my thinking is, I didn't want to give in to her demand, and wanted to put the idea of us being alone together in her mind. She's still insisting on me doing it here and I'm refusing.

Well think about it. You tell her lets go somewhere a little more private, then she ups the ante and keeps escalating the vibe with you. Shouldn't have taken it at face value and instead took it as a sign that she's buying into what you said

You could have grabbed her hand and started walking somewhere ummm... more private

And if she asks you were you're going something simple like "you'll see" could have worked

Girl sounds DTF to me

 

[Chase]

@Beam,

Just beckon her close (so she has to comply with you first) and give her a light but firm slap on the cheek with a big smile on your face so anyone watching knows it's in good fun.

You've never slapped a girl during sex before? Just do it like that, but a bit less dramatic, plus a huge smile.

She just wanted to know if you could give her the kind of rough, dominant, physical sex she was looking for. A guy who's ballsy enough to be a little rough with her in public will be able to in the bedroom too.

The other way you could do it if you don't want to slap her cheek is to loop your fingers in her belt holes and drag her onto your lap, then bring her face really close to yours and tell her, "I'm not going to slap your face in public. But I'll do this," and then slap her really hard on the ass.

The main thing here was she needed a dominant, physical guy who'd take the lead with her.

It's not about "I have to get her isolated first"; it's about "before she's willing to go to the trouble of moving around and isolating with me she wants to know if it's going to be worth the work." So you show her it is, then you isolate/pull.

edit: on second thought, with a chick this drunk/on drugs, with tats and piercings, you really don't know the situation... she could be trying to set you up to get you banned as a power trip, etc. The less risky version is to have her give you her hand, then slap the back of her hand. Or tell her, "If you sit on my lap, I'll give you a light slap on the face. LIGHT. But then you need to keep sitting there and keep your arms around me," so she agrees to not go running off pulling some shit.

More to the point, don't threaten girls with stuff you aren't prepared to do. I'll threaten girls with getting spanked over stuff, but I am 100% willing to spank them ("Do that again and you're getting spanked." Well, most of the time, girls will do it again to see if you'll spank them. At that point, you must spank them!).

Chase

 

[Skills]

So it's 3:30am, me and my mate are in a nightclub known for clients who love to do drugs. We're both done and ready to leave when this hot pierced and tatted up chick locks eyes with me. 10 seconds later we're in each others arms, then she tells me "come over here" and leads me to a couple of small cushion chairs. We both sit down. She asks me if I want her Negroni cause she's had enough. I chase frame, joking about her spiking the drink but accept it despite already being kind of drunk - she then asks me if I have MDMA but I don't.

After this things got weird, I'm sitting down and she's standing up but we're close. I don't remember exactly how we got onto the topic but at one point I start joking about slapping her as a punishment for something she said. She's getting into it motioning to her cheek and then says "I dare you to slap me right here" to which I respond "Yeah, I'm not getting kicked out thank you very much. I like this place". She's insistent and tells me that "it's ok, it's consentual". My body language is relaxed, leaning back, amused at the situation. When I refuse again she comes up in my arms, sticks her tongue out and slowly licks my mouth from bottom to top while giggling. This turned me on like crazy.

"Keep doing that and I will have to slap you. But we're going to have to do it somewhere a little more private". So my thinking is, I didn't want to give in to her demand, and wanted to put the idea of us being alone together in her mind. She's still insisting on me doing it here and I'm refusing. I'm being playful about it, saying "you've probably got five bouncers waiting in the shadows ready to pounce as soon as I do" . She licks/kisses me the same way a few more times giggling while this is happening. She also starts to straddle my left leg rubbing her pussy against it. At some point her friend comes into the situation and this chick pulls her in, licks her friends ear the same way and then explains the situation.

After a stalemate, she tells me "you had your chance" and walks away. I'm sitting there wondering what the fuck just happened. But I genuinely in the moment didn't know what to do. It all happened so fast, probably in the space of about 5 minutes. Should I have just taken the lead and taken her to the bathroom? It didn't seem like her buying temp was there yet, honestly it felt like she was messing with me a bit, testing my reaction. The straddles didn't feel like true horniness but more trying to get a reaction out of me. I was staying calm, grounded and non-reactive. It felt like giving in was the wrong move, it also felt like taking her to a bathroom quickly was too quick and also the wrong move (showing I was too easily won over). She might have also just been high as fuck. But genuinely curious about other peoples opinions on this situation.

well beam in your defense she was on drugs/alcohol those girls are "wildcards" a pain in the ass to work with, but she seems like a wild girl, sex in the bathroom is tricky, i don't know if you saw my sex in the bathroom dynamics video.... so i don't know if the bathrooms there meet the criteria... Anyways, you did make one mistake of not displaying physical dominance though you did it verbally, the move i do is not the slap, but what i do is i am wishpering in her ear i discreetly do a simple gentle pull of the hair while AT SAME TIME i DO 1 shoke simultaneusly and release... Actually with some girls i do this in dance floor too... , never done the slap other than the ass, as you were right too risky, so i would have probably done that move and said "i said not here, you don't want to get daddy angry do you" ...... so all you need to show her is that you are into dom/kink is what she was looking for, many ways to do it, no necesarely has to be following her orders, you can flip and the command/ordering with the "daddy said no blah blah in kink language or you don't want to make daddy angry follow by some subtle dom move like the one i use will do.... get it, importance is not the physical move but the display of dom..... then see if you can move her around a bit for compliance to see if she wants to go with you out of the venue.... Or it could be she was in the moment looking for validation attention whoring move just like the quick make out.... You would know better since you were there...

