More dominant = weaker ego (and bigger AA) ?

[lux7]

For the first time I'm making a conscious effort to have a long lasting improvement of my (bad) posture.

And as I force myself to sit taller and to walk straight and slow while thinking of myself as more in control... I also find myself more unlikely to looking around for possible interesting women (or also any other interesting stuff for that matter).

1. The fact that I try to move slow makes me feel a bit in a cage compared to my previous agile self that had no qualms in turning around and/or changing road to run after someone;

2. Paradoxically, thinking of myself as more dominant compared to my former playful and "the devil may care" approach, also gives me a weird feeling about approaching as a rejection would dent that air of dominance I'm making.


Does that make any sense to you and/or have you experiences anything similar?

 

[LucidityComeBackToMe]

You are probably just going through a transitory phase and your mind will come up with reasons to resist the change.

I am also working on my posture since it has been bad most of my life, although I noticed that lifting weights helped correct it a bit. At this point I find it easier to have good posture while I am walking versus having good posture while sitting. I really need to fix my seated posture because I have noticed that my eye level is always lower than the woman's (even if she is like 5'3"!)

There are advantages like you say to having bad posture. I typically walked looking at the ground, so it would be impossible for me to ever trip over anything or fall into a manhole accidentally. I used to think why would I want to look up straight and ahead all the time, I never trip over anything! Also when I walk fast I feel like I am saving time and getting to my car, office, home, whatever much quicker than I would if I was walking slow.

Putting the positives aside, viewing candid pictures of myself that someone may have taken where I see how bad my posture is made me want to change it. Nothing like hearing a recording of your own voice or seeing your body language photographed in a moment in time. This can be quite powerful and will make you feel insecure and think "that is how I look like around others?!!" No wonder why women don't like me.

 

[Zoro]

When you start out doing this it certainly feels that way. I know I have had similar thoughts.

The thing is the more you do it, the more you understand how to incorporate fluidity into your motions while still moving slowly with good posture.
If you feel rigid try your best to relax your muscles while also keeping them in this new posture. Soon you will strengthen them and learn more little tweaks.

You also want to practice using your peripherals, you can see so much with them and this grows with practice. However, It is definitely okay to look around, just know the difference between squirrel and lion movements. (jittery,quick vs slow, powerful)

A practice I like doing is focusing on the body within your clothes and move the way it wants to move. At times you can be encumbered or self-concious by what you wear. Wear the clothes, don't let them wear you

I agree with Lucidity that working out/exercising helps your posture along with lots of other benefits.
Also what he says about getting to where you are going faster. I'd like to see you walk next to me and compare our speeds. After practicing moving slow you will notice you can do things to speed yourself up and still appear to move slow, almost gliding.

Those things are
- lengthening your stride. Keep in mind this (viewtopic.php?f=4&t=3490&p=15580#p15580) When you want to walk faster lengthening your stride can increase you speed quite a bit.
-pushing off on your feet using your ankle muscles.
-shoulders movements

On denting your dominance with rejection... Well you will see it can dent you. The dominant part is being able to pop that dent out with a smile and move on. Being able to deal with rejection does some great things for your confidence. You will see it really isn't a big deal at all. A dominant man goes after what he wants while also being detached from it. If things go well, great. If they go sour, he's okay too.

 

[lux7]

Yes, could be a transitionary period, however I really do wonder if the "slow" part is good and befitting me.

I'm small and slim, I'm not gonna be "too dominant" anyway, might as well be more playful.

This dating coach doesn't look slow and dominant, he talks way fast and unsexy and overreacts all the times:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MZpzFDzRvPw

 

[Zoro]

I'd say stick with it a while longer.

You should know I am slim as well, 5'9 and 120 pounds.

If you'd like to be playful, do so, in fact playfulness is attractive. Though you can certainly be playful and dominant.

On Justin Wayne, I have heard some disheartening things about him you may want to be aware of...
http://aaronsleazy.blogspot.com/2012/08 ... beans.html
Who knows the creditability, just something to note.

Now you're on to something though... These "rules" are merely guidelines to help you along.
Here's a video demonstrating how they can be broken.
http://www.rapidescalation.com/awkward-mumble-video/

Note that this guy also has his other fundamentals down and is experienced and I believe that inevitably comes through his vibe, even when he tries to "mess it up."

 

[lux7]

Slow and dominant body language: bad for someone?

I'd say stick with it a while longer.

You should know I am slim as well, 5'9 and 120 pounds.

If you'd like to be playful, do so, in fact playfulness is attractive. Though you can certainly be playful and dominant.

On Justin Wayne, I have heard some disheartening things about him you may want to be aware of...
http://aaronsleazy.blogspot.com/2012/08 ... beans.html
Who knows the creditability, just something to note.

Now you're on to something though... These "rules" are merely guidelines to help you along.
Here's a video demonstrating how they can be broken.
http://www.rapidescalation.com/awkward-mumble-video/

Note that this guy also has his other fundamentals down and is experienced and I believe that inevitably comes through his vibe, even when he tries to "mess it up."

OK, Justin there could also be a fake, it was an example of someone reaching success without really talking slow, moving slow or "keeping his alpha male cool".
And there are other similar example too, either on the web or people I (and possibly you) know.

And my main question was: would anyone improve by getting slower, walking with spread legs and arching his arms or do you need a befitting personality/body to make sense?
Maybe there's some modularity in it: it's good but only for a smaller extent for some guys.
I'm not yet sure...

 

[Supah]

I think that everyone can have a sexy dominant walk.

The reason you dont feel comfortable trying to do this is because you are not used to doing it and you have always been walking like you used to.
But the women that see you walking they only care about how you walk at the moment and that is how sexy you walk.

Just try to improve, in the beginning it will always feel unnatural, but you will get used to it eventually.