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Noticed this lady dressed in business clothing boarding my bus earlier in the week. Lots of makeup, but a cute face. Let's call her Julia.
Yesterday she sat in the seat in front. I violated the 3-second rule, but finally opened, complimenting Julia's elegant attire. She took to it warmly and showed interest in speaking to me. She was sitting on the outside seat. When she got up to let the guy sitting next to her get out, I motioned her to sit next to me. Julia obliged. After some chit-chat, I asked her out, agreeing on Saturday. We exchanged phone numbers and then she got off.
I didn't text her deliberately because I figured I'd see her on the bus again. This morning, I was overthinking how it would be when she got on ..... I was sitting in approximately the same seat and the seat next to me was again empty. When Julia got on the bus, I called her name and said hi. I was hoping that would cause her to come towards me. But she didn't and instead sat at a seat closer to the driver.
This bummed me out. I sat there a bit dazed until the seat next to her became unoccupied. Not really wanting to at all (felt like I was attracting attention to myself), I forced myself to get up and sit next to her. Funny enough, she was distracted on her phone and I could actually see a brief expression of surprise / fear in her eyes as I said hi (she was not expecting me and I came somewhat suddenly).
What followed then was my attempt to continue to chit-chat, and her not investing anything at all. I decided to take the "bored look" approach and just stayed silent. When she didn't invest in the conversation, my attraction for her actually started to decrease......
I stayed silent for the rest of the ride. She got off without saying anything. Weird!
I know it's impossible to diagnose exactly what had happened.... there is always randomness.
The interaction put me off-kilter and I even realize that I've devoted way too much mental energy to this event than it deserves. But now I'm just curious to hear what the community's take is...
Thinking about this again, it seems that she basically just gave the number liberally without actually intending to carry through.
Also, I'm wondering whether this was a case of me giving up too early..... although it doesn't seem like I could have said something without looking like I was trying to hard to speak a convo. I asked what she does in her spare time, and what I got back was "I like to sleep", which was a big turn-off for me... Then again, when a convo is flowing with energy, one rarely asks "what do you like to do in your spare time". So perhaps I can't blame her for her answer..
Yesterday she sat in the seat in front. I violated the 3-second rule, but finally opened, complimenting Julia's elegant attire. She took to it warmly and showed interest in speaking to me. She was sitting on the outside seat. When she got up to let the guy sitting next to her get out, I motioned her to sit next to me. Julia obliged. After some chit-chat, I asked her out, agreeing on Saturday. We exchanged phone numbers and then she got off.
I didn't text her deliberately because I figured I'd see her on the bus again. This morning, I was overthinking how it would be when she got on ..... I was sitting in approximately the same seat and the seat next to me was again empty. When Julia got on the bus, I called her name and said hi. I was hoping that would cause her to come towards me. But she didn't and instead sat at a seat closer to the driver.
This bummed me out. I sat there a bit dazed until the seat next to her became unoccupied. Not really wanting to at all (felt like I was attracting attention to myself), I forced myself to get up and sit next to her. Funny enough, she was distracted on her phone and I could actually see a brief expression of surprise / fear in her eyes as I said hi (she was not expecting me and I came somewhat suddenly).
What followed then was my attempt to continue to chit-chat, and her not investing anything at all. I decided to take the "bored look" approach and just stayed silent. When she didn't invest in the conversation, my attraction for her actually started to decrease......
I stayed silent for the rest of the ride. She got off without saying anything. Weird!
I know it's impossible to diagnose exactly what had happened.... there is always randomness.
The interaction put me off-kilter and I even realize that I've devoted way too much mental energy to this event than it deserves. But now I'm just curious to hear what the community's take is...
Thinking about this again, it seems that she basically just gave the number liberally without actually intending to carry through.
Also, I'm wondering whether this was a case of me giving up too early..... although it doesn't seem like I could have said something without looking like I was trying to hard to speak a convo. I asked what she does in her spare time, and what I got back was "I like to sleep", which was a big turn-off for me... Then again, when a convo is flowing with energy, one rarely asks "what do you like to do in your spare time". So perhaps I can't blame her for her answer..
