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More thoughts on missing out on sex in your younger days and the "in crowd".

Indian Race Troll (IRT)

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If these kinds of threads are becoming too much Chase, please lock and I'll avoid this topic in the future.

Life has been busier than ever for me lately but every now and then, I get a chance to think about it. Sure most of you know my story of not being one of the cool kids in college and how badly it bothered me. But when I really think about it, what bothered me was something else too. It was the fact that society, media and western culture puts so much emphasis on young love, sex and relationships in your younger years. Sex is supposed to be cool and hip in high school and college, everyone is supposedly hot and it is the thing you need to be doing.

Watch any movie or just observe the perception around high school and college sex. Young hot girl, cool guy and then they fuck. It has that sort of high status and hip vibe attached to it that sex in your thirties or even in your twenties out of college does not.

Because high school and college are days of the popularity games, it isn't just that you fucked a hot girl, it is that you made her friends a bit jealous wanting to have you now and were a part of an all exclusive group other guys on campus wish they could be a part of. Now that in itself was what makes sex in your younger days so special, the branding behind it as well as the fact that you have an audience.

Think about sex during high school, not only sex, but dating in high school. You had the excitement of sneaking around your parents house, having your parents see you with a girl and get somewhat involved in the sense of observing you two together, having mutual friends through that environment and having a lot of people naturally get involved in your relationship whether it was a guy friend fist bumping you for hitting it or her friend wanting a piece of you now.

Long post, so to recap.

1. Society puts a cool image on sex and relationships when you are younger.

2. What made it special is that you had an audience in those days whether it was parents, her friends, classmates and the list goes on.

About the "in crowd".

The problem is that in high school and college, you had to observe the "in crowd" and deal with the fact that someone was above you. There was a small environment and a tight rigid social hierarchy you had to be a part of whether you wanted to or not. You couldn't ignore the rich frat guy who was born with a golden spoon in his mouth which led to him having a better college experience, you had to observe it. Same with high school, you could not ignore the rich guy with lenient parents who based his entire life around social status while you might have had shitty parents that made your life hell.

Then the other part is, there was this affect of "we are unattainable" attached to it all.

Our crowd has the hottest girls, yours does not.

Hot girls come sucking on our dicks, not yours.

Hot girls want us, not you.

Then in the real world, you have to act how "grown ups" act and for those of us who hit our stride later in life, that shit hurts. Why can't we have our redemption now? Why can't we have that same situation? And that was my pain.

Why is it now that I have made something out of my life, worked my way out of hell itself that we have to be "grown ups" and act nice. Why do the game have to end now that guys who have actually made something out of themselves have opportunities? Why is it that some trust fund trash or spoiled kid who had an easy start to life got to enjoy it but why can't a guy who made something out of nothing have that same privilege now in adulthood?

Because in high school and to a degree even college, whether you like it or not, you were a victim to your shitty parents while the other kid was a beneficiary of lenient parents who let him do whatever.

But, what if there truly is a road to glory? A second act? And maybe we just got lied to? What is the game goes on?

And that is where we get somewhere, because you can only cry about the past for so long before realizing something must be done.

I mean there is always celebrity level fame but even in our social media age, something beautiful has been done.

Marriage, stability, "family life" and "growing up" have been rightfully ruined to create an opportunity for the late bloomer to have his fun.

Maybe social media fame of dating randoms and having the world be your audience is the way to go.

Maybe we are in a time where college is not the end of it all.

Maybe we are long overdue for a movie on how fun your 20s can be.

And maybe, just maybe, I have some tricks up my sleeve that I will post about later.
 
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Flynn

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My 20s are all but over now (I'm 28, soon to be 29).

If it wasn't for having sex with prostitutes since I was 25 then I'd still be a virgin.

But I wish I'd not waited around for "the girlfriend" everyone told me I would get and instead started using prostitutes from the age of 18.

Because when I look back over my youth, I have no memories of female intimacy at all.

I kinda get what you are saying about the social game of your teenage years and early 20s but I really wasn't too interested in that.

All I wanted was to get my dick wet in a tight warm young 18 year old pussy.

I could have cared less about trying to make ppl jealous or any of that.

I think this article is somewhat relevant as well

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/stories-43956366
 
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