Hi guys this is my first post here,
So I've been seeing this girl lately, we know each other for a month now and I've seen her 6 times. She got out of a bad relationship so she wanted to move slow, I've been cool about it and put on a "we'll see where this goes" attitude. It worked because she invited me over to her place to have "special brownies". They hit me a lot stronger than I anticipated so my brain was not working and I think this made me miss an escalation window (thank you Chase for making me able to perceive this, the fact I see this proves to me I've really learned some things).
She asked me what I was doing the day after and was generally okay with me standing really close to her and touching her. She asked what I was doing the day after that and I made her laugh really hard a couple of times. She changed clothes while I was there and I just stared at her like an idiot promping her to say that "a true gentleman would've known to look away" and asking me what made me think "she was that kind of girl". I should've outframed her and said something along the lines of "A true lady wouldn't just start undressing like that", but my stupid brain only thought of this 2 hours later.
Last night before I went to bed I texted her that I was sorry I was a bit distant and it was because I was stressed out (I shouldn't have apologized according to the article on escalation windows). This morning she texted me she didn't notice and last night was really funny and asked me if I enjoyed myself. What should I text her back? Should I cut down on texting for a couple of days (it would be consisted with the fact that I told her I'm really busy lately)?
Do you think I can still turn this around? I might be able to persuade her to come to a party with me friday, a lot of my friends (probably also some female ones) are going to be there. How should I act? Should I invite her over to my place afterwards?
Thanks in advance,
Mr. Slowpoke
So I've been seeing this girl lately, we know each other for a month now and I've seen her 6 times. She got out of a bad relationship so she wanted to move slow, I've been cool about it and put on a "we'll see where this goes" attitude. It worked because she invited me over to her place to have "special brownies". They hit me a lot stronger than I anticipated so my brain was not working and I think this made me miss an escalation window (thank you Chase for making me able to perceive this, the fact I see this proves to me I've really learned some things).
She asked me what I was doing the day after and was generally okay with me standing really close to her and touching her. She asked what I was doing the day after that and I made her laugh really hard a couple of times. She changed clothes while I was there and I just stared at her like an idiot promping her to say that "a true gentleman would've known to look away" and asking me what made me think "she was that kind of girl". I should've outframed her and said something along the lines of "A true lady wouldn't just start undressing like that", but my stupid brain only thought of this 2 hours later.
Last night before I went to bed I texted her that I was sorry I was a bit distant and it was because I was stressed out (I shouldn't have apologized according to the article on escalation windows). This morning she texted me she didn't notice and last night was really funny and asked me if I enjoyed myself. What should I text her back? Should I cut down on texting for a couple of days (it would be consisted with the fact that I told her I'm really busy lately)?
Do you think I can still turn this around? I might be able to persuade her to come to a party with me friday, a lot of my friends (probably also some female ones) are going to be there. How should I act? Should I invite her over to my place afterwards?
Thanks in advance,
Mr. Slowpoke
