Moving Fast in Social Circle vs Pickup

[NewBeeWinner]

Hey guys,

One of the things I feel leading to slight desparation looking behavior on my part is the idea of moving fast enough. Sometimes it seems like Im not moving fast ejough, other times it feels too fast - so Im trying to calibrate better and quench this worry of mine.

So I thought of the two situations I find myself in: social circle and pickup. In my mind, pickup you want to aim for first date sex, but you have slightly longer attraction periods in social circle where you are more likely to see the other person on a consistent basis. Of course, Im assuming you should still aim for first date sex, it just isnt as detrimental if you dont?

What do you guys find to be a good "moving fast" speed in these two situations?

Till the next one ~

NBW

 

[Fuck This]

So with social circle, you generally know more about each other before the date. You have spent time together to some degree. So there should be more comfort. That is if it is 1st degree. People you know.
2nd degree social circle is friends of friends. Lots of times you meet these people at a party, or out at a bar because you have a friend in common. These you can treat a little more like a quick move/SNL prospect. The novelty and excitement is there.

A 1st degree Social circle hookup is going to require both parties to agree if the intimate aspect is going to be public or on the downlow. Both people have to be on the same wavelength. Especially if you will be around each other again in the future. A first "Date" might be a little more intimate, Like at your place for dinner, although a late night "come over" could theoretically work if there is adequate flirting and sexual tension built up.