Mixed signals. Help

[Bdman]

Hey everyone.

So I've been seeing this new girl for a while and I need some advice from the experts. So basically this girl just got out of a relationship and has told me she doesn't want one at the moment or if she even wants one. Now this would be okay but this is where the curve ball comes in. I've met this girls family and she's been intimate with me and even though she hates PDA she will gladly kiss me in front of her friends. She invites me out to go on dates and will come over quite often. She'll ask for my advice and do little things for me like a back rub when my back is sore. So I'm confused. Does this girl want a relationship or no?

 

[ray_zorse]

Actions speak louder than words. She could be testing you or trying to screen you in some way or another. Completely disregard the crap that comes out of her mouth (this is a good strategy for all girls since they are emotionally-driven and will usually just do what their emotions dictate and then make up some bullshit logical-sounding reason after the fact, they're not aware of doing this so they'll then believe in the bullshit utterly)... and if she treats you like a boyfriend and you're okay with that, keep doing what you were doing before. Don't suddenly hit her up with a "let's be bf/gf" talk since that's a very weak beginning to a relationship in any case. If she's hinting she only wants casual hookup then you should be jumping for joy, since it's the best possible scenario -- you get to get laid with her semi-regularly, and also date others.
Ray

 

[Bdman]

Okay basically what you're saying is keep doing what I'm doing. Being a dominant man and taking charge. Playfully flirting but not chasing her. And if she brings up being bf/gf then if I want that cool. One final thing I went to a club with her and guys came over and asked her to dance and said no and kissed me. Does this mean she is interested in me completely or was if a ploy to get rid of the guys.

 

[Drck]

"She will gladly kiss me in front of her friends. She invites me out to go on dates and will come over quite often. She'll ask for my advice and do little things for me like a back rub when my back is sore"

1. Always Assume Attraction. Yes, she is attracted, she is kissing you, inviting you out for dates and so on

2. Trust yourself. Yes, she wants you because you are a great guy.

3. Don't hesitate too long. You have clear signs that she is interested, the signs will not become more clearer - she will not spell it out for you, it is already spelled. There is nothing mixed, the signals are clear. You have to move forward with this girl or you will lose her. If you don't do anything she will think that you are not interested, and she will look for a guy that is...

4. YOU DO NOT HAVE TIME. Time is running out, if you want this girl YOU have to act, YOU have to move things forward (she will not do it)...