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Went on a date with a local girl from a pupular dating app - here in China.
Opened in the morning, got back to her that night with an invitation.
She was very excited and curious about meeting a foreigner for the first time.
First, I had to frame things hard because she was saying she was always busy and so on. . .
Met at an underground shopping mall.
I wanted to take her to a very casual place but seeing she had dressed up - we went to a better place I had told her about before but still no big deal.
All along her body language was submissive with the typical "Oh, I'm being seduced, what am I going to do? I'm so shy!" coy smile.
She hurried ahead to pay for me - probably concerned that she has a job and I don't - but I insisted we go Dutch.
First mistake: should have let her invest.
After the dinner she kept inquiring about how much time I had left. . .
I should have probably known it was on, here, immediately, as whatever is that we were going to do after dinner was a big question mark at that point.
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We went for a stroll within the mall (quite small).
At points, when the conversation died, I just gave her flirty sustained eye contact.
To which she became even more excited; smiling and giggling. . . again, in a very coy and submissive way.
Hair twiddling was through the roof; she just couldn't stop. I pointed it out in a dominant but flirty way.
. . .soon found ourselves facing the door leading outside.
She stopped and said, again, something vague like "is that. . . outside?".
This was the moment of my undoing here.
Because, the only escalation plan I had in mind was to have her take me to her place (she was very resistant of me getting anywhere near her house - with relatives as neighbours - before and after) I just led her on to some other part of the mall instead.
After all, the mall was new to her but she already knew the area outside. . . Duh!
The flirting games and hair twiddling went on but I felt that part of the her excitement died after this.
I can even say I sensed a pang of disappointment somewhere.
Towards the end, I made some game of come on let's see if you can keep eye contact without gliggling - but this caused her to stop and cover her face with her hands as she couldn't control herself. I caressed her back a bit but she shook it off lightly; after all, it was a very bright place full of people seeing at us; I could have probably even gotten away with removing her hands from her face and kissing had the venue been the right one.
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After that, we kept in touch for a bit - but as i didn't contact her that often (I suddenly had no plan) she also started logging in less and less frequently - putting all these days of radio silence in the middle.
During the date I had told her she looked better in person so she updated her profile pictures.
This caused a local guy to comment on her social media board and I was put off as she was entertaining a local chubby guy whose only other pic was this view of an expensive office/appartment - they were discussing marriage pressure and she telling him she wanted to get married ASAP.
But here's the thing. . . during the date, unemployed, exotic, her paying for my meal - I was ready to go as lover material.
Her search for a husband was something parallel. . . and things got messed up and confused only because I did not take her "for a walk" outside the mall.
I got back to her some days later, tried to invite myself to her apartment. Failed.
She went back to complimenting my language skills.
That's a very bad (non-sexual) frame that popped up after the date. . .
Today, I asked if she was free these days.
Her reply was something like "These days I'm busy with dates everyday"
No more cute smileys for me anymore. . .
No more asking how I'm doing, either. . .
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What was outside the mall?
Outside the mall there's a park.
Some meters further away there's like three different love-motels to choose from. . .
At least I have some new logistics in mind from now on. . .
Opened in the morning, got back to her that night with an invitation.
She was very excited and curious about meeting a foreigner for the first time.
First, I had to frame things hard because she was saying she was always busy and so on. . .
Met at an underground shopping mall.
I wanted to take her to a very casual place but seeing she had dressed up - we went to a better place I had told her about before but still no big deal.
All along her body language was submissive with the typical "Oh, I'm being seduced, what am I going to do? I'm so shy!" coy smile.
She hurried ahead to pay for me - probably concerned that she has a job and I don't - but I insisted we go Dutch.
First mistake: should have let her invest.
After the dinner she kept inquiring about how much time I had left. . .
I should have probably known it was on, here, immediately, as whatever is that we were going to do after dinner was a big question mark at that point.
__
We went for a stroll within the mall (quite small).
At points, when the conversation died, I just gave her flirty sustained eye contact.
To which she became even more excited; smiling and giggling. . . again, in a very coy and submissive way.
Hair twiddling was through the roof; she just couldn't stop. I pointed it out in a dominant but flirty way.
. . .soon found ourselves facing the door leading outside.
She stopped and said, again, something vague like "is that. . . outside?".
This was the moment of my undoing here.
Because, the only escalation plan I had in mind was to have her take me to her place (she was very resistant of me getting anywhere near her house - with relatives as neighbours - before and after) I just led her on to some other part of the mall instead.
After all, the mall was new to her but she already knew the area outside. . . Duh!
The flirting games and hair twiddling went on but I felt that part of the her excitement died after this.
I can even say I sensed a pang of disappointment somewhere.
Towards the end, I made some game of come on let's see if you can keep eye contact without gliggling - but this caused her to stop and cover her face with her hands as she couldn't control herself. I caressed her back a bit but she shook it off lightly; after all, it was a very bright place full of people seeing at us; I could have probably even gotten away with removing her hands from her face and kissing had the venue been the right one.
________________________________
After that, we kept in touch for a bit - but as i didn't contact her that often (I suddenly had no plan) she also started logging in less and less frequently - putting all these days of radio silence in the middle.
During the date I had told her she looked better in person so she updated her profile pictures.
This caused a local guy to comment on her social media board and I was put off as she was entertaining a local chubby guy whose only other pic was this view of an expensive office/appartment - they were discussing marriage pressure and she telling him she wanted to get married ASAP.
But here's the thing. . . during the date, unemployed, exotic, her paying for my meal - I was ready to go as lover material.
Her search for a husband was something parallel. . . and things got messed up and confused only because I did not take her "for a walk" outside the mall.
I got back to her some days later, tried to invite myself to her apartment. Failed.
She went back to complimenting my language skills.
That's a very bad (non-sexual) frame that popped up after the date. . .
Today, I asked if she was free these days.
Her reply was something like "These days I'm busy with dates everyday"
No more cute smileys for me anymore. . .
No more asking how I'm doing, either. . .
___________________________________________
What was outside the mall?
Outside the mall there's a park.
Some meters further away there's like three different love-motels to choose from. . .
At least I have some new logistics in mind from now on. . .
