Calls & Texts Moved too slow? Set up dates too far in advance?

[Skjöldr]

Hello
So i went on a one week holiday and i had a feeling that it would mess up my dating/momentum/etc i had been getting the 2 weeks prior.

So i got some numbers last week, tuesday through friday, and i texted them during Sunday/Monday. I ofc send an icebreaker text, and i even asked some out for the few short days i had before heading off, with no result. When i texted Sunday/Monday they all went ghost when i asked them out for next weekend. I said "Hey (name), i'll be back from holiday on Thursday, what's your schedule like Fri-Sun?"

This smoking hot HB9:
Me: "I'll be back on Saturday, are you doing anything saturday evening?"
Her: "no nothing (smiley)"
Me: It could be super chill if we went to xxx beach and got a coffee/ice cream! I can pick you up 18.30?

*Crickets*
That date would be 8 days from getting number and planning it 6 days in advance. Is this bad?

Feel like you gotta make shit happen fast with women from cold approach. My experience tells me the no contact gurus are BS. Yes it works... In cases like a break up with a girlfriend because she had tons of investment and rapport with you, but some girl you chit chatted with on the street for 5 minutes ain't gonna give a fuck if you vanish or not no matter how attractive you are because there's barely any rapport/investment?

Cheers

 

[Skills]

That far away in advance ot lowers the odds you informally pitch it and set a follow up close to the date, or casually pitch it to get a feel and then you keep the contact. I pitch one informally for Friday yesterday, but I already messed around and she is very invested, and we text all the time. 1 to 2 days advance ideal, 3 days and up flake zone usually

 

[Skjöldr]

That far away in advance ot lowers the odds you informally pitch it and set a follow up close to the date, or casually pitch it to get a feel and then you keep the contact. I pitch one informally for Friday yesterday, but I already messed around and she is very invested, and we text all the time. 1 to 2 days advance ideal, 3 days and up flake zone usually

Then if you meet girl Friday but can't see her before next friday and forwards, do you just message her about other things until the middle of the week and then ask her out? How do you keep the busy frame/abundance if you are able to set up dates 1-2 days ahead?

 

[Skills]

Then if you meet girl Friday but can't see her before next friday and forwards, do you just message her about other things until the middle of the week and then ask her out? How do you keep the busy frame/abundance if you are able to set up dates 1-2 days ahead?

Yes, but you could run the problem of fucking it up in text if you are new at it.