 

[Beam]

Well think about it. You tell her lets go somewhere a little more private, then she ups the ante and keeps escalating the vibe with you. Shouldn't have taken it at face value and instead took it as a sign that she's buying into what you said

You could have grabbed her hand and started walking somewhere ummm... more private

And if she asks you were you're going something simple like "you'll see" could have worked

Girl sounds DTF to me

Interesting take. I did think about this but didn't have the balls to just do it since I thought she wasn't there yet. I've had a lot of moments like that this year though and then I never end up seeing the girls again, so just having this decisive leadership and being a bit more selfish/doing what I want to do will help me a lot.

 

[Beam]

@Beam,

Just beckon her close (so she has to comply with you first) and give her a light but firm slap on the cheek with a big smile on your face so anyone watching knows it's in good fun.

You've never slapped a girl during sex before? Just do it like that, but a bit less dramatic, plus a huge smile.

Actually I haven't. I've choked, pulled their hair and even spat on girls before but I don't think I've ever slapped a girl on the face during sex. Only ass. On the bucket list.

She just wanted to know if you could give her the kind of rough, dominant, physical sex she was looking for. A guy who's ballsy enough to be a little rough with her in public will be able to in the bedroom too.

The other way you could do it if you don't want to slap her cheek is to loop your fingers in her belt holes and drag her onto your lap, then bring her face really close to yours and tell her, "I'm not going to slap your face in public. But I'll do this," and then slap her really hard on the ass.

The main thing here was she needed a dominant, physical guy who'd take the lead with her.

It's not about "I have to get her isolated first"; it's about "before she's willing to go to the trouble of moving around and isolating with me she wants to know if it's going to be worth the work." So you show her it is, then you isolate/pull.

I like it. I think that's a common reason why I'm failing in nightgame most of the time, I'm not showing these girls a rough dominant side of me (that I know is there) and so they're probably making assumptions that I'm not going to be able to give her what she wants.

edit: on second thought, with a chick this drunk/on drugs, with tats and piercings, you really don't know the situation... she could be trying to set you up to get you banned as a power trip, etc. The less risky version is to have her give you her hand, then slap the back of her hand. Or tell her, "If you sit on my lap, I'll give you a light slap on the face. LIGHT. But then you need to keep sitting there and keep your arms around me," so she agrees to not go running off pulling some shit.

It didn't seem this way, she seemed cordial, especially since she gave me her drink. But will keep this in mind in future.

More to the point, don't threaten girls with stuff you aren't prepared to do. I'll threaten girls with getting spanked over stuff, but I am 100% willing to spank them ("Do that again and you're getting spanked." Well, most of the time, girls will do it again to see if you'll spank them. At that point, you must spank them!).

Noted. Thanks Chase.

 

[Beam]

well beam in your defense she was on drugs/alcohol those girls are "wildcards" a pain in the ass to work with, but she seems like a wild girl, sex in the bathroom is tricky, i don't know if you saw my sex in the bathroom dynamics video.... so i don't know if the bathrooms there meet the criteria... Anyways, you did make one mistake of not displaying physical dominance though you did it verbally, the move i do is not the slap, but what i do is i am wishpering in her ear i discreetly do a simple gentle pull of the hair while AT SAME TIME i DO 1 shoke simultaneusly and release... Actually with some girls i do this in dance floor too... , never done the slap other than the ass, as you were right too risky, so i would have probably done that move and said "i said not here, you don't want to get daddy angry do you" ...... so all you need to show her is that you are into dom/kink is what she was looking for, many ways to do it, no necesarely has to be following her orders, you can flip and the command/ordering with the "daddy said no blah blah in kink language or you don't want to make daddy angry follow by some subtle dom move like the one i use will do.... get it, importance is not the physical move but the display of dom..... then see if you can move her around a bit for compliance to see if she wants to go with you out of the venue.... Or it could be she was in the moment looking for validation attention whoring move just like the quick make out.... You would know better since you were there...

Yeah chicks who do drugs/alcohol may be a pain in the ass but fuck are they tantalizing (mainly for the wild sex). I haven't seen that video but will look at the video. Noted on the rest. Common theme with Chase's answer. Making sure she knows I am into dom and can give her what she wants.

 

[Will_V]

Good answers already, I would not have slapped as she seems like possible trouble. But what you should have done is take control and lead things, this was the main problem. As soon as she starts to take control you have to take it back otherwise it becomes a weird 'game' with you in the passive role, with no conclusion.

If she was really just mucking about she would not comply when you start leading, and you would save yourself time & energy.

 

[Skills]

Yeah chicks who do drugs/alcohol may be a pain in the ass but fuck are they tantalizing (mainly for the wild sex). I haven't seen that video but will look at the video. Noted on the rest. Common theme with Chase's answer. Making sure she knows I am into dom and can give her what she wants.

yeah do that cause bathroom sex is tricky, clarification i do the slap in the face in the beedroom, not in public for obvious reason but it the beedroom women like that, do you like the way daddy is fucking you?? if she says "yes" slap "boom" "no yes, yes daddy" .....the love it...