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[Hey, it's been a long time since I've posted a report or anything on the boards. I used to post field reports more often when I first started trying to actively get better but i got lazy and stopped posting. Well time to change and start posting more regularly. And so to start us of is this night out where LMR gets the better of me. Enjoy and leave your thoughts.]
Just to tell you a little about myself, I'm 19 and a student at university 2nd year. I started getting serious about getting good with girls at around 16 but because i went to a boys school and definitely wasn't with the cool kids i found it very hard to meet up with girls and get comfortable with them. So I actually started improving my skill set with women at the start of University in 2014. It's been around a year and a half now and i'm can say with confidence I've come a long, long way. So this report is more of an introduction to me and my game as well as just a field report
So before i head out to the club i pre-drink with my friends. I much prefer going to a flat party or even just a bar or pub for pre-drinks because you're meeting new people and building social momentum. Plus you can always grab a cheeky number for a later date. But for economical reasons it was just pres with the boys.
I'm not a fan of getting overly drunk at clubs or bars anymore. It just screws with my judgment when with girls and drunk me is definitely not a sexy me. Plus i only need a few drinks just to get a little buzzed and feel a little looser but i've been out sober and alone and that's just as good, sometimes better.
So I arrive at the club at 1:30 AM. It's a little late I know but you don't need to spend 3 hours in a club to have a good time or pick up women. I'm dressed well, wearing dark blue skinny jeans, a dark green and blue checkered shirt with the sleeves rolled up, black Chelsea boots and to make myself stand out that extra mile; a black low cut waistcoat/vest. Needless to say this outfit get's me a lot of attention.
Once in the club I like to get a drink straight away, because you get to see whose actually there without standing aimlessly and awkwardly in the club, plus you never know who you'll meet at the bar. I make my way to the bar in a chiller area of the club that is more a bar/pub style (compared to the loud dark nightclub area). At the bar there is a cutie with a banging body, let's call her Lana.
Now as for my approaches I usually am quite an opportunistic approacher. If she's near I always find a way to strike up a natural conversation smoothly. My openers are really contextual so i don't have a standard canned approach to share, they range from a simple hi to something like playfully mimicking her body language across the room and then motioning her over.
Anyway i can't remember what exactly i said to her but once we had our drinks in hand I motioned her to follow me away from the bar. We continued to chat. She had a a guy friend with her but it was clear that they weren't together. Now standing and talking are good but one thing i've learnt over time is that moving girls around the venue and sitting with them is much better. I notice that there are some empty seats at the sofas and in spirit of moving things forward I tell the pair of them to grab a seat with me. Lana seats next to me without any prompting and the guy sit's opposite her with a girl he presumably knows beforehand (maybe they were together, either way that makes my job of getting to know Lana easier).
I start deep diving about her course and what she does and why she does it? She asks about me and I tell her enough to go on but not so much that i'm talking her ear. After a little getting to know each she offers to play pool. I agree as there is a pool bar on the floor above us. Her guy friend joins us. I use this time to diffuse some tension that i created earlier. I start talking to both Lana and the guy. Its a short game because the pool bar is closing soon but it ends me winning (I have a pool table back home and used to play a lot of it back home but they didn't know that haha
We leave the bar to go for a smoke. The guy friend girl friend joins us and we discuss an after party. Lana and I are keen for one and she seem's to arrange it. She say's that if not we can always go back to her flat and drink some wine. Brilliant i think. So I tell her we'll head to hers first and if any parties pop up we'll go there.
We get to the taxi rank and take one to hers. It's only a 5-10 minute drive and we arrive there. It seems that she is the only one in the flat at the time. We drink some wine and talk a little more. Now here's where i run into problems. During our interaction in the club i didn't use a lot of touch. So going from no touching to grabbing her may have been too big of a jump (i learnt that lesson on a previous date with another girl). Instead I tell we'll watch a film and wait. We put the film on and lie next to each other. I take this as an opportunity to start escalating. At first my hand is on her side. I then start moving hand around her body, side, stomach, legs and glide over her bum. She begins breathing heavier.
After a little teasing with my hand i start kissing her neck and cheek and then pull her face towards me and then kiss her lips. The escalation continues as i unbutton her jeans and move my hand down into her panties. She offers up no resistance but when i try to pull her body to face mine (where in spooning position) she says that's drunk. It doesn't sound like a no but because the escalation wasn't fully mutual (despite the fact that i know she was enjoying it) i stop in fear of taking advantage.
We end up just sleeping together. In the morning i stayed there for a bit and we watch a little TV as she cuddled into me but then I decided to leave. I couldn't find a way to start escalating again plus i didn't want to overstay. I grab her number and leave. And that's that.
