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Hi guys!
I'm new to the forum as a result of finding the blog just recently. I'm 21 years old and have no experience with women. I've been on one date and have kissed one girl (separate occasions). I'm not ashamed of that, I'm just ready move forward and live life differently. Until now, I have been a victim of "oneitis" and the blog has revealed that I clearly need a mindset change. I totally get that, and have started on the "Newbie Assignment".
I did however want to ask about an encounter I had with a girl recently. I've become friends with her over the past few months as a result of being in numerous classes with her. We've hung out a few times and I've gradually become more attracted to her. Recently, I invited her to my apartment to hang out. A little while in, I looked at her, moved closer, she didn't back away, and I kissed her. It was fairly brief and she didn't resist or pull away at all. Afterwards, she looked very nervous and a little shocked. She got VERY quiet and asked me why I did that. I said that I try to live as if I were going to die tomorrow. She smiled and said she was really glad I did that. Still very quiet, she kind of stammered out "I...think...just friends...I'm sorry...." Her tone was very nervous, not confident, and not convincing. In addition, she moved closer to me as she said it. I'd never kissed a girl before, so I instinctively listened and backed off. After that, she didn't even get up to leave. She sat there for a minute or so looking at me. I couldn't take it any more, so I got up. As I led her out, she said "bye" and smiled at me. If she really wants to be friends, that's fine, and I'll move on; however, because her body language and tone were so contradictory to what she was saying, I was left a little confused.
I hadn't really read the blog much before this happened, so I get that this is not the way to do things. Understand that I'm not totally focused on her and have started trying to meet more women. I'm a little curious, though. Maybe someone out there with more experience can see something I can't.
Cheers,
John
I'm new to the forum as a result of finding the blog just recently. I'm 21 years old and have no experience with women. I've been on one date and have kissed one girl (separate occasions). I'm not ashamed of that, I'm just ready move forward and live life differently. Until now, I have been a victim of "oneitis" and the blog has revealed that I clearly need a mindset change. I totally get that, and have started on the "Newbie Assignment".
I did however want to ask about an encounter I had with a girl recently. I've become friends with her over the past few months as a result of being in numerous classes with her. We've hung out a few times and I've gradually become more attracted to her. Recently, I invited her to my apartment to hang out. A little while in, I looked at her, moved closer, she didn't back away, and I kissed her. It was fairly brief and she didn't resist or pull away at all. Afterwards, she looked very nervous and a little shocked. She got VERY quiet and asked me why I did that. I said that I try to live as if I were going to die tomorrow. She smiled and said she was really glad I did that. Still very quiet, she kind of stammered out "I...think...just friends...I'm sorry...." Her tone was very nervous, not confident, and not convincing. In addition, she moved closer to me as she said it. I'd never kissed a girl before, so I instinctively listened and backed off. After that, she didn't even get up to leave. She sat there for a minute or so looking at me. I couldn't take it any more, so I got up. As I led her out, she said "bye" and smiled at me. If she really wants to be friends, that's fine, and I'll move on; however, because her body language and tone were so contradictory to what she was saying, I was left a little confused.
I hadn't really read the blog much before this happened, so I get that this is not the way to do things. Understand that I'm not totally focused on her and have started trying to meet more women. I'm a little curious, though. Maybe someone out there with more experience can see something I can't.
Cheers,
John
but there's also things like last minute resistance, falling into boyfriend zone and yada yada. Will eat you up, it will take some time. 