Me: ~30 Asian, dressed smart casually for the start of summer
Her: Late 20s Asian, dressed smart/stylish
Venue: A park with a lot of benches setup in a circular fashion, with a street performer with a beat-up grand piano in the center. His gimmick is that he invites audience members to lie underneath the piano to experience the sound/vibrations.
Meet: I spotted her by herself listening to the performance, with an empty seat next to her. I walked by with my phone and sat right down, pretending to be pre-occupied with something important and just needing a place to sit. After a few seconds, I put my phone away and asked her some question about the performer. She gave me a lukewarm reply. I continued occasionally asking her new questions and making small banter while we both enjoyed the music. She was smiling a bit, and giving me short replies, and asking me one or two questions in return. So not quite hooked, but not dismissive either.
After the performer finished his song, he stood up on top of his piano to address the crowd and explain himself, and tried to get someone new to lie underneath the piano. He turned to us, and said to the girl "hey, you've been here awhile... you two seem like the most beautiful people here, why don't you guys come up here?" And I looked at her, and smiled and gave her a suggestive look/head gesture for us to go. And so we went and lay underneath a grand piano together listening to the performance. It was at this point lying next to her that I introduced myself and exchanged names, and started using some touch and escalating the vibe a bit. It was kind of magical.
After the performance, we got up, and went to the donation box. She was on her phone for a good 2-3 minutes, and I played around with my wallet for a bit to get some cash to donate. I didn't expect her to be on her phone for so long, so it was a bit awkward at this moment. I asked her if she wants to listen to more, she said "maybe one more song, then I have to go". So we went back to the bench, and listened to another song while making more small talk. At some point I said to her "so, apparently you're the most beautiful person here....", which made her laugh, I wanted to subtly ensure that she knows I think she's attractive.
After the next song, she said "okay, I'm going to head out now". And I said "hey, would you like to grab a bite to eat?" She said "noo, sorry I need to head home to grade papers". I countered "well, at least take my number". She rejected "Ah no, I'm sorry, I just got out of a long term relationship and I'm not dating right now". And I countered "Oh? Me too, that's perfect!". And she rejected again "Nooo, that's so unhealthy... I have to go. It was nice meeting you ______ *shakes hand*"
I was honestly quite surprised she wouldn't even take my number, considering she's single, just out of a relationship, and we just had a sort of magical fateful meet happen to us.
Mistakes:
1) Asking her for food/number after she already declared her intention to leave. I should have asked in the middle of our conversation, at a higher point in the interaction. When I did ask, it was definitely me chasing her. I'm usually better about asking for a number/instant date earlier in the interaction, but I messed it up this time (though usually the girl is still willing to exchange numbers at the end anyway). Won't make this mistake again.
2) The perfect time to ask her to grab a bite to eat would have been right after the piano performance, when we were awkwardly standing around the donation box. I think this moment when I was just hovering around her, without saying much, was probably what sinked her attraction for me.
Anyway, quite a fun interaction for me. Sometimes randomness works in your favor. And I learned some lessons.
Curious if you guys have any additional analysis here.
What do you guys think of her "I just got out of a long term relationship, not looking to date now" response? My immediate reaction is that it's a polite rejection. If I just got out of a relationship and some charming person propositioned me, I would be happy to explore the option at least. So I guess I wasn't smooth enough.
Her: Late 20s Asian, dressed smart/stylish
Venue: A park with a lot of benches setup in a circular fashion, with a street performer with a beat-up grand piano in the center. His gimmick is that he invites audience members to lie underneath the piano to experience the sound/vibrations.
Meet: I spotted her by herself listening to the performance, with an empty seat next to her. I walked by with my phone and sat right down, pretending to be pre-occupied with something important and just needing a place to sit. After a few seconds, I put my phone away and asked her some question about the performer. She gave me a lukewarm reply. I continued occasionally asking her new questions and making small banter while we both enjoyed the music. She was smiling a bit, and giving me short replies, and asking me one or two questions in return. So not quite hooked, but not dismissive either.
After the performer finished his song, he stood up on top of his piano to address the crowd and explain himself, and tried to get someone new to lie underneath the piano. He turned to us, and said to the girl "hey, you've been here awhile... you two seem like the most beautiful people here, why don't you guys come up here?" And I looked at her, and smiled and gave her a suggestive look/head gesture for us to go. And so we went and lay underneath a grand piano together listening to the performance. It was at this point lying next to her that I introduced myself and exchanged names, and started using some touch and escalating the vibe a bit. It was kind of magical.
After the performance, we got up, and went to the donation box. She was on her phone for a good 2-3 minutes, and I played around with my wallet for a bit to get some cash to donate. I didn't expect her to be on her phone for so long, so it was a bit awkward at this moment. I asked her if she wants to listen to more, she said "maybe one more song, then I have to go". So we went back to the bench, and listened to another song while making more small talk. At some point I said to her "so, apparently you're the most beautiful person here....", which made her laugh, I wanted to subtly ensure that she knows I think she's attractive.
After the next song, she said "okay, I'm going to head out now". And I said "hey, would you like to grab a bite to eat?" She said "noo, sorry I need to head home to grade papers". I countered "well, at least take my number". She rejected "Ah no, I'm sorry, I just got out of a long term relationship and I'm not dating right now". And I countered "Oh? Me too, that's perfect!". And she rejected again "Nooo, that's so unhealthy... I have to go. It was nice meeting you ______ *shakes hand*"
I was honestly quite surprised she wouldn't even take my number, considering she's single, just out of a relationship, and we just had a sort of magical fateful meet happen to us.
Mistakes:
1) Asking her for food/number after she already declared her intention to leave. I should have asked in the middle of our conversation, at a higher point in the interaction. When I did ask, it was definitely me chasing her. I'm usually better about asking for a number/instant date earlier in the interaction, but I messed it up this time (though usually the girl is still willing to exchange numbers at the end anyway). Won't make this mistake again.
2) The perfect time to ask her to grab a bite to eat would have been right after the piano performance, when we were awkwardly standing around the donation box. I think this moment when I was just hovering around her, without saying much, was probably what sinked her attraction for me.
Anyway, quite a fun interaction for me. Sometimes randomness works in your favor. And I learned some lessons.
Curious if you guys have any additional analysis here.
What do you guys think of her "I just got out of a long term relationship, not looking to date now" response? My immediate reaction is that it's a polite rejection. If I just got out of a relationship and some charming person propositioned me, I would be happy to explore the option at least. So I guess I wasn't smooth enough.