So my questions are:
1. Should i have continued and taken that as token resistance or plausible deniability?
2. Should I have tried again in the morning?
3. Should I text her for a date or something (although i know the rule, failed escalation is pretty much a seduction killer)?
Just to tell you a little about myself, I'm 19 and a student at university 2nd year. I started getting serious about getting good with girls at around 16 but because i went to a boys school and definitely wasn't with the cool kids i found it very hard to meet up with girls and get comfortable with them. So I actually started improving my skill set with women at the start of University in 2014. It's been around a year and a half now and i'm can say with confidence I've come a long, long way. So this report is more of an introduction to me and my game as well as just a field report
So before i head out to the club i pre-drink with my friends. I much prefer going to a flat party or even just a bar or pub for pre-drinks because you're meeting new people and building social momentum. Plus you can always grab a cheeky number for a later date. But for economical reasons it was just pres with the boys.
I'm not a fan of getting overly drunk at clubs or bars anymore. It just screws with my judgment when with girls and drunk me is definitely not a sexy me. Plus i only need a few drinks just to get a little buzzed and feel a little looser but i've been out sober and alone and that's just as good, sometimes better.
So I arrive at the club at 1:30 AM. It's a little late I know but you don't need to spend 3 hours in a club to have a good time or pick up women. I'm dressed well, wearing dark blue skinny jeans, a dark green and blue checkered shirt with the sleeves rolled up, black Chelsea boots and to make myself stand out that extra mile; a black low cut waistcoat/vest. Needless to say this outfit get's me a lot of attention.
Once in the club I like to get a drink straight away, because you get to see whose actually there without standing aimlessly and awkwardly in the club, plus you never know who you'll meet at the bar. I make my way to the bar in a chiller area of the club that is more a bar/pub style (compared to the loud dark nightclub area). At the bar there is a cutie with a banging body, let's call her Lana.
Now as for my approaches I usually am quite an opportunistic approacher. If she's near I always find a way to strike up a natural conversation smoothly. My openers are really contextual so i don't have a standard canned approach to share, they range from a simple hi to something like playfully mimicking her body language across the room and then motioning her over.
Anyway i can't remember what exactly i said to her but once we had our drinks in hand I motioned her to follow me away from the bar. We continued to chat. She had a a guy friend with her but it was clear that they weren't together. Now standing and talking are good but one thing i've learnt over time is that moving girls around the venue and sitting with them is much better. I notice that there are some empty seats at the sofas and in spirit of moving things forward I tell the pair of them to grab a seat with me. Lana seats next to me without any prompting and the guy sit's opposite her with a girl he presumably knows beforehand (maybe they were together, either way that makes my job of getting to know Lana easier).
I start deep diving about her course and what she does and why she does it? She asks about me and I tell her enough to go on but not so much that i'm talking her ear. After a little getting to know each she offers to play pool. I agree as there is a pool bar on the floor above us. Her guy friend joins us. I use this time to diffuse some tension that i created earlier. I start talking to both Lana and the guy. Its a short game because the pool bar is closing soon but it ends me winning (I have a pool table back home and used to play a lot of it back home but they didn't know that haha
We leave the bar to go for a smoke. The guy friend girl friend joins us and we discuss an after party. Lana and I are keen for one and she seem's to arrange it. She say's that if not we can always go back to her flat and drink some wine. Brilliant i think. So I tell her we'll head to hers first and if any parties pop up we'll go there.
We get to the taxi rank and take one to hers. It's only a 5-10 minute drive and we arrive there. It seems that she is the only one in the flat at the time. We drink some wine and talk a little more. Now here's where i run into problems. During our interaction in the club i didn't use a lot of touch. So going from no touching to grabbing her may have been too big of a jump (i learnt that lesson on a previous date with another girl). Instead I tell we'll watch a film and wait. We put the film on and lie next to each other. I take this as an opportunity to start escalating. At first my hand is on her side. I then start moving hand around her body, side, stomach, legs and glide over her bum. She begins breathing heavier.
After a little teasing with my hand i start kissing her neck and cheek and then pull her face towards me and then kiss her lips. The escalation continues as i unbutton her jeans and move my hand down into her panties. She offers up no resistance but when i try to pull her body to face mine (where in spooning position) she says that's drunk. It doesn't sound like a no but because the escalation wasn't fully mutual (despite the fact that i know she was enjoying it) i stop in fear of taking advantage.
We end up just sleeping together. In the morning i stayed there for a bit and we watch a little TV as she cuddled into me but then I decided to leave. I couldn't find a way to start escalating again plus i didn't want to overstay. I grab her number and leave. And that's that.
So my questions are:
1. Should i have continued and taken that as token resistance or plausible deniability?
2. Should I have tried again in the morning?
3. Should I text her for a date or something (although i know the rule, failed escalation is pretty much a seduction killer)?
